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Title: Asked by a stranger about genitalia
Post by: ElioAyla on January 02, 2015, 07:41:45 PM
Post by: ElioAyla on January 02, 2015, 07:41:45 PM
"It means transgender, genderqueer, non binary gender. Like both, but neither."
"So you're a transsexual? That means you're a guy who wants to become a girl, right? Do you have a penis?"
.......just gonna go with, "Yep!"
Sometimes it seems like it's not even worth my time trying to explain this stuff to people....maybe I just need to get back to a big city.
My soul crushing loneliness and despair would probably feel better around some people who understand what I even am at all and don't just ask me out of the blue if I have a penis. I wonder what she would have said if I asked if she had breasts? Would that be fine to say? But I would never ask a casual acquaintance about their genitalia, seems rather awkward and weird. Not really my business, ya know. Guess it's better than getting to know someone and finding out weeks later that they only wanted to ask about my penis all along. I'm already scary and intimidating enough, so I hardly got angry about it (another of my faults - I'm terribly "go with the flow" to the point of getting ->-bleeped-<-ed over) and it just seems a waste of time to even bother.
And I don't even have any booze tonight....ugh
"So you're a transsexual? That means you're a guy who wants to become a girl, right? Do you have a penis?"
.......just gonna go with, "Yep!"
Sometimes it seems like it's not even worth my time trying to explain this stuff to people....maybe I just need to get back to a big city.
My soul crushing loneliness and despair would probably feel better around some people who understand what I even am at all and don't just ask me out of the blue if I have a penis. I wonder what she would have said if I asked if she had breasts? Would that be fine to say? But I would never ask a casual acquaintance about their genitalia, seems rather awkward and weird. Not really my business, ya know. Guess it's better than getting to know someone and finding out weeks later that they only wanted to ask about my penis all along. I'm already scary and intimidating enough, so I hardly got angry about it (another of my faults - I'm terribly "go with the flow" to the point of getting ->-bleeped-<-ed over) and it just seems a waste of time to even bother.
And I don't even have any booze tonight....ugh
Title: Re: Asked by a stranger about genitalia
Post by: Beth Andrea on January 02, 2015, 07:45:44 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on January 02, 2015, 07:45:44 PM
I almost always answer with, "I'm not comfortable talking about my genitals", so far everyone's taken the hint.
For some reason, "genitals" is one of those words (like "moist") that sounds dirty, but isn't...
For some reason, "genitals" is one of those words (like "moist") that sounds dirty, but isn't...
Title: Re: Asked by a stranger about genitalia
Post by: suzifrommd on January 03, 2015, 06:10:43 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on January 03, 2015, 06:10:43 AM
People can be thoughtless.
I do answer questions about my genitals, but only after subjecting the questioner to a lecture about how most people would prefer their privacy and how it really is an intrusive question.
"Don't you think that's a rather intrusive question?" puts it back on them, putting them on the spot instead of you.
Hugs, ElioAyla. I'm sorry to hear that you're in such a bad place. If it helps, remember that you don't ever need to explain yourself to anyone. Decent people will accept you as the beautiful human being you are, and other folk don't matter.
I do answer questions about my genitals, but only after subjecting the questioner to a lecture about how most people would prefer their privacy and how it really is an intrusive question.
"Don't you think that's a rather intrusive question?" puts it back on them, putting them on the spot instead of you.
Hugs, ElioAyla. I'm sorry to hear that you're in such a bad place. If it helps, remember that you don't ever need to explain yourself to anyone. Decent people will accept you as the beautiful human being you are, and other folk don't matter.
Title: Re: Asked by a stranger about genitalia
Post by: Ms Grace on January 03, 2015, 06:35:25 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on January 03, 2015, 06:35:25 AM
"Please describe your genitals to me first, please"...see if they're interested in continuing the conversation then.
Title: Re: Asked by a stranger about genitalia
Post by: Beverly on January 03, 2015, 06:58:39 AM
Post by: Beverly on January 03, 2015, 06:58:39 AM
I find a simple "I'm sorry but that is personal and none of your business" usually gets a instant apology
Title: Re: Asked by a stranger about genitalia
Post by: makipu on January 05, 2015, 01:51:07 PM
Post by: makipu on January 05, 2015, 01:51:07 PM
I would honestly answer like:
The reason genitals are called 'private parts' is because they're private; as in not your business.
The reason genitals are called 'private parts' is because they're private; as in not your business.