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Title: Disagreement
Post by: Randommaturetransgirl on January 08, 2015, 02:55:14 PM
Post by: Randommaturetransgirl on January 08, 2015, 02:55:14 PM
I came out to my mum and she is supportive but she thinks i am confused because i have never acted girly and would feel uncomfortable in girls clothing but that isnt true so i might just wait for us to see the therapist.
Title: Re: Disagreement
Post by: Susan on January 08, 2015, 03:06:26 PM
Post by: Susan on January 08, 2015, 03:06:26 PM
Tell her that you would welcome the opportunity to talk to a counselor.
Title: Re: Disagreement
Post by: Ms Grace on January 08, 2015, 03:18:16 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on January 08, 2015, 03:18:16 PM
...and the opportunity to wear girls clothes!
It's weird how parents contextualise their memory of their children's behaviour. When I first tried transition many years ago I was about 23 when I told my mother and she certainly laid the "you've never been that way" line in me. When I decided to transition this time and told her she said "yes, you have always been that way"...??!
It's weird how parents contextualise their memory of their children's behaviour. When I first tried transition many years ago I was about 23 when I told my mother and she certainly laid the "you've never been that way" line in me. When I decided to transition this time and told her she said "yes, you have always been that way"...??!
Title: Re: Disagreement
Post by: stephaniec on January 08, 2015, 03:27:52 PM
Post by: stephaniec on January 08, 2015, 03:27:52 PM
Quote from: Ms Grace on January 08, 2015, 03:18:16 PMmakes sense
...and the opportunity to wear girls clothes!
It's weird how parents contextualise their memory of their children's behaviour. When I first tried transition many years ago I was about 23 when I told my mother and she certainly laid the "you've never been that way" line in me. When I decided to transition this time and told her she said "yes, you have always been that way"...??!
Title: Re: Disagreement
Post by: suzifrommd on January 08, 2015, 03:44:49 PM
Post by: suzifrommd on January 08, 2015, 03:44:49 PM
Wouldn't hurt to try to educate your mom. "Not all transgender people act girly" is a truth that few people know (even among our own ranks). If you challenge her assumptions often enough (calmly and without emotional charge), she may be motivated to do some of her own research.
Title: Re: Disagreement
Post by: ChiGirl on January 08, 2015, 04:40:39 PM
Post by: ChiGirl on January 08, 2015, 04:40:39 PM
I'm not very girly but I'm Trans! I think if I had been a GG I would have been a bit of a tomboy. But only a bit. I still wanted to be Wonder Woman!
Title: Re: Disagreement
Post by: Rudy King on January 09, 2015, 10:42:54 AM
Post by: Rudy King on January 09, 2015, 10:42:54 AM
FYI: I'm IS.
Aw stereotypes, got to love them. I've known GG's who have never acted "girly". Personally I've acted kinda girly most of my life, but I was kinda oblivious. Besides, I'm more of a tomboy.
Anyways, just tell your mom that not everyone who comes out as trans, has acted "girly". Besides, how would she know if you would be uncomfortable in girls clothes. Boys clothes are so, blah.
Best of luck!
Aw stereotypes, got to love them. I've known GG's who have never acted "girly". Personally I've acted kinda girly most of my life, but I was kinda oblivious. Besides, I'm more of a tomboy.
Anyways, just tell your mom that not everyone who comes out as trans, has acted "girly". Besides, how would she know if you would be uncomfortable in girls clothes. Boys clothes are so, blah.
Best of luck!