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Title: Socially awkward with cis guys...
Post by: Tyler on January 12, 2015, 10:57:49 PM
Post by: Tyler on January 12, 2015, 10:57:49 PM
I identify as an Ftm... but I am really socially awkward around other guys. I do feel like a boy trapped in a girl's body, but I have always been better friends with girls than with boys. I do have some cis guy friends, but I don't get along with them as well as I do my girl friends.
anyways...
As an Ftm, would it be awkward if I hung out with girls (If I transitioned)? Is it socially acceptable? Do you think it's weird or a rare case when an Ftm prefers hanging out with girls over boys?
Thank You!
-Alex
anyways...
As an Ftm, would it be awkward if I hung out with girls (If I transitioned)? Is it socially acceptable? Do you think it's weird or a rare case when an Ftm prefers hanging out with girls over boys?
Thank You!
-Alex
Title: Re: Socially awkward with cis guys...
Post by: Draco on January 13, 2015, 01:31:14 PM
Post by: Draco on January 13, 2015, 01:31:14 PM
I personally don't think it's weird, but I dunno about "rare" though. I used to hang out with boys a lot when I was younger, but they all moved away and now I seem to befriend cis girls more than anything. I haven't come out yet to them, but I know two of them don't mind at all. I don't tend to hang out much with cis boys now because (at least the ones around here) are all the sporty type and I'm more of the reading, geek type. The couple cis guys friends I have hang around because of common interests (gaming, art).
So really I think it comes down to whom you deal better with. If you want to hang out with girls, go right ahead! I don't know why that wouldn't be socially acceptable.
So really I think it comes down to whom you deal better with. If you want to hang out with girls, go right ahead! I don't know why that wouldn't be socially acceptable.
Title: Re: Socially awkward with cis guys...
Post by: Myshonok on January 13, 2015, 07:14:25 PM
Post by: Myshonok on January 13, 2015, 07:14:25 PM
I feel the same way around cis guys. I'm totally fine with other afabs, cis or not, but cis guys are just..... no-go. I can't talk to them to save my life. Very few of my close friends are cis to begin with, but an even smaller percentage of them are cis guys. It's not weird or rare at all, I think.
Title: Re: Socially awkward with cis guys...
Post by: lionheart on January 31, 2015, 01:23:40 PM
Post by: lionheart on January 31, 2015, 01:23:40 PM
I think it's completely normal. I feel the same way, I just can't seem to relate to cis guys the same way I do with girls. But I don't think anyone will really care if you have more girl friends than guy friends, it's not really uncommon and I wouldn't worry about it.
Title: Re: Socially awkward with cis guys...
Post by: Mackan on January 31, 2015, 02:47:52 PM
Post by: Mackan on January 31, 2015, 02:47:52 PM
When I was early in transition I use to feel awkward around cis guys but now I don't anymore, I feel like just a "normal" dude around them. I think that early on I was alot more jealous of them and that made me feel uncomfortable around them and now i don't anymore. Today I have more cis guy friends than cis women friends, I don't have a problem with hanging out with girls but I don't like to hang out with a group of cis women anymore, mainly because it bores me ,I don't say all women just talk about certain topics but alot of my women friends tend to talk alot about boys/men and emotions and relationships and that bore the hell out of me. I love them to bits and they are my friends but I try to not hang out with them as a group.
Title: Re: Socially awkward with cis guys...
Post by: suzifrommd on January 31, 2015, 02:56:50 PM
Post by: suzifrommd on January 31, 2015, 02:56:50 PM
A lot of cisgender gay men are also uncomfortable around straight guys. It's not uncommon for cisgender gay guys to prefer the company of women.
The world of guys is kind of unforgiving and stark. Girls tend to be supportive and warm in ways that guys typically aren't. Not saying there isn't all sorts of nastiness among girls too, but a lot of transguys find that moving from a female social world to a male social world is kind of a cold awakening.
Remember, you're allowed to be whatever kind of male you want. If you want to be the sort who is mostly friends with girls, you have that choice.
The world of guys is kind of unforgiving and stark. Girls tend to be supportive and warm in ways that guys typically aren't. Not saying there isn't all sorts of nastiness among girls too, but a lot of transguys find that moving from a female social world to a male social world is kind of a cold awakening.
Remember, you're allowed to be whatever kind of male you want. If you want to be the sort who is mostly friends with girls, you have that choice.
Title: Re: Socially awkward with cis guys...
Post by: eli8282 on February 07, 2015, 10:29:16 AM
Post by: eli8282 on February 07, 2015, 10:29:16 AM
Same here! Just hang out with who u want, guys hang out with girls all the time it's not weird!