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Title: Hi all!
Post by: kayliyth on January 21, 2015, 02:13:58 PM
Post by: kayliyth on January 21, 2015, 02:13:58 PM
Hey all!
I'm a 25 year old cis woman who is love with an amazing person. We met and she identified as a man at that point, though more effeminate of a man that i had ever dated, I enjoyed the sensitivity, the listening to me, and several other traits that weren't part of my usual pick of men. Shortly after we started dating, she approached me and asked me to tell her my deepest most darkest secrets about my gender identity, and sexuality. She knew I was bi from the start as I don't like to hide that and find out my partner is homophobic and thinks I'm a wretch, but I went into more detail about the kink and BDSM and kink scene that I like.
That is when she admitted to enjoying women's clothing, and the though of being a girl! Lemme just say it didn't clue in, I'm a bit of a putz lol.
As time has gone on she has transitioned to wearing mostly women's clothes around the house. Unless we have guests, as she's not out and is scared of rejection. I am trying to help her with her confidence, as I want everyone to know the amazing, sexy, and wonderful woman she is. But I'm a bit biased heh.
Finally I suggested that we start working towards what will make her more happy, and her becoming a woman. This is after I had a frustrated blow up that I didn't always want to have her dress up as a woman and sometimes I wanted a damn man. I saw the hurt on her face, and after some calm down time we talked about it. Of course I apologized for being so insensitive and she understood, as she had been flip flopping and confusing the living daylights out of me.
We are now on the same page, she wants to be a woman. She is tired of being a man, and always seems happier when she's in women's clothing, or when I do especially girly things for her, like give her a manicure and pedicure, colour her hair, or anything else that would be considered 'womanly.' I want to be there for her and so I signed up to this forum to learn how to help her better, and be that strong support she'll need through the coming changes she's going to face.
Though I did make one request that she wore a tux to our wedding because damn. She agreed, even if by that time she has breasts. She's going in a tux, and then she'll have a pretty dress for later heh.
We hail from Vancouver Island Canada, which thankfully is close to Vancouver a very accepting city of the LGBT community, and there is quite a few trans people here in our city.
See you all later,
-Kay.
I'm a 25 year old cis woman who is love with an amazing person. We met and she identified as a man at that point, though more effeminate of a man that i had ever dated, I enjoyed the sensitivity, the listening to me, and several other traits that weren't part of my usual pick of men. Shortly after we started dating, she approached me and asked me to tell her my deepest most darkest secrets about my gender identity, and sexuality. She knew I was bi from the start as I don't like to hide that and find out my partner is homophobic and thinks I'm a wretch, but I went into more detail about the kink and BDSM and kink scene that I like.
That is when she admitted to enjoying women's clothing, and the though of being a girl! Lemme just say it didn't clue in, I'm a bit of a putz lol.
As time has gone on she has transitioned to wearing mostly women's clothes around the house. Unless we have guests, as she's not out and is scared of rejection. I am trying to help her with her confidence, as I want everyone to know the amazing, sexy, and wonderful woman she is. But I'm a bit biased heh.
Finally I suggested that we start working towards what will make her more happy, and her becoming a woman. This is after I had a frustrated blow up that I didn't always want to have her dress up as a woman and sometimes I wanted a damn man. I saw the hurt on her face, and after some calm down time we talked about it. Of course I apologized for being so insensitive and she understood, as she had been flip flopping and confusing the living daylights out of me.
We are now on the same page, she wants to be a woman. She is tired of being a man, and always seems happier when she's in women's clothing, or when I do especially girly things for her, like give her a manicure and pedicure, colour her hair, or anything else that would be considered 'womanly.' I want to be there for her and so I signed up to this forum to learn how to help her better, and be that strong support she'll need through the coming changes she's going to face.
Though I did make one request that she wore a tux to our wedding because damn. She agreed, even if by that time she has breasts. She's going in a tux, and then she'll have a pretty dress for later heh.
We hail from Vancouver Island Canada, which thankfully is close to Vancouver a very accepting city of the LGBT community, and there is quite a few trans people here in our city.
See you all later,
-Kay.
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: AveryAsh on January 21, 2015, 03:46:11 PM
Post by: AveryAsh on January 21, 2015, 03:46:11 PM
Hi Kay,
I think it is fantastic that you are so supportive of someone going through a transition when you aren't even locked in to the relationship yet! How long were you two together before that all came out?
I think it is fantastic that you are so supportive of someone going through a transition when you aren't even locked in to the relationship yet! How long were you two together before that all came out?
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: mrs izzy on January 21, 2015, 03:55:54 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on January 21, 2015, 03:55:54 PM
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Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: Ennaria on January 21, 2015, 08:20:22 PM
Post by: Ennaria on January 21, 2015, 08:20:22 PM
Hi Kay,
I'm so happy for the both of you! I'm so glad to see how supportive you are. That's not always the case. I have trans friends in RL who have not been so lucky as to have the support and love you are providing to her.
It just so happens that I live on the Island as well! (Small world, lol! :P) If the stars align, maybe we can connect in person at some time in the near future. :)
<3
I'm so happy for the both of you! I'm so glad to see how supportive you are. That's not always the case. I have trans friends in RL who have not been so lucky as to have the support and love you are providing to her.
It just so happens that I live on the Island as well! (Small world, lol! :P) If the stars align, maybe we can connect in person at some time in the near future. :)
<3
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: albinovulcan on January 21, 2015, 08:33:13 PM
Post by: albinovulcan on January 21, 2015, 08:33:13 PM
welcome to Susan's place and glad to meet another person from bc I am Burnaby bc canada
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: V M on January 21, 2015, 09:13:06 PM
Post by: V M on January 21, 2015, 09:13:06 PM
Hi Kay :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: kayliyth on January 21, 2015, 10:30:33 PM
Post by: kayliyth on January 21, 2015, 10:30:33 PM
Quote from: AveryAsh on January 21, 2015, 03:46:11 PM
Hi Kay,
I think it is fantastic that you are so supportive of someone going through a transition when you aren't even locked in to the relationship yet! How long were you two together before that all came out?
It was maybe four months in when she told me. We're just about at a year now =)
Quote from: Ennaria on January 21, 2015, 08:20:22 PM
Hi Kay,
I'm so happy for the both of you! I'm so glad to see how supportive you are. That's not always the case. I have trans friends in RL who have not been so lucky as to have the support and love you are providing to her.
It just so happens that I live on the Island as well! (Small world, lol! :P) If the stars align, maybe we can connect in person at some time in the near future. :)
<3
That'd be awesome! I think it would boost her confidence in being out to see a confident woman in the flesh =)
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: Ennaria on January 21, 2015, 11:52:33 PM
Post by: Ennaria on January 21, 2015, 11:52:33 PM
Quote from: kayliyth on January 21, 2015, 10:30:33 PM
That'd be awesome! I think it would boost her confidence in being out to see a confident woman in the flesh =)
You totally just made my night. ^-^ Thank you for that! I do my best to be confident, but I can't always keep it up all the time. I'll PM you once I reach the required rank. :)
<3
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: kayliyth on January 22, 2015, 09:15:06 AM
Post by: kayliyth on January 22, 2015, 09:15:06 AM
Quote from: Ennaria on January 21, 2015, 11:52:33 PM
You totally just made my night. ^-^ Thank you for that! I do my best to be confident, but I can't always keep it up all the time. I'll PM you once I reach the required rank. :)
<3
Sounds good to me!
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: nanofan on January 22, 2015, 08:10:18 PM
Post by: nanofan on January 22, 2015, 08:10:18 PM
Very lucky girl
Title: Re: Hi all!
Post by: Devlyn on January 24, 2015, 07:22:57 PM
Post by: Devlyn on January 24, 2015, 07:22:57 PM
Hi Kay, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm the resident Bostonian. I'm always happy to read a post like yours. Best of luck to the both of you!
Hugs, Devlyn
Hugs, Devlyn