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after nearly one year, my dad is finally coming around. in december he threatened me with some stupid family bs (that's not relevant lol) and we didn't talk for nearly two months because i didn't want to deal with him. my brother has been passing along messages the last few weeks... and it led to this.  :o


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oh wow that's awesome :D  Glad he's finally coming around.

Quote from: Amadeoamante on February 06, 2015, 08:00:52 PM
oh wow that's awesome :D  Glad he's finally coming around.

thank you!! i'm still surprised because he's extremely conservative. he's so old fashioned that he side eyes interracial couples....

Wow. Thanks for sharing. I see a lot of how I think my dad will respond when he finds out about me. Seeing your dad come around, gives me hope.

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That is really great.  I am so happy for you.  And Preston is an awesome name!

This is great :) I'm glad your dad's come around.

Quote from: Elvis the Pelvis on February 06, 2015, 08:43:16 PM
Wow. Thanks for sharing. I see a lot of how I think my dad will respond when he finds out about me. Seeing your dad come around, gives me hope.

it's not a problem! i'll be honest: it is not easy. there were times where i broke down and was so upset that my dad didn't accept me. that he was in love with the idea of a daughter, rather than loving me for who i am. my therapist finally got me to realize that i need to live for me. i cannot change what others think, but only how i look at it. good luck, man.

Quote from: ChiGirl on February 06, 2015, 08:58:26 PM
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That is really great.  I am so happy for you.  And Preston is an awesome name!

thank you so much! it's still crazy to me, but i'm also skeptical. i'm not sure if he actually means it... thanks! :)

Quote from: darkblade on February 06, 2015, 10:06:10 PM
This is great :) I'm glad your dad's come around.

i agree! if it's possible for him to come around, anything is.

So so so so so happy for you!

That is an amazing "come around"! (I know it happens, but it is always surprising and wonderful when it does.)

--Jay

Quote from: Jak on February 07, 2015, 11:34:36 AM
So so so so so happy for you!

thank you!! honestly after seeing this, i feel like practically anything is possible. we went from a horrible year (2014) to this. i'm blown away. no further contact since then, but it isn't abnormal. we talk once every few weeks.

Quote from: aleon515 on February 08, 2015, 11:23:56 AM
That is an amazing "come around"! (I know it happens, but it is always surprising and wonderful when it does.)

--Jay

thanks, jay!! it most definitely did surprise me. he's the last person i expected to accept it.

I know this thread is a little old now but I came across it while I was looking for another one.

If you don't mind me asking, how did your dad react when you first came out to him?

The texts remind me a lot of some of the messages my dad has sent me. At first he was pretty violently opposed to me being transgender but lately sometimes he'll ask questions like what causes people to be transgender or how long I've felt like this. He still doesn't seem to like the idea of losing his "daughter" but I think he's at least trying to understand now. I just wondered if you saw any sort of gradual change in your own dad like that because I never know what to expect from my family.

Quote from: Contravene on February 23, 2015, 06:40:35 PM
I know this thread is a little old now but I came across it while I was looking for another one.

If you don't mind me asking, how did your dad react when you first came out to him?

The texts remind me a lot of some of the messages my dad has sent me. At first he was pretty violently opposed to me being transgender but lately sometimes he'll ask questions like what causes people to be transgender or how long I've felt like this. He still doesn't seem to like the idea of losing his "daughter" but I think he's at least trying to understand now. I just wondered if you saw any sort of gradual change in your own dad like that because I never know what to expect from my family.

i randomly came out on the phone and he was like "yeah, okay. im cool with it" but then that text conversation happened. it gradually go better. he will never fully support it, but like your dad, he is trying to understand