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I have real good girlfriend that are pregnant and while I'm very happy for them and they will make fantastic mothers there is something that is bothering me. I have always dreamed of being pregnant. I want to experience a baby growing inside of me. I want to know what it feels like to have a baby move inside of me. I want to experience labor! I want to experience child birth! I want to experience breast feeding a baby! I want to experience a period even! The further down the path of transitioning I go the more this hurts me.

Why??? Because I'm letting out who I've always been finally and everything is within my reach but this. I know that they are doing uterus transplants and even growing them from stem cells but being that I'm 51 I'm just to old for the doctors to even consider it and this hurts.

The one thing that I do have going for me is that are letting me live vicariously through them... They are letting me experience as much of their pregnancies as possible. Sorry for the rant!

Much Love,

Melissa Ann

I see this so often and truly wish there was a way for you to do so.

I've always felt this way. I've longed even for the feeling of having "baby making sex" which I couldnt even do as a "male". :(

Hugs. It's a common lament amongst the ladies. When I was younger and mentioned this to some cis female friends they would think I was nuts for wanting to have periods. For some genetic women, periods can be a truly terrible experience, cramps, pain, migraines for many days. I think I learned to count my blessings on that one. And yeah, babies...wow did I ever want to become a mother. But then I've known a few too many women who have had miscarriages or difficult pregnancies or horrendous labours... I know many don't but it helped me see the flip side that it isn't just a fairy tale experience. Sorry to be a downer. I understand the pain of not having a female reproductive system, I truly do and it drove me to utter despair when I was younger. But over the years I've found it gets me nowhere wishing for something I can never have. Like infertile genetic women I've just had to learn to live with my lot in life...it sure makes me feel a lot better.

You are not alone GF. To grow & have a baby would be wonderful. Then to be a mother would also be great. I cannot imagine anything more important in life. I wish also GF.

I also wish that I could do the same Melissa, even if I could, I am now way (way) to old too  :'(

I would think that this is one of the biggest wishes we have  :-\

L Katy  :-*

I understand the desire and have in the past wished I had the experiences myself.

My wife is going through menopause and can not wait to never get her period again. So perhaps I am lucky for that at least.

Don't we all wish we had a period, a capacity to carry a child and nurture it. To have a loving husband that will protect, provide and grow old with you.
I sometimes just pause and wonder will it ever happen in my lifetime sigh.

Anyways as what Ms.Grace said, just count your blessings and make the best of it.
Love,

April

For me being a "Mom" is it. Not birthing but the real growing, nurturing, mutual learning and your own relearning of the wonders of the world around you. I often cry seeing a young mom with a 1-2-3 y/o playing, teaching, learning.  :'(

Quote from: JoanneB on February 15, 2015, 07:08:11 PM
For me being a "Mom" is it. Not birthing but the real growing, nurturing, mutual learning and your own relearning of the wonders of the world around you. I often cry seeing a young mom with a 1-2-3 y/o playing, teaching, learning.  :'(

I kind of have that with my kids. They are very close to me and yes I know exactly what you're talking about. The fact that I can be myself around them is a very nice bonus. I'm not your typical "dad" at all but I do have some typical traits. I am very involved with them and I've been very close to them since birth. They are far more affectionate to me than their mom. Even she tells me this and I would not give them up for anything.

Do I wish that I give birth to kids and be a mother of course, but as others have pointed out and with my family it is definitely so complications and other issues to tend to be a foot sometimes. My sister is just over a year younger than me and this last time they had to induce labor by a certain date because of her pre-clampsia and gestational diabetes both of which are dangerous for the mother and baby. So I have problems to worry about and as much as I would love to I'm sure I would have been advised against pregnancy with mine and my families medical histories. So I will count my blessings and leave it at that.
Mariah

Don't know if it helps, Melissa, but there are a lot of cis women who never were able to bear children and they feel the same way we do. We're really just part of that sisterhood.

I view it from a different angle. We are scorned by some as not being real because of our inability to reproduce as a female.

Even though I may be too old when it becomes reality I hope that day comes in my lifetime when the first trans woman gives birth. I will be happy because I know it is possible and maybe then people will shut up!

I know I've wanted to be a mother for  long time now, I was often told I would make a good dad when I was younger, but that was never what I wanted. I love kids, and I'm told Im good with them. At the moment my hope is to get at least some of that out of my system with my work. I've done therapy for children with autism and loved working with the kids. It helps but everyone once in awhile I got a cute little kid that made me want a kid of my own. We'll see what the future holds for us.

I can't say I have had a strong urge to be a parent. I really didn't have it as a male either. My sister never wanted to have children. Both of us are a little bit self centered and shallow, and we understood our limitations in regards to parenthood.

I too toss my hat into this ring. It is a pain that we have to live though, though as much as we would like it to be about giving birth it is not. It is about mothering a child and you can do that many ways though adoption, family, friends, partners, etc. I know it is easier said then done though.

Melissa,
I got Married at 23 and wife had two kids.. I started eating and stayed pregnant until I transitioned.. so I lost a bunch of weight in the last 15 months...so watch out don't eat to many pickles :)
Anyway, we do that.. and its ok.. I was actually jealous of my daughter when she was a cheerleader and it affected our relationship when she hit High School..
I told her about that and was sorry... now we are closer than ever.. she loves the true honest me.. being real.
Dodie