Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: BriiDragon6 on February 18, 2015, 03:12:20 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Looking to meet some friends..And a Question?
Post by: BriiDragon6 on February 18, 2015, 03:12:20 PM
Post by: BriiDragon6 on February 18, 2015, 03:12:20 PM
I Haven't told many people about my change MTF at all but I would like to meet some people / friends similar to what I'm going through. I'm open up to pretty much anything. My main question right now though, Being born a man, And most people in my life know me as a man, How do you go about telling close people to you that you are not a man but really a woman? And going through transition? I would really like some help on how to tell people like close family members and people I work with my Fiance and my friend is the only people that currently know, But its slowly eating at me that not more people know.
Title: Re: Looking to meet some friends..And a Question?
Post by: Rachel on February 18, 2015, 07:24:04 PM
Post by: Rachel on February 18, 2015, 07:24:04 PM
Hi,
I recommend telling those you feel will keep your confidence and be supportive and welcoming. This will build your agency. Then move to those who may be supportive and so on.
It gets easier in time and with support and success.
Be prepared for betrayal and haters. Growing you identity, accepting yourself and liking who you are relay helps maintain your center when someone rejects you.
I recommend telling those you feel will keep your confidence and be supportive and welcoming. This will build your agency. Then move to those who may be supportive and so on.
It gets easier in time and with support and success.
Be prepared for betrayal and haters. Growing you identity, accepting yourself and liking who you are relay helps maintain your center when someone rejects you.
Title: Re: Looking to meet some friends..And a Question?
Post by: sam1234 on February 18, 2015, 10:46:19 PM
Post by: sam1234 on February 18, 2015, 10:46:19 PM
People who you knew prior to transition and are going to continue to see you will obviously know. When you tell them, sound confident and matter of fact. It may be a shock to them, maybe not. If you aren't comfortable or don't seem comfortable, it won't go over as well.
For support at this point, the forum or other transgenders if you know any are probably the best source. Your fiance as well.
Who you decide to tell is a personal thing. My general rule is to tell only those who need to know such as Dr.s. Transitioning is something you do not only because you feel stuck in the wrong body, but also to fit in with the gender you identify with. By telling people who never knew you as a man, you risk them seeing you as a strange man rather than a woman. Some people are great with it and could care less, but others may feel betrayed or get angry.
Go with what you are comfortable with. You are lucky to have a fiance that is accepting and sees you for who you are.
sam1234
For support at this point, the forum or other transgenders if you know any are probably the best source. Your fiance as well.
Who you decide to tell is a personal thing. My general rule is to tell only those who need to know such as Dr.s. Transitioning is something you do not only because you feel stuck in the wrong body, but also to fit in with the gender you identify with. By telling people who never knew you as a man, you risk them seeing you as a strange man rather than a woman. Some people are great with it and could care less, but others may feel betrayed or get angry.
Go with what you are comfortable with. You are lucky to have a fiance that is accepting and sees you for who you are.
sam1234
Title: Re: Looking to meet some friends..And a Question?
Post by: suzifrommd on February 19, 2015, 06:51:50 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on February 19, 2015, 06:51:50 AM
"Can I tell you about something I'm going through. I'm discovering I'm transgender. I know you've always thought of me as a man, but the more I explore, the more I'm discovering that I'm meant to be female. It seems to be something in the way my brain is wired. It's not something that's going to go away, and I've concluded that the only way I'll be happy is by living as a woman. I'm telling you this because I trust you'll keep my confidence and because I think we're close enough that you deserve to know this. I'd love to have you be part of my transition and help me find my female self."
Would something like this work?
Would something like this work?