Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Kalex on February 19, 2015, 07:23:41 PM Return to Full Version
Title: My friend didn't get it when I tried to coming out
Post by: Kalex on February 19, 2015, 07:23:41 PM
Post by: Kalex on February 19, 2015, 07:23:41 PM
First of all, sorry for the long subject and for eventual mistakes. And for repeating words because I dont know a lot of synonyms and google translate isn't reliable.
It's me again asking for advice,sorry for been annoying I know I'm annoying. Well, a weeks ago I found courage around 2AM and tried to come out for the first time with a friend via whatsapp. I told her about a few things, what dysphoria means, stuff like that. Maybe this wasn't the best way to bringn up the issue. She told me that nothing I could tell her changed anything, and she still loving me. She went on vacation days after that and we couldnt talk about it
Now she's back but since that day she still calling me with girl pet names like always, and telling me I'm his big sister. This weekend we will hang out with others firends and I dont know if I have to bring it back again or not. Im terrified for talk in person and dont know exactly what to tell her or if I need to ask her first what she understood. I think she didnt get it
It's me again asking for advice,
Now she's back but since that day she still calling me with girl pet names like always, and telling me I'm his big sister. This weekend we will hang out with others firends and I dont know if I have to bring it back again or not. Im terrified for talk in person and dont know exactly what to tell her or if I need to ask her first what she understood. I think she didnt get it
Title: Re: My friend didn't get it when I tried to coming out
Post by: alexbb on February 19, 2015, 09:15:18 PM
Post by: alexbb on February 19, 2015, 09:15:18 PM
"She told me that nothing I could tell her changed anything, and she still loving me."
sounds like shes down with it. score!
just hang out like normal. let her show you make up tricks.
thats pretty much the super hard part done. now life becomes really fun, seemingly indefinitely.
sounds like shes down with it. score!
just hang out like normal. let her show you make up tricks.
thats pretty much the super hard part done. now life becomes really fun, seemingly indefinitely.
Title: Re: My friend didn't get it when I tried to coming out
Post by: Amy85 on February 19, 2015, 09:22:19 PM
Post by: Amy85 on February 19, 2015, 09:22:19 PM
Talking to you like that has got to be a habit for her. Perhaps after you talk to her more directly and say in no uncertain terms that you are transgender, and give her some time tonadjust, she will start to change her habits? Coming out is a great step but remember that the people you come out to need time to absorb the information and change their ways of interacting with you.
Title: Re: My friend didn't get it when I tried to coming out
Post by: Kalex on February 20, 2015, 12:29:38 PM
Post by: Kalex on February 20, 2015, 12:29:38 PM
I guess I should let her process the info? Im still thinkin I need to ask her what exactly she understood. And even if she got it, Im in a coward phase so I dont now i I could go and ask her...
What about me hiding in a hole? sounds like a plan? D:
What about me hiding in a hole? sounds like a plan? D:
Title: Re: My friend didn't get it when I tried to coming out
Post by: mac1 on February 20, 2015, 02:30:49 PM
Post by: mac1 on February 20, 2015, 02:30:49 PM
Quote from: Kalex on February 20, 2015, 12:29:38 PMBased on how you presented yourself in your first post here you were probably not very clear in how you presented to her either. Have a one on one face to face private talk with her.
I guess I should let her process the info? Im still thinkin I need to ask her what exactly she understood. And even if she got it, Im in a coward phase so I dont now i I could go and ask her...
What about me hiding in a hole? sounds like a plan? D:
Title: Re: My friend didn't get it when I tried to coming out
Post by: Kalex on February 20, 2015, 04:24:52 PM
Post by: Kalex on February 20, 2015, 04:24:52 PM
Probably that. In my head all sounds clear and fine. But if is hard in spanish, in english here is double hard.