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Not sure where to post this, but here goes.  My wife has asked me not to do "any gender-related activity" outside the house for the next 6 months or until she gets used to it, whichever comes later. (The last part is not what she said, just my prediction of how she really feels.)  She wanted 3 years until our daughter goes away to college and her father dies, so 6 months is a LOT better.  This would include an dressing outside the house, no hair removal, no growing my hair long, and absolutely no hormones.  I'm fine with waiting on the hormones.  But otherwise, I am raring to go.  No dressing outside house is okay, but she's not sure she's ready for me to dress at home.  But to her credit, she did buy me some panties to wear around the house.  That way she doesn't have to see them or even know when I'm wearing them.  I know that was a huge step for her, but sometimes it feels like a tease.

The hair part is more painful.  I know electrolysis takes a long time, so I hate the idea of waiting.  Same with growing my hair out.  I am going to work out keeping what I have and seeing if I can stimulate some growth through using Rogaine and finasteride.  So I wanted to see what else I could to get ready for transition that my wife doesn't have to see.

So far, I'm:
working on my voice (although, right now that's confined to solo car rides)
moisturizing my face
studying women
going to therapy and support groups
coming out to family and friends who I'll need and want support from

If I have to wait 6 months, what else can I do that won't peeve the wife off?

Thanks!

Wax the legs, chest and back if those need it. No one looks at those areas.

My ex also said things much like your wife, only difference is I went ahead and did things. The earrings and nail polish was noticed at work, but no harm with those, just makin' me a little more hip, yaknowwutImean? I suggested waxing my arms, she was like "NO WAY! That'd be noticed for sure!" Well, it wasn't.

And hair takes a long time to grow out...instead of "growing my hair out", consider it "I don't want any more haircuts." 6 months will not yield shoulder-length hair (usually ;) )

And don't forget to court her again, this time with a subtle womanly approach. No guarantees of course, but better to try to bring her on board with the transition than make too great a distance between you and her....

Best of luck!

Wow,

That sounds familiar. ....  All of it.  Way to familiar.....

Spend some time with her.  Love her.  Talk to her.   

Stop the hair cuts.  Loose weight if needed.   Aerobic workouts.  Work on your walk.  Talk to a psychologist.


Hugs

Jen


PS..  Worked for me. . Still together. .