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Title: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: BioS on February 23, 2015, 01:06:54 PM
Post by: BioS on February 23, 2015, 01:06:54 PM
Hello. :]
I'm not entirely sure I belong here. My name is Amber. I am not Transgender despite what many of my friends think, Haha. I'm here to find information and support to help one of my best friends, Aida. He came out to me about being transgender (female to male) a short while back and since then has been having a very difficult time dealing with it. I think I'm more open about it than he is. Haha. He is definitely more open about it all with me now and there is a type of relaxation he's showing around me, but I'm realizing how depressed he is about it all. I figure if I knew more about it I could help him out better. :]
Recently, he's been talking about not being able to handle living 'this way' anymore, and disappearing forever or running away to start a new life. It has made me very nervous and sad, and so I wanted to try and find some resources and people who can relate to his situation so that I can help him. I found this site and have tried to get him to join but he just scoffs. ^^' I think he is just shy and unsure how to approach things. So I'm just going to do everything I can to make him feel better.
I apologize in advance for any questions or comments I make that may come off as ignorant or rude, this is not my intention at all! This is all very much new to me and I honestly just want to learn more to help him. Aida is more than a best friend to me. He's even more than family in my mind. Whatever is more important than family and friends, that is what he is. Haha. And I would do anything and everything to make sure he is okay. :]
He is 22 years old. He likes whisky, heavy metal, and video games. He plays bass guitar, hates sour cream, and thinks Marvel is better than DC. He's the type of person who wouldn't hesitate to jump in front of a train for you (if he likes you, that is, haha) and he is very strongly opinionated. Stubborn is a good word to describe him. X] He's the kind of person who you can't look at and not smile.
He is an amazing person, and I don't think he should feel depressed or upset about being himself, ever. And I want to find a way to make him think this too.
Thank you~♪
I'm not entirely sure I belong here. My name is Amber. I am not Transgender despite what many of my friends think, Haha. I'm here to find information and support to help one of my best friends, Aida. He came out to me about being transgender (female to male) a short while back and since then has been having a very difficult time dealing with it. I think I'm more open about it than he is. Haha. He is definitely more open about it all with me now and there is a type of relaxation he's showing around me, but I'm realizing how depressed he is about it all. I figure if I knew more about it I could help him out better. :]
Recently, he's been talking about not being able to handle living 'this way' anymore, and disappearing forever or running away to start a new life. It has made me very nervous and sad, and so I wanted to try and find some resources and people who can relate to his situation so that I can help him. I found this site and have tried to get him to join but he just scoffs. ^^' I think he is just shy and unsure how to approach things. So I'm just going to do everything I can to make him feel better.
I apologize in advance for any questions or comments I make that may come off as ignorant or rude, this is not my intention at all! This is all very much new to me and I honestly just want to learn more to help him. Aida is more than a best friend to me. He's even more than family in my mind. Whatever is more important than family and friends, that is what he is. Haha. And I would do anything and everything to make sure he is okay. :]
He is 22 years old. He likes whisky, heavy metal, and video games. He plays bass guitar, hates sour cream, and thinks Marvel is better than DC. He's the type of person who wouldn't hesitate to jump in front of a train for you (if he likes you, that is, haha) and he is very strongly opinionated. Stubborn is a good word to describe him. X] He's the kind of person who you can't look at and not smile.
He is an amazing person, and I don't think he should feel depressed or upset about being himself, ever. And I want to find a way to make him think this too.
Thank you~♪
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: V M on February 23, 2015, 01:17:08 PM
Post by: V M on February 23, 2015, 01:17:08 PM
Hi Amber :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: CHELLIE on February 23, 2015, 01:47:16 PM
Post by: CHELLIE on February 23, 2015, 01:47:16 PM
Hi Amber :) Thats Nice That Your Trying to help your Friend, but to tell you the truth, your friend is the one that needs to start to look for answers, and stop hiding, Its going to take a lot of Strength and Guts to come to terms with gender issues, and its not for the weak or faint at heart, A TG person just has to step up to the Plate, ftmessentials dot com has a lot of good info.
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: ChiGirl on February 23, 2015, 02:06:04 PM
Post by: ChiGirl on February 23, 2015, 02:06:04 PM
Well, since he likes Marvel better than DC, he's clearly a smart and discerning man. [emoji3]
Welcome, and I think it's wonderful you're trying to help your friend. Supportive friends are a must during any transition. Look around, ask questions and good luck! Hugs!
Welcome, and I think it's wonderful you're trying to help your friend. Supportive friends are a must during any transition. Look around, ask questions and good luck! Hugs!
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: Devlyn on February 23, 2015, 02:14:02 PM
Post by: Devlyn on February 23, 2015, 02:14:02 PM
Hi Amber, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm from Boston. Get busy making friends and I'll see you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: Myarkstir on February 23, 2015, 02:15:33 PM
Post by: Myarkstir on February 23, 2015, 02:15:33 PM
Hey!
Welcome to Susan's
Welcome to Susan's
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: Ayden on February 24, 2015, 01:34:10 AM
Post by: Ayden on February 24, 2015, 01:34:10 AM
Welcome!
I come from a comic loving household and I mostly agree. I love DC though for Batman. Not the recent arch, mind you. I'm an Alan Moore guy. My partner worked in a comic store for nearly a decade so if you need any recommendations, I have a laundry list in about every genre and from every publisher!
It's wonderful that you are here to support your friend. Don't worry about "not belonging". You don't have to be trans to be here. We have a lot of family and friends here. My partner is a member, though he mostly lurks around. Our friends and families are a very important source of support and caring. Susan's is a place for support and our friends and family need support too.
Feel free to read up on the FTM boards. We don't bite and are laid back guys from all over. I think all of us would be happy to talk with you.
I come from a comic loving household and I mostly agree. I love DC though for Batman. Not the recent arch, mind you. I'm an Alan Moore guy. My partner worked in a comic store for nearly a decade so if you need any recommendations, I have a laundry list in about every genre and from every publisher!
It's wonderful that you are here to support your friend. Don't worry about "not belonging". You don't have to be trans to be here. We have a lot of family and friends here. My partner is a member, though he mostly lurks around. Our friends and families are a very important source of support and caring. Susan's is a place for support and our friends and family need support too.
Feel free to read up on the FTM boards. We don't bite and are laid back guys from all over. I think all of us would be happy to talk with you.
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: mrs izzy on February 24, 2015, 01:38:53 AM
Post by: mrs izzy on February 24, 2015, 01:38:53 AM
Amber
Welcome to Susan's family.
So many topics to explore and posts to read or write.
Many article of news, wiki, links and chat :icon_paper:
Safe passage on your path.
Je Suis etres-humains, Hugs
Welcome to Susan's family.
So many topics to explore and posts to read or write.
Many article of news, wiki, links and chat :icon_paper:
Safe passage on your path.
Je Suis etres-humains, Hugs
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: gennee on February 25, 2015, 05:29:44 PM
Post by: gennee on February 25, 2015, 05:29:44 PM
Welcome to Susan's, Amber. It's great that you support your friend. I believe that he may still be processing all this in his mind. It took me quite awhile to do so. There's much info here for you. Feel free to ask any questions that you may have.
:)
:)
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: BioS on February 27, 2015, 09:11:34 AM
Post by: BioS on February 27, 2015, 09:11:34 AM
Thank you all very much for the welcomes! :}
@Chellie: I couldn't agree more! Hopefully he will become curious about this site and poke around a bit! For the support factor alone. I think it's something he needs.
@Devlyn Marie: I am a fellow M->-bleeped-<-. Haha, though I live on Cape. Hope you're making it around okay with all that snow!
@Ayden: I've personally only been following what's happening with Suicide Squad lately in the DC world, I believe Aida has as well. Apparently Will Smith is going to be playing Deadshot, which is going to be typa I think. Me and Aida were talking about how awesome it would be for Will Smith to play a villain and it's finally happening! But any recommendations for new comics or graphic novels is always loved. Thanks! ( Aida let me borrow Neonomicon by Alan Moore recently. I'm a new fan. Very dark stuff. )
@Gennee: I think you're right. :) Hopefully new insight and information will help him on his travels!
@Chellie: I couldn't agree more! Hopefully he will become curious about this site and poke around a bit! For the support factor alone. I think it's something he needs.
@Devlyn Marie: I am a fellow M->-bleeped-<-. Haha, though I live on Cape. Hope you're making it around okay with all that snow!
@Ayden: I've personally only been following what's happening with Suicide Squad lately in the DC world, I believe Aida has as well. Apparently Will Smith is going to be playing Deadshot, which is going to be typa I think. Me and Aida were talking about how awesome it would be for Will Smith to play a villain and it's finally happening! But any recommendations for new comics or graphic novels is always loved. Thanks! ( Aida let me borrow Neonomicon by Alan Moore recently. I'm a new fan. Very dark stuff. )
@Gennee: I think you're right. :) Hopefully new insight and information will help him on his travels!
Title: Re: Hello everyone. :]
Post by: Devlyn on February 27, 2015, 10:56:36 AM
Post by: Devlyn on February 27, 2015, 10:56:36 AM
I spent eight years in Wareham, the gateway to Cape Cod! I'm actually living in Weymouth now, I always say Boston so everyone knows where I mean.
Hugs, Devlyn
Hugs, Devlyn