Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Equestriaghoul on March 04, 2015, 11:05:06 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Gender identity.
Post by: Equestriaghoul on March 04, 2015, 11:05:06 PM
Post by: Equestriaghoul on March 04, 2015, 11:05:06 PM
Hello, I could use a little bit of advice, I used to think that I identified as female, but for the past year or so I haven't been sure, I would still like to at least get blockers and electrolysis, but I'm not sure about hormones, but I don't want to wait too long to do anything, granted, I've only been 18 since December,but I feel like most of my life has been wasted. I just don't want to wasted anymore of it. I don't really like being called he, and I hate it when my parents call me "son" or refer to me as "the boy". I also hate having my hair cut really short(in fact, soon I'm probably going to stop cutting it altogether, at least for a good long time), and being seen, by anyone, without any clothes. I think I'm bisexual, but I'm not sure I'd be comfortable dating anyone with a vagina, I do want more than just sex, and I'm in no hurry to lose my virginity, but if I'm dating someone and it goes well, it will eventually lead to that. I also hate when my voice sounds too deep and try to make sure not to talk in a way that it would. I also get pretty mad when people say or do something that is sexist(against men or women). But I'm not sure if I identify as female or not, although I'm pretty sure I'm not male. I know I don't have to be one or the other, but I'd like to figure out what my real gender is, even if it's neither.
Can anyone here give me any advice?
I plan to see a therapist, I just don't know when I'll be able to.
Thank you for your time.
Can anyone here give me any advice?
I plan to see a therapist, I just don't know when I'll be able to.
Thank you for your time.
Title: Re: Gender identity.
Post by: adrian on March 05, 2015, 12:39:17 AM
Post by: adrian on March 05, 2015, 12:39:17 AM
I too started out with the realization I wasn't female last year in spring (I'm coming from the opposite side ;)). At that point I wasn't ready to identify as male, but over time I realized that everything I wanted was "male" and everything I hated about myself was female. So I did end up on the male end of the spectrum, but it took me a while to embrace this. And as you said, not everyone falls into the binary, and that's ok.
Finding a counselor to help you work out what you feel most comfortable with would be helpful I think.
Regarding hormones -- your body needs either testosterone or estrogen to function, so only taking t-blockers for an extended period of time will do you harm. So this isn't an option as far as I know.
Finding a counselor to help you work out what you feel most comfortable with would be helpful I think.
Regarding hormones -- your body needs either testosterone or estrogen to function, so only taking t-blockers for an extended period of time will do you harm. So this isn't an option as far as I know.
Title: Re: Gender identity.
Post by: mfox on March 06, 2015, 06:26:33 AM
Post by: mfox on March 06, 2015, 06:26:33 AM
I felt the same way at 18, and started by fixing the things that bothered me most about my male traits. Laser hair removal everywhere was a huge boost.
But as adrian said, you do need either Testostrrone or Estrogen to stay healthy. Otherwise your mood will feel terrible and you'll develop osteoperoisis (not overnight but).
But as adrian said, you do need either Testostrrone or Estrogen to stay healthy. Otherwise your mood will feel terrible and you'll develop osteoperoisis (not overnight but).