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Title: A random murder, scary stuff (TW) - be safe everyone!
Post by: Ms Grace on March 09, 2015, 12:17:37 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on March 09, 2015, 12:17:37 AM
A woman was murdered near where I live - a stabbing that happened Saturday night. :'(
This isn't trans related (as she was genetically female) but it has considerable resonance for me. The murder happened in the park that I got accosted in about ten months ago at 11pm as I walked home. It is a lovely park - at least during the daytime. At night time it has minimal lighting and is very dark. That never worried me when I used to present as male, but once I transitioned and some guy followed me as I walked home ("just to talk" or so he claimed) it no longer felt safe to walk through there at night. I decided from that point on to catch a bus home after 8.30 pm as it would mean not having to walk through the large open dark area of the park. I used to feel a bit silly doing this, and from to time I'd think "ah, I probably don't need to catch a bus" but I'd still catch it anyway. I don't feel very silly any more.
The full facts of the crime are yet to come out but regarding personal safety it (and the previous incident) really has changed my once casual attitude. We rightly need to be aware of our safety as trans women - but we still need to be conscious of our safety as women because that is just as likely to make us targets. :-\
This isn't trans related (as she was genetically female) but it has considerable resonance for me. The murder happened in the park that I got accosted in about ten months ago at 11pm as I walked home. It is a lovely park - at least during the daytime. At night time it has minimal lighting and is very dark. That never worried me when I used to present as male, but once I transitioned and some guy followed me as I walked home ("just to talk" or so he claimed) it no longer felt safe to walk through there at night. I decided from that point on to catch a bus home after 8.30 pm as it would mean not having to walk through the large open dark area of the park. I used to feel a bit silly doing this, and from to time I'd think "ah, I probably don't need to catch a bus" but I'd still catch it anyway. I don't feel very silly any more.
The full facts of the crime are yet to come out but regarding personal safety it (and the previous incident) really has changed my once casual attitude. We rightly need to be aware of our safety as trans women - but we still need to be conscious of our safety as women because that is just as likely to make us targets. :-\
Title: Re: A random murder, scary stuff (TW) - be safe everyone!
Post by: Cindy on March 09, 2015, 12:25:41 AM
Post by: Cindy on March 09, 2015, 12:25:41 AM
As soon as I saw the report this morning I thought about your scare. Might be worthwhile to tell the police your experience?
Title: Re: A random murder, scary stuff (TW) - be safe everyone!
Post by: Ms Grace on March 09, 2015, 12:30:38 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on March 09, 2015, 12:30:38 AM
I was door knocked by the cops yesterday. I did tell them that I had once been accosted in the park, but I guess that given it was ten months ago they weren't even remotely interested...!
Title: Re: A random murder, scary stuff (TW) - be safe everyone!
Post by: Cindy on March 09, 2015, 12:39:19 AM
Post by: Cindy on March 09, 2015, 12:39:19 AM
Ahh but we're the cops cute?
Title: Re: A random murder, scary stuff (TW) - be safe everyone!
Post by: Ms Grace on March 09, 2015, 01:04:33 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on March 09, 2015, 01:04:33 AM
I only got to speak to one detective and he was freaking gigantic, I'm 6'3" inches and he was taller than me. I felt weirdly intimidated and I was more distracted by his gun than his looks.
The funny thing is that, being hot day here I was only wearing a pink sports bra/half tank top and a pair of short shorts. I didn't think about it when I rushed to answer the door but when I did and he was standing there I said "uh, I might just go put something else on" and scooted off to pop on a shirt. ::)
The funny thing is that, being hot day here I was only wearing a pink sports bra/half tank top and a pair of short shorts. I didn't think about it when I rushed to answer the door but when I did and he was standing there I said "uh, I might just go put something else on" and scooted off to pop on a shirt. ::)
Title: Re: A random murder, scary stuff (TW) - be safe everyone!
Post by: katrinaw on March 09, 2015, 03:52:37 AM
Post by: katrinaw on March 09, 2015, 03:52:37 AM
^-^ to last comments Grace and Cindy
I recall a few years ago on Church St Mall there was a random murder...
Sad thing about this one was that the Victim was on the phone to her father, apparently... That is just so awful on every level :( why do the perpetrators do this?
Very, very sad
Katy
I recall a few years ago on Church St Mall there was a random murder...
Sad thing about this one was that the Victim was on the phone to her father, apparently... That is just so awful on every level :( why do the perpetrators do this?
Very, very sad
Katy
Title: Re: A random murder, scary stuff (TW) - be safe everyone!
Post by: rosinstraya on March 09, 2015, 08:01:05 AM
Post by: rosinstraya on March 09, 2015, 08:01:05 AM
When I worked in that part of town a few years ago it did seem a bit eerie after dark. Some stuff on social media seems to be suggesting other attacks have happened - or it could just be people saying stuff, just so.
It's certainly a message to all of us to stay safe, at all times.
It's certainly a message to all of us to stay safe, at all times.