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Title: A friend and a change
Post by: skipstar on March 21, 2015, 09:27:50 PM
Post by: skipstar on March 21, 2015, 09:27:50 PM
I'm Nat or Skip, I am new to this and still coming to grasp with this...............
I am a very shy looking to broaden my horizons. I am a 29 year old Caucasian I am nonbinary(androgyne). I was bi from my late teens through my 20's but always knew something was different but didn't really know what it was.
I am a born a male and was raised solely by my mother and am eldest of my kin, I have 3 sisters so I had a strong connection to my female side already. But the only problem was that my family is incredibly religious except my oldest sister {she is a palaeontologist} so I could not explore to find myself growing up.
Through the help of a good friend back in collage {he is a therapist now was in school with me at the time} helped me to know there was something causing me to not like my body or take care of body. After this he told me I might be transgendered or really woman in a mans body, this kinda made sense but also didn't cause I was still figuring out who I was.
After I finished collage I left my hometown and worked round the country, took on 2 apprentices and opened a small business all in trying to find out who I was, it was not until I was living in a smaller town I started seeing this really accepting girl who got me doing weird things in the bedroom and trying extreme new scenarios , in doing so I started to crossdress mid last year and that's changed everything.
So I kinda still have to live as only a male just to make transition as easy as possible, I don't want to go full time until i am fully prepared for it and I still need to be a male for a bit due to my profession. I don't think my colleagues would understand
I have not come out yet to everyone but my partner and a few know.
I am slowly learning my new gender role it takes time. Growing out my hair again, changing my clothing style, and learning makeup to say the least, but things are coming along slow even though I'm working my butt off on things and haven't had much time for doing anything lately due to my profession.
...But I would like to start my transition and explore my more feminine side now.
For the past few months i have been doing alot of reading and research into ways to transition to what my body has been trying to tell me for years.
I think I am ready to start HRT but don't know where to start.
I have been reading about what hormones actually do to you I and I'm considering HRT but I don't have the access to do hormones right now but there is a lot of support for it here. But I am offset because I'm scared of how friends, family and colleagues will react to the change and will I like myself finally.
But I really think I can be the person I really am or will be once and if I start a HRT routine, HRT works wonders it could be possible. I'm slim and have a small build to begin with plus I'm cute as a guy I'm just not okay with "just it".
Sooooooo.....
I have no local female friends I can go to for this sort of thing and am still new to this, so I'm looking for someone who is similar to me to help me through this process as a friend who is loving, caring and supportive. A friend who I can talk, chill, game?, chat, hang out, go for walks and jogs, girls night outs, drinking, dancing, but also for someone to who willing to nerd it up and go to conventions and other large events.
But even just someone to talk to about these thing would be amazing and just over the past few weeks of starting to come out of my shell has already started to helped but still a little lost.
So through this I wanna share my transition, changes and everything in between.
I am a very shy looking to broaden my horizons. I am a 29 year old Caucasian I am nonbinary(androgyne). I was bi from my late teens through my 20's but always knew something was different but didn't really know what it was.
I am a born a male and was raised solely by my mother and am eldest of my kin, I have 3 sisters so I had a strong connection to my female side already. But the only problem was that my family is incredibly religious except my oldest sister {she is a palaeontologist} so I could not explore to find myself growing up.
Through the help of a good friend back in collage {he is a therapist now was in school with me at the time} helped me to know there was something causing me to not like my body or take care of body. After this he told me I might be transgendered or really woman in a mans body, this kinda made sense but also didn't cause I was still figuring out who I was.
After I finished collage I left my hometown and worked round the country, took on 2 apprentices and opened a small business all in trying to find out who I was, it was not until I was living in a smaller town I started seeing this really accepting girl who got me doing weird things in the bedroom and trying extreme new scenarios , in doing so I started to crossdress mid last year and that's changed everything.
So I kinda still have to live as only a male just to make transition as easy as possible, I don't want to go full time until i am fully prepared for it and I still need to be a male for a bit due to my profession. I don't think my colleagues would understand
I have not come out yet to everyone but my partner and a few know.
I am slowly learning my new gender role it takes time. Growing out my hair again, changing my clothing style, and learning makeup to say the least, but things are coming along slow even though I'm working my butt off on things and haven't had much time for doing anything lately due to my profession.
...But I would like to start my transition and explore my more feminine side now.
For the past few months i have been doing alot of reading and research into ways to transition to what my body has been trying to tell me for years.
I think I am ready to start HRT but don't know where to start.
I have been reading about what hormones actually do to you I and I'm considering HRT but I don't have the access to do hormones right now but there is a lot of support for it here. But I am offset because I'm scared of how friends, family and colleagues will react to the change and will I like myself finally.
But I really think I can be the person I really am or will be once and if I start a HRT routine, HRT works wonders it could be possible. I'm slim and have a small build to begin with plus I'm cute as a guy I'm just not okay with "just it".
Sooooooo.....
I have no local female friends I can go to for this sort of thing and am still new to this, so I'm looking for someone who is similar to me to help me through this process as a friend who is loving, caring and supportive. A friend who I can talk, chill, game?, chat, hang out, go for walks and jogs, girls night outs, drinking, dancing, but also for someone to who willing to nerd it up and go to conventions and other large events.
But even just someone to talk to about these thing would be amazing and just over the past few weeks of starting to come out of my shell has already started to helped but still a little lost.
So through this I wanna share my transition, changes and everything in between.
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: V M on March 21, 2015, 10:14:28 PM
Post by: V M on March 21, 2015, 10:14:28 PM
Hi Nat/Skip :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Here's a few quick links to help you along
Please be sure to review
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Here's a few quick links to help you along
Please be sure to review
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Hugs
V M
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: mrs izzy on March 21, 2015, 11:44:24 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on March 21, 2015, 11:44:24 PM
Nat
Welcome to Susan's Family
So many topics to explore and posts to read or write. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fyoursmiles.org%2Fpsmile%2Fprofession%2Fp0126.gif&hash=db28d493a08fd434f52ada6d7186966d2905ac58)
Many article of news, wiki, links ,minecraft and chat.
Find a therapist is a great start even before HRT I feel.
Safe passage on your path.
Je suis un être humain, Popcorn? (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi62.tinypic.com%2F33a6ouf.jpg&hash=70038a414397cf8547aa00ee9064953fc318e096)
Hugs
Welcome to Susan's Family
So many topics to explore and posts to read or write. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fyoursmiles.org%2Fpsmile%2Fprofession%2Fp0126.gif&hash=db28d493a08fd434f52ada6d7186966d2905ac58)
Many article of news, wiki, links ,minecraft and chat.
Find a therapist is a great start even before HRT I feel.
Safe passage on your path.
Je suis un être humain, Popcorn? (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi62.tinypic.com%2F33a6ouf.jpg&hash=70038a414397cf8547aa00ee9064953fc318e096)
Hugs
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: Devlyn on March 22, 2015, 01:28:36 PM
Post by: Devlyn on March 22, 2015, 01:28:36 PM
Hi Nat, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm the resident Bostonian. Glad you found us and want to share your experience with us. See you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: Rachel on March 22, 2015, 03:56:26 PM
Post by: Rachel on March 22, 2015, 03:56:26 PM
Welcome to Susan's.
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: Athena on March 22, 2015, 08:25:36 PM
Post by: Athena on March 22, 2015, 08:25:36 PM
Hi skipstar welcome to Susan's
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: skipstar on March 23, 2015, 02:37:17 AM
Post by: skipstar on March 23, 2015, 02:37:17 AM
@V M - Thanks alot and look forward to the support and meeting lots of friends here
@mrs izzy - I am currently looking for support options in the Ottawa region, I am looking to support groups here right now I remember PTS and the centertown community health center in downtown Ottawa was a great place resources and support when I was in my teens
@Devlyn Marie - Thanks, and to your sig I just found my first Geocache 20ft outside my house lol
@Cynthia Michelle - Thank you!
@White Rabbit - Thank you!
Now that I have a bit of free time in the upcoming weeks I would like to do as much research and look for the support in my community
and on a lighter note to the admin's I am a Microsoft and Cisco Certified Network Admin, Apple Certified Technician, Network Security Specialist and Certified Ethical Hacker and I always love to help and share my skills so feel free to pick my brain.
@mrs izzy - I am currently looking for support options in the Ottawa region, I am looking to support groups here right now I remember PTS and the centertown community health center in downtown Ottawa was a great place resources and support when I was in my teens
@Devlyn Marie - Thanks, and to your sig I just found my first Geocache 20ft outside my house lol
@Cynthia Michelle - Thank you!
@White Rabbit - Thank you!
Now that I have a bit of free time in the upcoming weeks I would like to do as much research and look for the support in my community
and on a lighter note to the admin's I am a Microsoft and Cisco Certified Network Admin, Apple Certified Technician, Network Security Specialist and Certified Ethical Hacker and I always love to help and share my skills so feel free to pick my brain.
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: Myarkstir on March 23, 2015, 06:45:08 AM
Post by: Myarkstir on March 23, 2015, 06:45:08 AM
Hey!
Welcome to Susan's
Welcome to Susan's
Title: Re: A friend and a change
Post by: katrinaw on March 23, 2015, 07:13:56 AM
Post by: katrinaw on March 23, 2015, 07:13:56 AM
Welcome Skipstar :icon_wave:
Enjoy the forum and you'll find us all very warm and friendly here :-*
L Katy
Enjoy the forum and you'll find us all very warm and friendly here :-*
L Katy