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Title: Need advice.... first date
Post by: Wild Flower on March 30, 2015, 09:01:08 AM
Post by: Wild Flower on March 30, 2015, 09:01:08 AM
I need your advice. Im going on my 1st date as a transgender person.... hes taking me out for Japanese restaurant.
What I need advice in... how do I get the courage to buy women clothing. 1st time doing this...
Hes looking for a crossdresser/transgender (as if they were the same.. .). I dont expect a serious relationship. I just want to feel like a girl on a date. Im thinking i need to do this... why? Its a risk I need to take.
No one will see me... so i can take the chance.
What I need advice in... how do I get the courage to buy women clothing. 1st time doing this...
Hes looking for a crossdresser/transgender (as if they were the same.. .). I dont expect a serious relationship. I just want to feel like a girl on a date. Im thinking i need to do this... why? Its a risk I need to take.
No one will see me... so i can take the chance.
Title: Re: Need advice.... first date
Post by: Zoetrope on March 30, 2015, 09:10:37 AM
Post by: Zoetrope on March 30, 2015, 09:10:37 AM
Just do it hey, you will thank yourself.
Title: Re: Need advice.... first date
Post by: Laura_7 on March 30, 2015, 09:30:22 AM
Post by: Laura_7 on March 30, 2015, 09:30:22 AM
You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,185210.msg1647235.html#msg1647235
and pick some answers you like... maybe heeding one or two cautious voices but remaining positive...
Concerning clothing, you might look online...
or you might consider second hand stores, clothing is often not even sorted by gender... another advantage is clothing has already been washed before, so its not likely to change sizes after washing like some new clothing does...
and, well, some people just go and buy some clothing :)
here is a table for sizes:
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Clothing_Sizes
hugs
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,185210.msg1647235.html#msg1647235
and pick some answers you like... maybe heeding one or two cautious voices but remaining positive...
Concerning clothing, you might look online...
or you might consider second hand stores, clothing is often not even sorted by gender... another advantage is clothing has already been washed before, so its not likely to change sizes after washing like some new clothing does...
and, well, some people just go and buy some clothing :)
here is a table for sizes:
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Clothing_Sizes
hugs
Title: Re: Need advice.... first date
Post by: suzifrommd on March 30, 2015, 10:06:51 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on March 30, 2015, 10:06:51 AM
Quote from: Wild Flower on March 30, 2015, 09:01:08 AM
What I need advice in... how do I get the courage to buy women clothing. 1st time doing this...
Hold your head high. Being trans is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud of being trans - it's difficult and requires brains, toughness, and savvy.
Show them the face of transgender: Competent, intelligent, proud.
Title: Re: Need advice.... first date
Post by: Wild Flower on March 30, 2015, 10:40:00 AM
Post by: Wild Flower on March 30, 2015, 10:40:00 AM
Quote from: suzifrommd on March 30, 2015, 10:06:51 AM
Hold your head high. Being trans is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud of being trans - it's difficult and requires brains, toughness, and savvy.
Show them the face of transgender: Competent, intelligent, proud.
Exactly why I am doing this.... I need to be proud (working on accepting)... its odd.. but Im proud Im female inside. Yet... I feel ashamed for being trans... yet its not the cause of my suicidation... but rather pretending is.
Im working on it daily. Little steps. I have a pink toothbrush case and soap case, and my soap bars are feminine smells (like nectarines. Coconut). Even my toothpaste taste good at the moment... nectarine flavour. My skin smells female believe it or not lol. I have the copulin lotion to go with it... but none of this is enough.
I also bought pink pencils.... a bit girly even for me... but they were cheap, and Im working up to this.
Title: Re: Need advice.... first date
Post by: Squircle on March 30, 2015, 02:36:24 PM
Post by: Squircle on March 30, 2015, 02:36:24 PM
I hate to sound like someones gran but he sounds like a ->-bleeped-<-. If he's looking specifically for a 'crossdresser/transgender' then chances are he's looking for sex. Just make sure someone knows where you are going and be careful.
And heres the thing about buying womens clothes.. just go ahead and do it. If you are worried just make out its a gift. If you go into women's clothes stores you'd be surprised how many men there are shopping in there. I saw a guy and his son browsing the lingerie section of John Lewis the other day. Asking each others opinions and everything. I was a bit weird if I'm honest :D
And heres the thing about buying womens clothes.. just go ahead and do it. If you are worried just make out its a gift. If you go into women's clothes stores you'd be surprised how many men there are shopping in there. I saw a guy and his son browsing the lingerie section of John Lewis the other day. Asking each others opinions and everything. I was a bit weird if I'm honest :D