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I am not lesbian myself, I could accept a few things, somewhere around bisexual. But I do lean towards females.
What are your views on this? Are the relationships possible and enjoyable for you all?
I just want some reassurance I suppose.

So say what you want here I guess, if you want to say your experiences, go ahead!  :)

~ Eva

Eva,

I'm also female-leaning pansexual (apparently that's what you're supposed to say instead of bisexual now?), and I've actually found it easier to date girls than guys.  A big part of it is politically and personality based; other women tend to be more willing to have an equal relationship where neither partner is dominant or submissive; being an equal to whomever I date is important to me, and it should be important to you too!  Women are less likely to be transphobic.  And, I tend to prefer people who know how to dress themselves, and not to enforce ugly stereotypes, but men usually aren't the best dressers.  Still, for the right man I'd melt in a heartbeat. 

For me personally, finding someone of any gender who wants me is a struggle; I'm not going to lie, if you transition, you are going to have a much harder time finding partners.  That's a risk I may have not thought about enough going into this, and I truthfully have some regrets wrt my transition because of this.  Going through life alone is a hard thing, and it's a reality we all face as trans folks.  But just keep an open mind, and you may well find someone you love and if you're even luckier someone who loves you back.  And not being picky when it comes to gender can really help you.

I know what you mean about melting for a man  ;) I had been with one for a while now, the relationship has faded now though (was long distance).
But I am prepared to take the risks for what I want of myself.
It's going to be hard for me, I like quiet types :P

~ Eva

Quote from: androgynouspainter26 on April 05, 2015, 12:48:33 PM
Eva,

I'm also female-leaning pansexual (apparently that's what you're supposed to say instead of bisexual now?), and I've actually found it easier to date girls than guys.  A big part of it is politically and personality based; other women tend to be more willing to have an equal relationship where neither partner is dominant or submissive; being an equal to whomever I date is important to me, and it should be important to you too!  Women are less likely to be transphobic.  And, I tend to prefer people who know how to dress themselves, and not to enforce ugly stereotypes, but men usually aren't the best dressers.  Still, for the right man I'd melt in a heartbeat. 

For me personally, finding someone of any gender who wants me is a struggle; I'm not going to lie, if you transition, you are going to have a much harder time finding partners.  That's a risk I may have not thought about enough going into this, and I truthfully have some regrets wrt my transition because of this.  Going through life alone is a hard thing, and it's a reality we all face as trans folks.  But just keep an open mind, and you may well find someone you love and if you're even luckier someone who loves you back.  And not being picky when it comes to gender can really help you.

"female leaning pansexual"?? a pansexual doesn't see or care about gender by definition though...could you explain what you mean by that?

I say female leaning just because the people im attracted to are mostly women, and that's not because of gender, just personality and hygiene related reasons. 

Quote from: Scorpion on April 05, 2015, 12:18:42 PM
I am not lesbian myself, I could accept a few things, somewhere around bisexual. But I do lean towards females.
What are your views on this? Are the relationships possible and enjoyable for you all?
I just want some reassurance I suppose.

So say what you want here I guess, if you want to say your experiences, go ahead!  :)

~ Eva

I don't quite get what you are asking. Are you asking if it's possible for a trans woman to be in a lesbian relationship?

Quote from: Squircle on April 05, 2015, 03:57:01 PM
I don't quite get what you are asking. Are you asking if it's possible for a trans woman to be in a lesbian relationship?

More about how possible/how good it is, I know it is possible

I've had 2 relationships with women since I transitioned, one with an apparently  straight woman, the other with an openly lesbian woman. Both were great but ended for various reasons. The first because she died, the second because I moved 700km and neither of us believes in LDR's.. I'll be seeing her next week when I pop back to that city for a few days.

So, yeah, it's possible and both were great partnerships.. I could have done without the first one dying on me though.

Quote from: Scorpion on April 05, 2015, 03:59:24 PM
More about how possible/how good it is, I know it is possible

How good it can be has very little to do with gender and everything to do with the two people in the relationship.

Makes sense. Just got to find the right person.
Which seems to just appear when i'm not expecting.

It's not my cup of tea really even though I'm technically in one. But for me women have always been interesting to talk with.

I've recently discovered that I actually can be attracted to (the right) guy. But I've had happy female relationships too. Oddly enough I look for different things in a partner for males and females. I find women more attractive but I love the added size and strength that tends to come with males. Its really all about what you like. ^_^

I have dated both, Males and Females. I don't have a preference and I don't really care about Gender or Sexuality.

I am a Pansexual that is in a relationship with a female atm but its not cause she is a female its cause she is my soulmate and the right person for me.

So yeah they are possible, and can be enjoyable if that is your cup of tea.

I think it might also be worth mentioning that there are girls out there that consider themselves lesbians but prefer pre-op transgender women in case anyone was wondering, it's rare but happens.

I've been wondering myself.. I don't like guys at all.. probably due to being around them for all my life.. Not saying every guy iis but from almost all my experience a lot of the guy friends / coworkers / classmates all had stuff I hate.. I then  realize I am gay :( it's not that it bothers me but I realized I might be single seeing how all the girls I liked a lot were all straight.. Not to mention how almost all girls are taken.. :'(( Then there's that part that I will technically always be transwoman and not biological woman :(
But I've been prepared for this.. I think the single life isn't so bad.. The only reason I worry is because I want to adopt at least two kids when I get older..