Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: PhoenixGurl2016 on April 09, 2015, 10:26:32 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Coming out too quickly?
Post by: PhoenixGurl2016 on April 09, 2015, 10:26:32 AM
Post by: PhoenixGurl2016 on April 09, 2015, 10:26:32 AM
So I set a date for me to come out, that being may 1st. Which is My six month point or close to it since I started to transition. 4 1/2 months hormones then. My sister says I am moving fast as I just told my family like a month-2 months ago and to give them time to get use to it. What are your thoughts and experiences. You think I am moving to fast? When did u come out in your timeline?
For clarification it is in reference to me coming out to my league and on Facebook. I told her I am tired of having to hide myself in a way. Because of it, I am on a tilt thinking about it.
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For clarification it is in reference to me coming out to my league and on Facebook. I told her I am tired of having to hide myself in a way. Because of it, I am on a tilt thinking about it.
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Title: Re: Coming out too quickly?
Post by: Kellam on April 09, 2015, 10:54:21 AM
Post by: Kellam on April 09, 2015, 10:54:21 AM
I came out before I even started hormones. About a month or so after reaching self acceptance. I needed to be able to dress how I wanted and to start feeling better. It was what I could do. I didn't want to feel like I was living two lives. I just wanted to be honest and I was tired of secrets. It is going great in my personal life and at work. Now instead of worrying what people might think I can ponder what makes me feel good.
But we all work at our own speeds. When you feel ready is the time to come out.
But we all work at our own speeds. When you feel ready is the time to come out.
Title: Re: Coming out too quickly?
Post by: FTMax on April 09, 2015, 11:43:21 AM
Post by: FTMax on April 09, 2015, 11:43:21 AM
I came out in stages. Friends last August, family in September, online in October. I started seeing a therapist in October, started HRT after Thanksgiving, and am having surgery at the end of this month.
Don't let other people's comfort dictate the speed of your transition.
Don't let other people's comfort dictate the speed of your transition.