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Title: Kay
Post by: Sea on April 16, 2015, 02:18:20 AM
Post by: Sea on April 16, 2015, 02:18:20 AM
Hello, I'm Kay, in my 20s.
I rarely visit this forum unless I needed to vent on my older account. I am a transgender FTM. Living in a repressed and ignorant Asian country has proven to be unhelpful; I don't know anyone with my condition neither find community supports for it. I did tell my sister and one friend about my issue but they barely believed me.
Before I have a clear vision on what gender is I have been aspired to be a man, like my father and brother. Growing up and realizing there is a clear difference between me and other males, the inability to express myself gender wise is very frustrating.
Before I knew it, I was already wearing and acting like a guy. There is that style called tomboys but people seem to recognize it's not a style for me. It was dis-empowering and humiliating whenever people realize I was female after using male pronouns and change it accordingly, whenever they ask if I was "male or female?" and I am bound to answer "female", whenever they talked about me behind my back if "that was a girl or a guy?" and laughed, whenever they look at me and held their laughter, whenever I have to enter the bathrooms or toilets. It's constantly stressful, I learnt to cope but it never stopped hurting.
My sister told me: "You choose to wear guy's clothes, that's why people treat you like that." No, it wasn't a choice.
I just hope to find people like me out there and maybe someone who shares my struggles. Thanks.
If you want to talk, PM me. I still need to get more posts to reply though.
I rarely visit this forum unless I needed to vent on my older account. I am a transgender FTM. Living in a repressed and ignorant Asian country has proven to be unhelpful; I don't know anyone with my condition neither find community supports for it. I did tell my sister and one friend about my issue but they barely believed me.
Before I have a clear vision on what gender is I have been aspired to be a man, like my father and brother. Growing up and realizing there is a clear difference between me and other males, the inability to express myself gender wise is very frustrating.
Before I knew it, I was already wearing and acting like a guy. There is that style called tomboys but people seem to recognize it's not a style for me. It was dis-empowering and humiliating whenever people realize I was female after using male pronouns and change it accordingly, whenever they ask if I was "male or female?" and I am bound to answer "female", whenever they talked about me behind my back if "that was a girl or a guy?" and laughed, whenever they look at me and held their laughter, whenever I have to enter the bathrooms or toilets. It's constantly stressful, I learnt to cope but it never stopped hurting.
My sister told me: "You choose to wear guy's clothes, that's why people treat you like that." No, it wasn't a choice.
I just hope to find people like me out there and maybe someone who shares my struggles. Thanks.
If you want to talk, PM me. I still need to get more posts to reply though.
Title: Re: Kay
Post by: Ms Grace on April 16, 2015, 02:44:11 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on April 16, 2015, 02:44:11 AM
Hey Kay!
Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
You should be able to find more than a few people to share your struggles with!
Please check out the following links for site rules, helpful tips and other info...
Cheers
Grace
Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
You should be able to find more than a few people to share your struggles with!
Please check out the following links for site rules, helpful tips and other info...
- Site Terms of Service and rules to live by (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
- Standard Terms and Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
- Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
- Reputation rules (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,18960.0.html)
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Cheers
Grace
Title: Re: Kay
Post by: katrinaw on April 16, 2015, 04:45:39 AM
Post by: katrinaw on April 16, 2015, 04:45:39 AM
Hi Kay, welcome to our wonderful site... I Am sure you'll find help and assistance here.
L Katy :-*
L Katy :-*
Title: Re: Kay
Post by: V M on April 16, 2015, 05:44:34 AM
Post by: V M on April 16, 2015, 05:44:34 AM
Hi Kay :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Kay
Post by: Rachel on April 16, 2015, 08:12:25 PM
Post by: Rachel on April 16, 2015, 08:12:25 PM
Welcome to Susan's
Title: Re: Kay
Post by: Sea on April 19, 2015, 10:04:42 AM
Post by: Sea on April 19, 2015, 10:04:42 AM
Thank you. I hope I can find resources and supports here. I will be looking around.
Title: Re: Kay
Post by: gennee on April 19, 2015, 05:56:08 PM
Post by: gennee on April 19, 2015, 05:56:08 PM
Welcome to Susan's, Kay.
:)
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