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Title: Week three of coming out
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 04:05:44 AM
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 04:05:44 AM
So I started to come out three weeks ago and after my first go( you can read about that in my earlier post ), I have steadily been taking it further. Small calculated steps. I saw my GP last week and she was unbelievably excited. Could not ask for a better Dr to be looking after my care. She even referred me to the GIC clinic which is something that I thought I would have to wait another year for. She phoned the CCG who commission care in the NHS and explained that I was a senior manager in the NHS trust that would deliver my care and got them to fund a private service so that I would not be visible to my employer yet. She called me yesterday to tell me what she had done and I almost burst into tears with happiness. I know that lots of people in the UK have gripes about experiences getting referrals to GIC clinics but with a GP like I have it seems to just be so easy. She said that the root of all my other health problems probably came from my trans issues and that there was no point going to other mental health services when I needed to deal with this first and be happy again. Wow! Think I might be developing a bit of a crush on her!
I have also come out to a friend in work who I trust and she was amazingly cool about it and appears to know lots of other trans girls very well. I still get the nerves before I break the news but she was so supportive. Even had a laugh about it. Best still she gave me a big hug when saying goodbye that was so lovely. It appears that being trans makes you very hug worthy and I am loving every bit of it. I still am scared of the future and the big challenges I am going to face but all this positive stuff at the start is just the tonic I need. Even the Bruce Jenner story was covered in the British press and my friends have been reading all about the trans issues that have now been discussed openly in main stream press like the Gardian and the Times. I feel like I am changing at the same time as the whole world. It's like the trans tide is coming in and lifting me up just at the point when in need it. I wish I could say I timed this but how nice that it has happened this way for me. I feel scared but truly blessed at the same time. Love and peace to you all.
I have also come out to a friend in work who I trust and she was amazingly cool about it and appears to know lots of other trans girls very well. I still get the nerves before I break the news but she was so supportive. Even had a laugh about it. Best still she gave me a big hug when saying goodbye that was so lovely. It appears that being trans makes you very hug worthy and I am loving every bit of it. I still am scared of the future and the big challenges I am going to face but all this positive stuff at the start is just the tonic I need. Even the Bruce Jenner story was covered in the British press and my friends have been reading all about the trans issues that have now been discussed openly in main stream press like the Gardian and the Times. I feel like I am changing at the same time as the whole world. It's like the trans tide is coming in and lifting me up just at the point when in need it. I wish I could say I timed this but how nice that it has happened this way for me. I feel scared but truly blessed at the same time. Love and peace to you all.
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: Cindy on April 28, 2015, 04:12:48 AM
Post by: Cindy on April 28, 2015, 04:12:48 AM
Hugs Hon.
That is great news!
Now where is my archive of posts saying 'no I can not do this' I think it is is in my trash somewhere ::)
That is great news!
Now where is my archive of posts saying 'no I can not do this' I think it is is in my trash somewhere ::)
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 04:23:59 AM
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 04:23:59 AM
Ok cindy. You got me good. That was me. Lesson being always listen to Cindy. I could not have done this without you. I mean that and you know it. Love you lots. Jxxxxx
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: Cindy on April 28, 2015, 04:28:05 AM
Post by: Cindy on April 28, 2015, 04:28:05 AM
Well now you can have a glass of Guinness. In a ladies glass of course :-*
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: girlygirl002 on April 28, 2015, 05:45:34 AM
Post by: girlygirl002 on April 28, 2015, 05:45:34 AM
Congrats Jennifer! Fantastic news!
I'm so happy for you!
Hugs
I'm so happy for you!
Hugs
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: ToniB on April 28, 2015, 06:05:42 AM
Post by: ToniB on April 28, 2015, 06:05:42 AM
Scary as it is the feeling of just being Yourself all day every day ,not having to think to yourself I must not say that I will give myself away all the time .life is so much easier and if you where like I was I now make friends so much easier people respond to the more open outlook I present . I for one have absolutely no regret to coming out . Being full time woman at work is just so comfortable and relaxed . If You can let Yourself go and enjoy it You will never look back
Hugs Anita
Hugs Anita
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 06:22:52 AM
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 06:22:52 AM
Thanks to you all for the support. I will get my Guinness in a girls glass later to celebrate. Anita I hope to get to where you are some day soon. Being at work as me would be the icing on the cake. I have to get jobs sorted first though. Lots of people see me as very male in some respects. It's the work environment that does it. They are all good people though. It's my stuff really not theirs. Jx
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: rosinstraya on April 28, 2015, 08:17:50 AM
Post by: rosinstraya on April 28, 2015, 08:17:50 AM
Your GP does sound very good..... 8)
Take all the help, support and love you can get - why on earth not!
You've made a great start, long may it continue!!
Take all the help, support and love you can get - why on earth not!
You've made a great start, long may it continue!!
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: ToniB on April 28, 2015, 08:25:35 AM
Post by: ToniB on April 28, 2015, 08:25:35 AM
Hi Jennifer The Work I do is traditionally a Male orientated . It involves a lot of heavy lifting and carrying . I must admit that as the oestrogen has taken over my body I have lost a lot of my strength .But luckily as our firm is very LGBT friendly My manager has said to the Guys if I am struggling to help me out but so far it's a matter of pride to do it myself LOL .Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face HAHA.
Anita
Anita
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 08:40:23 AM
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 08:40:23 AM
Hi rosin. Your right my GP is an angel. She is quite young and newly qualified and appears to know all the up to date stuff on trans issues. Apart from that she really appears to be on the journey with me. She always gives me loads of time and makes the other patients wait. (Bet I am popular with the mothers and pensioners in. The waiting room) . When I left the other day there was a questionnaire that you could fill in for the CQC (NHS inspectors) prior to their visit. I got one and wrote exactly what I thought of the car and treatment of trans patients. Even left my number for them to call me if they wanted more information. This type of good experience should be encouraged and rewarded if was are to improve our lot. I hope I get a call from them so I can put our case more. Jx
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Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: Mariah on April 28, 2015, 09:15:41 AM
Post by: Mariah on April 28, 2015, 09:15:41 AM
Congrats Jennifer that's fantastic news all around. Hugs
Mariah
Mariah
Title: Re: Week three of coming out
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 02:15:08 PM
Post by: JenniferGreen on April 28, 2015, 02:15:08 PM
Thanks Mariah. Jx
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