Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hello everyone,

First of all, I wanted to thank a lot the Susan's community. I'm not an active member but reading stuff here helped me a lot and still helps me from time to time. So, thanks.

I came out as trans to my girlfriend 2 years ago and to my parents 1 years ago. They are wonderful people and everything went well. However, I found myself reassuring them a lot, educating them a lot... I was tyring in these moments when I needed support more than to be supportive. I was a bit disapointed : Why is shuch a big deal to transition when other self-improvement stories are so inspiring? Why such a mess to accept that one can feel out of the social norm when great people are shining in hisory books?

And then realized that I asked myself a lot of question because I was facing personal issues that make me doubt and question my former believes. I understood that I needed a lot of education and support to accepte my own self.
I am suppose to be the one better knowing and understanding myself so how can I blame other for needing time, education and support.
After that I started educating people around. Giving a better understanding. And the better informed they were the more accepting they became. It was great.
But in the same time people around started feel guilty.

The guilty to not seeing it before, not beeing awsomefriend or parents.
How a Mom cannot see that his little boy was in fact a little girl ?
I felt guilty not to know my own self.

I also felt guilty when I realised that even beeing trans I used to be a bit transphobic... And I'm still a bit I suppose when I wish I was a "real" girl. Don't I think that Transgirl is a short word for REAL girl being born with a "unusual" body ?

As a result I understand that educating and reassuring should come together. Education and Hits in accepted norms leading to doubts and guilt. Reassuring should follow Education.
But there is too many people to reassure and I have not unlimited energy.
I would like to reassure all of them without redoing it everytime, to every one.
Naturally I looked for reassuring media on the internet. From research papers to comics, I found very few.

So, do you know some reassuring stuff (in french)? Name-them please !
And I want to create a reassuring comic and would like to discuss the idea. Stories to share ? Advices ?

Thanks again,

"When [...] tell others about your goal, you are more likely to follow through."






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Hi Loes, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm in Boston.  We use English. ..kinda! :laugh: See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn

Hi Loes  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

This is a really great post. I'm still at the point where I don't even know if I'm trans, yet I find myself worrying more about how I could make my family and friends understand. I feel like I should abandon my life as it is and try to start fresh somewhere just to avoid the stress and ridicule.

Hi Loes, welcome to Susan's

So happy you could join us here...

Sorry I don't know French... But your story is very inspiring and I believe hits many of the thoughts that most of us have... Your comments on Educating others is really on the mark.

We look forward to seeing you around the forums...

Stay true to yourself...

L Katy  :-*

Thanks everyone,

Quote from: Jessica_Doll on May 01, 2015, 09:42:12 PM
This is a really great post. I'm still at the point where I don't even know if I'm trans, [...]

I don't know neither how much I'm trans  ;D
But when I started to question my gender, I started to be Trans in a way.

2 years and and a half ago I was "out" (I prefer use "in"), and I'm still covering a boyish-hairy body with an over-girly dress, posting on forums and playing games with a "female" avatar : Is it Trans enough to call me Trans ?
I think so.

Hormones ? Hair removal ? Coming In ?
I don't know where is the beginning of being Trans. I chose to think that questioning gender is the beginning of being Trans.
Could be, questioning your own gender. Could be questioning the meaning itself of "gender". "Why should "pink" be a "girly" color ?"

Perhaps I would even say that everyone is Trans in a way.
It is difficult to define "gender". The human crafted social way? The chromosomal way (raising question about XXY)? The shape-looking way (raising question about intersexs)? The self-define way (my favorite)?
So, I believe that boyish boys trying hard to TRANSition to even more boyish shapes are Trans. As Trans as girly-girls traying to look the same than magazine first page are.
So for me posting here is by itself being trans  :D

Quote from: katrinaw on May 01, 2015, 10:08:05 PM
Sorry I don't know French... But your story is very inspiring and I believe hits many of the thoughts that most of us have... Your comments on Educating others is really on the mark.

Thanks a lot.
Don't worry for speaking French too much. Most important is that we understand each other  ;D

Welcome to Susan's.

When I needed help I sought out help from a gender therapist. She helped me to understand who I am. Perhaps a gender therapist can help you too?

Welcome to Susan's, Loes.


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