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just  a curious statistical question in regards to our little community. ( disclaimer: this is just a curious statistical inquiry not meant to harm in anyway. I'm finding these polls and the shapes of the curves produced quite intriguing .)

I was single. How about a height or age poll? Naturally, we all know that the ratio of head hair per square inch versus the thickness of the little toes calluses is the only TRUE measure of a transgender person!  :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn

I was single long term at that point. I hadn't been in any relationships until after transitioning. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on May 09, 2015, 11:42:39 AM
I was single. How about a height or age poll? Naturally, we all know that the ratio of head hair per square inch versus the thickness of the little toes calluses is the only TRUE measure of a transgender person!  :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn

I think that would be interesting the more polls the better to delve into the mystique of the transgender individual. I think if we count the number of root canals divided by the square root of the color of hair times the thickness of your index figure we could give a pretty good presentation on why it is preferable for the health of society to mandate all establishments to have unisex bathrooms under the penalty of law.

I was in a long term relationship

I was married

I was in a short-term relationship.

i was single, and still am -.- oh loneliness, why art thou so cruel

Broke apart my 20+ year marriage because I wanted to be girl.

Been dating for about a year and half now, but haven't got anything to work.

Helped my 8 year long-term turmoil evolve past the dregs of dysfunction. Into what? Separate ways, happily so.

I realized I was trans when I was in a long term not so good relationship.
I accepted it almost 10 years later when I was single. [emoji12]


     Hugs,
- Katie
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Everything came to a head during my last long-term relationship.

I accepted it then and there, and even my partner at the time was OK with it.

Still, our relationship dynamic changed after that. We began to feel like we were sisters or female cousins, trying to pose as a couple.

It was because the nature of our relationship changed, that we separated. No hard feelings. Regardless of gender or identity, people do change sometimes.

I knew when I was single, thought dating could help with that problem. I got a girlfriend it didn't help we broke up. Got another one to make sure lol (wasn't very smart  :P). We broke up. Then I committed to my transition. That was like 2 years ago....

Quote from: Echo Alcestis on May 09, 2015, 01:18:38 PM
i was single, and still am -.- oh loneliness, why art thou so cruel

same boat here

Happily married then, and happily married now (thankfully).

I was single. When I was 7 or 8 I kissed a girl under a blanket up a tree, I am now 33 and that it's still the closest I have ever been to a romantic or sexual relationship. Which is terrifyingly sad, early on it was depression, self hate and anti-social feelings, later on it was depression, self hate, anti-social feelings as well as dysphoria and the idea that it would be cruel to expect someone else to deal with the mess that is my gender and sexuality, not that many people offer.

--Serena

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on May 09, 2015, 11:42:39 AM
I was single. How about a height or age poll? Naturally, we all know that the ratio of head hair per square inch versus the thickness of the little toes calluses is the only TRUE measure of a transgender person!  :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn

Hmmmm
Head Hair per sq-in... 5
Toe Callouses  Lots   I do a lot of walking

Still havent totally accepted myself and found my true identity. I do think im a demi guy though. I see that more clearly everyday.

i was single, did not have much interest in relationships at that point. I only really had one friend at that point. She is female (we are best friends now) and she helped my a lot accept myself, she loved dressing me up in those days.. she taught me alot about matching outfits, how to walk in heels and how to apply makeup.

Married

Kid when I realised, Married when I understood Transgender and GID

L Katy

Married with 2 beautiful young girls. Still together hasn't been easy on her though


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Living with a girlfriend.I coped by getting wasted and disappearing for weeks at a time and she binned me.I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I told her,maybe I would have had a partner instead of being single forever

I was in a long-term relationship at the time. It was a part of the reason we broke up, even though I didn't end up transitioning for another several years.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on May 09, 2015, 11:42:39 AM
I was single. How about a height or age poll? Naturally, we all know that the ratio of head hair per square inch versus the thickness of the little toes calluses is the only TRUE measure of a transgender person!  :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn

Thanks Devlyn, I LMAO!  There are so many ingenious attempts to codify what seems, to me, to be just another great part of natural human variation.  Diversity rocks!

I have been married essentially all of my adult life.  My partner held my secret, then helped get me in to therapy and remains the love of my life.  I am a lucky girl.

awww no option for "complicated".

I was in long term relationship and still am. :) We had been together for almost four years when I came out to my fiancée and honestly she was the one who kicked my butt to get my transition started for real.

good to hear

I was married, but I am not anymore. I was a bit worried about being able to find anyone, but I have had a girlfriend since then.

twice divorced by thirty, but I didn't transition til 40. Both spouses knew about my issues and it could have been a contributing factor in them deciding to bail, but then I was a bit of an ->-bleeped-<- back then too. They did teach me that relationships aren't really my thing though.

looks like we're headed towards an inverted Bell Curve

Long term relationship when I started... and still in the same long term relationship :P It hasn't been easy, and sometimes I worry I put too much strain on our relationship... but we are still together.

I was divorced for 3 years when I realized, and it was after an 11 year marriage to a woman. First, I found out that I was actually attracted to men, then shortly after I realized I was a woman.

I don't think it was possible for me to come out of my closets, to myself, until after I had adequate space after my relationship ended. I was too deep in my performance as a straight man and being in the relationship was an addiction in itself.

In a long term marriage when I began to figure it out in my mid 40s, and found myself served with divorce papers when I started to address the issue @ 51  :-\

Pretty sure I was single. Age 6 in the first grade when the teacher said you have beautiful eye lashes & you would make such a pretty little girl but you are a boy & have to sit with the boys. Yuck, yuck, yuck.

Long Term Relationship, still in that same relationship and its going great.

Teenager, in relationships with men. Now married (happily and supportive) and still in relationships with men.

Ye, where is the complicated button?

I knew, as a child (1950s) but there wasn't even a term for it then). I wasn't attracted to girls but to boys (after puberty). A shrink told my parents I was homosexual but I said no, I was a girl. My only "sexual encounters" were with boys. It wasn't until age 16 that I was diagnosed by Dr. Benjamin as a "Type VI Transsexual", started hormones (legally) at 17, and had SRS at 24, when it became available. I wasn't sexually involved with a girl until a few years post-op - was pretty wild with the boys though LOL! - and married (a man) at age 26.

I was single and still am. I'm looking for a significant other but I have high standards and won't go out with just anyone.

Married, still am, and expect to transition and have my marriage survive.

(But TS ... not "transgender.")

Quote from: Jenna Marie on May 09, 2015, 08:05:41 PM
Happily married then, and happily married now (thankfully).

Ditto.   8)

Married with kids, and working really hard to stay that way.

(Possible triggers)

Heartbroken. So even though "Single" would be accurate seen from the outside, I answered "Complicated".

My numerous failures to play the expected male role in dating was actually among the many things which gradually made me realize I couldn't go on pretending to be a man. At the time of my decision/self-acceptance, I found myself heartbroken to the point of almost attempting suicide, and had to make a choice between transition and not going on. I chose transition, for which I'm grateful, since life is actually for the most part great now.