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Title: Hello, I am new here. I am fox
Post by: littlefox on May 21, 2015, 04:31:51 AM
Post by: littlefox on May 21, 2015, 04:31:51 AM
Hello, as you can see, online I go by Fox. I am 22 years old and have recently come to terms with being trans. I was born male, finally got the courage to start identifying as female.
I haven't yet seen a therapist who specializes in this, but I will soon. Meanwhile I am trying to learn how to deal with the first set of issues that comes from it all... one being that my boyfriend keeps calling me "he". He is a wonderful person, he doesn't mean to do it, and he's completely supportive, but by force of habit he keeps doing it. I have to correct over and over and every time it makes me want to crawl in a hole and die...
Anyway, I am eager to learn from those with experience how to get through all these steps. I really appreciate there is a resource like this.
Thank you for reading
I haven't yet seen a therapist who specializes in this, but I will soon. Meanwhile I am trying to learn how to deal with the first set of issues that comes from it all... one being that my boyfriend keeps calling me "he". He is a wonderful person, he doesn't mean to do it, and he's completely supportive, but by force of habit he keeps doing it. I have to correct over and over and every time it makes me want to crawl in a hole and die...
Anyway, I am eager to learn from those with experience how to get through all these steps. I really appreciate there is a resource like this.
Thank you for reading
Title: Re: Hello, I am new here. I am fox
Post by: katrinaw on May 21, 2015, 04:34:08 AM
Post by: katrinaw on May 21, 2015, 04:34:08 AM
Hi there Fox, Welcome to Susan's
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Good luck on your journey
L Katy :-*
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Good luck on your journey
L Katy :-*
Title: Re: Hello, I am new here. I am fox
Post by: cindy16 on May 21, 2015, 04:51:17 AM
Post by: cindy16 on May 21, 2015, 04:51:17 AM
Hi Fox,
Welcome to Susan's! It is really good to have you here with us.
You are doing the right thing by seeking a therapist as the first step.
Regarding misgendering, I know it can be painful to hear especially when it comes from a loved one, but if it is just force of habit then you should give your boyfriend time to adjust to it. Talk to him frankly, tell him how you feel when you are misgendered and he may realize how important it is for you, but then try to fix a timeline which works for both of you by when he should get used to the right pronouns.
Hope that helps.
Look forward to seeing you around,
Take care
Cindy
Welcome to Susan's! It is really good to have you here with us.
You are doing the right thing by seeking a therapist as the first step.
Regarding misgendering, I know it can be painful to hear especially when it comes from a loved one, but if it is just force of habit then you should give your boyfriend time to adjust to it. Talk to him frankly, tell him how you feel when you are misgendered and he may realize how important it is for you, but then try to fix a timeline which works for both of you by when he should get used to the right pronouns.
Hope that helps.
Look forward to seeing you around,
Take care
Cindy
Title: Re: Hello, I am new here. I am fox
Post by: Rachel on May 21, 2015, 06:21:16 AM
Post by: Rachel on May 21, 2015, 06:21:16 AM
Welcome to Susan's
Title: Re: Hello, I am new here. I am fox
Post by: V M on May 21, 2015, 12:58:15 PM
Post by: V M on May 21, 2015, 12:58:15 PM
Hi Fox :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Hello, I am new here. I am fox
Post by: Mariah on May 23, 2015, 06:28:03 AM
Post by: Mariah on May 23, 2015, 06:28:03 AM
Hi Fox, Welcome to Susans. I look forward to seeing around the site. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah
Mariah