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Title: Living with parents, how do I seek a therapist?
Post by: redhot1 on June 08, 2015, 12:21:21 AM
Post by: redhot1 on June 08, 2015, 12:21:21 AM
OK, even though I am 23 I still haven't established an employment or living situation yet. I must let you know that I don't have a dysphoria. Rather than being a girl, I *want* to be a girl. I would *prefer* that. I hope this is all acceptable in the T* community. And, if it hasn't been directly established yet, I'm male.
I live under my parents house and I haven't even outed to them that I want to see a therapist or permanently change my body. I know this is all scary and confusing, but that's why I'm seeking a therapist. I decided not to drive earlier in life either, I want to get my permit down the road in the future, but still not now.
I go through a real obstacle with this. Please help.
I live under my parents house and I haven't even outed to them that I want to see a therapist or permanently change my body. I know this is all scary and confusing, but that's why I'm seeking a therapist. I decided not to drive earlier in life either, I want to get my permit down the road in the future, but still not now.
I go through a real obstacle with this. Please help.
Title: Re: Living with parents, how do I seek a therapist?
Post by: Ms Grace on June 08, 2015, 12:28:00 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on June 08, 2015, 12:28:00 AM
Try to see if there are any in your local area - if you can walk, cycle and/or catch public transport then that would be ideal. There are therapists who will work online, some people find them useful and I'm sure that, providing they are skilled and experienced, then they could be ideal.
Title: Re: Living with parents, how do I seek a therapist?
Post by: suzifrommd on June 08, 2015, 04:59:03 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on June 08, 2015, 04:59:03 AM
Quote from: redhot1 on June 08, 2015, 12:21:21 AM
OK, even though I am 23 I still haven't established an employment or living situation yet. I must let you know that I don't have a dysphoria. Rather than being a girl, I *want* to be a girl. I would *prefer* that. I hope this is all acceptable in the T* community. And, if it hasn't been directly established yet, I'm male.
I live under my parents house and I haven't even outed to them that I want to see a therapist or permanently change my body. I know this is all scary and confusing, but that's why I'm seeking a therapist. I decided not to drive earlier in life either, I want to get my permit down the road in the future, but still not now.
I go through a real obstacle with this. Please help.
Many, many, many of us experience being transgender as "wanting" to be a member of the other sex rather than actually feeling like one. The notion that we all feel like women/men inside is a fiction perpetuated by the media.
For me, I was born male bodied but just really wanted to be female. I've been living full-time as a woman for two years now and totally loving it.
As for finding a therapist, as Grace mentioned, if you have money to pay one, there are some that work online. There are some here who have used them, so if you ask around, you probably could get a decent referral.
Title: Re: Living with parents, how do I seek a therapist?
Post by: Laura_7 on June 08, 2015, 06:01:36 AM
Post by: Laura_7 on June 08, 2015, 06:01:36 AM
You could have a look here for a few thoughts that might help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,189616.msg1687724.html#msg1687724
you might say at home you want counseling, either for gender or for emotional purposes, and pick someone who has, amongst others, gender on their list...
they could help you along the way and help explaining... if they are not supportive look for another...
if its connected with emotional issues or depression it might be covered.
And some might offer sliding scales, or there might be programs.
Take the time you need but keep at it... this all is a process... and try to have some fun along the way...
just remember there are many others who have successfully gone through this process...
and keep coming here and asking questions :)
*hugs*
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,189616.msg1687724.html#msg1687724
you might say at home you want counseling, either for gender or for emotional purposes, and pick someone who has, amongst others, gender on their list...
they could help you along the way and help explaining... if they are not supportive look for another...
if its connected with emotional issues or depression it might be covered.
And some might offer sliding scales, or there might be programs.
Take the time you need but keep at it... this all is a process... and try to have some fun along the way...
just remember there are many others who have successfully gone through this process...
and keep coming here and asking questions :)
*hugs*
Title: Re: Living with parents, how do I seek a therapist?
Post by: CarlyMcx on June 08, 2015, 12:03:40 PM
Post by: CarlyMcx on June 08, 2015, 12:03:40 PM
Break the situation down into its component parts:
1) Finding a therapist. That is what Google, phones and email are for. Type in gender therapy, the name of the area where you live, and see what comes up. Visit websites, try to put together a short list of therapists.
2) Figure out how the therapist is going to get paid. If you are unemployed, then paying cash out of pocket is not going to work. That means you need health insurance that will cover gender therapy. If you are on your parents' coverage, fine and good. Go to the insurance company website and find out if gender therapy is covered. If you live in the U.S. and you have your own subsidized coverage under Obamacare, then same deal -- go to the website and see what is covered. If you do not have insurance coverage and live in the U.S., then head over to your state insurance exchange website and see if you can get coverage.
3) Some LGBT centers offer free therapy and counseling, and a lot of other resources. So while you are doing your research, try to find a local LGBT center as well.
1) Finding a therapist. That is what Google, phones and email are for. Type in gender therapy, the name of the area where you live, and see what comes up. Visit websites, try to put together a short list of therapists.
2) Figure out how the therapist is going to get paid. If you are unemployed, then paying cash out of pocket is not going to work. That means you need health insurance that will cover gender therapy. If you are on your parents' coverage, fine and good. Go to the insurance company website and find out if gender therapy is covered. If you live in the U.S. and you have your own subsidized coverage under Obamacare, then same deal -- go to the website and see what is covered. If you do not have insurance coverage and live in the U.S., then head over to your state insurance exchange website and see if you can get coverage.
3) Some LGBT centers offer free therapy and counseling, and a lot of other resources. So while you are doing your research, try to find a local LGBT center as well.
Title: Re: Living with parents, how do I seek a therapist?
Post by: redhot1 on June 09, 2015, 11:14:01 PM
Post by: redhot1 on June 09, 2015, 11:14:01 PM
Quote from: suzifrommd on June 08, 2015, 04:59:03 AM
Many, many, many of us experience being transgender as "wanting" to be a member of the other sex rather than actually feeling like one. The notion that we all feel like women/men inside is a fiction perpetuated by the media.
For me, I was born male bodied but just really wanted to be female. I've been living full-time as a woman for two years now and totally loving it.
Yep, pretty stupid huh?
I was actually trying to answer that question the first time I posted here, looks like I found a good answer.