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Title: Ten on the Richter Scale
Post by: Dee Marshall on June 13, 2015, 12:51:26 PM
Post by: Dee Marshall on June 13, 2015, 12:51:26 PM
Earlier this week I said that I would stay with Sweetie as long as she'll have me.
Funny old universe.
This morning she said she was tired of living as we are. I'm unemployed and having no luck. She said she was tired of my "transgender sh**" and sorry, but that's all it is to her.
I believe now that she doesn't love me, she loves some illusion she made up for herself.
I know that the smart thing to do would be to hang here and let you all soothe my wounds. I'm not feeling smart.
Time to run.
Happy birthday to me!
Funny old universe.
This morning she said she was tired of living as we are. I'm unemployed and having no luck. She said she was tired of my "transgender sh**" and sorry, but that's all it is to her.
I believe now that she doesn't love me, she loves some illusion she made up for herself.
I know that the smart thing to do would be to hang here and let you all soothe my wounds. I'm not feeling smart.
Time to run.
Happy birthday to me!
Title: Re: Ten on the Richter Scale
Post by: Yenneffer on June 13, 2015, 12:53:24 PM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 13, 2015, 12:53:24 PM
Quote from: Dee Marshall on June 13, 2015, 12:51:26 PMWow on ur bday
Earlier this week I said that I would stay with Sweetie as long as she'll have me.
Funny old universe.
This morning she said she was tired of living as we are. I'm unemployed and having no luck. She said she was tired of my "transgender sh**" and sorry, but that's all it is to her.
I believe now that she doesn't love me, she loves some illusion she made up for herself.
I know that the smart thing to do would be to hang here and let you all soothe my wounds. I'm not feeling smart.
Time to run.
Happy birthday to me!
Title: Re: Ten on the Richter Scale
Post by: Laura_7 on June 13, 2015, 01:43:12 PM
Post by: Laura_7 on June 13, 2015, 01:43:12 PM
Happy birthday :)
*hugs*
I'd say relax... calm down... take a few deep breaths...
you might have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077
Well its up to you what you say since you know them best...
just take the time you need...
is there a way you could have some counseling for you two ?
There might be counseling at plannedparenthood or a lgbt center...
and, well, you might simply talk... in a non reproachful way, just stating needs and your emotions... remaining calm, explaining...
hugs
*hugs*
I'd say relax... calm down... take a few deep breaths...
you might have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077
Well its up to you what you say since you know them best...
just take the time you need...
is there a way you could have some counseling for you two ?
There might be counseling at plannedparenthood or a lgbt center...
and, well, you might simply talk... in a non reproachful way, just stating needs and your emotions... remaining calm, explaining...
hugs
Title: Re: Ten on the Richter Scale
Post by: suzifrommd on June 13, 2015, 02:52:53 PM
Post by: suzifrommd on June 13, 2015, 02:52:53 PM
Hugs, Dee. I've been there and it hurts. We're here to help you through it.
Please make sure you're protected legally and financially.
Please make sure you're protected legally and financially.
Title: Re: Ten on the Richter Scale
Post by: Dee Marshall on June 14, 2015, 10:36:08 PM
Post by: Dee Marshall on June 14, 2015, 10:36:08 PM
Things were actually better today. After leaving about 10 AM yesterday I didn't come back until 11:30 at night. She realized that I'm serious and one wrong word could send me packing for good. I don't think either one of us really wants that. She took me for a nice breakfast to make up for yesterday. Then she bought me a nice blouse. I think it may be a size too large, bit that's fixable. We actually had a nice day.
Have no doubt, I was fully prepared to leave for good. I only came back last night because I was afraid I'd get sick from the cold, and because our son is an excellent peacemaker. Things can never be what they were, but they can be pretty good.
No doubt some of you will call me foolish to try again. I've never claimed to be wise.
And, hopefully, I won't put you all through this again. I've always lived for hope.
Have no doubt, I was fully prepared to leave for good. I only came back last night because I was afraid I'd get sick from the cold, and because our son is an excellent peacemaker. Things can never be what they were, but they can be pretty good.
No doubt some of you will call me foolish to try again. I've never claimed to be wise.
And, hopefully, I won't put you all through this again. I've always lived for hope.
Title: Re: Ten on the Richter Scale
Post by: Paige on June 14, 2015, 11:05:22 PM
Post by: Paige on June 14, 2015, 11:05:22 PM
Quote from: Dee Marshall on June 14, 2015, 10:36:08 PM
No doubt some of you will call me foolish to try again. I've never claimed to be wise.
Hi Dee,
I don't think anyone would call you foolish. We all know this is definitely not an easy life and everyone has different ways of dealing with their struggles. It's up to you to make your own decisions and the nice thing about Susans is that people accept that everyone has their own path.
Take care,
Paige :)