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Title: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 04:49:59 AM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 04:49:59 AM
my first time out today.i was wearing black hoodie pink zip with glass diamonds black leggings black ballet flats.men did quick glances and women did not stare so yea I think I did ok.im sorry for sending messages of myself seeking confirmation did not mean to scare people just wanted opinions thanks please forgive me.
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 04:59:15 AM
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 04:59:15 AM
It's OK hon. We all make mistakes.
Your leggings sound awesome!
Your leggings sound awesome!
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: katrinaw on June 22, 2015, 05:02:28 AM
Post by: katrinaw on June 22, 2015, 05:02:28 AM
Like the sound of the Hoody.... pink zip and glass bling!
L Katy :-*
L Katy :-*
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:25:24 AM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:25:24 AM
Why did men do glances? It creeped me out
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 05:28:29 AM
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 05:28:29 AM
Men look at woman. It's what they do. I think it is hormonal.
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: barbie on June 22, 2015, 05:41:00 AM
Post by: barbie on June 22, 2015, 05:41:00 AM
Yes. It will take a lot of trial and errors. Everybody here was once a novice in going out. Me, too.
BTW, I enjoy glances and stares from women, not from men. I hate those stares of aged men here.
(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7409/16457130285_917a4052c0_o.jpg)
(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7463/15628181654_05448911ae_b.jpg)
barbie~~
BTW, I enjoy glances and stares from women, not from men. I hate those stares of aged men here.
(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7409/16457130285_917a4052c0_o.jpg)
(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7463/15628181654_05448911ae_b.jpg)
barbie~~
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:45:27 AM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:45:27 AM
Quote from: barbie on June 22, 2015, 05:41:00 AMhey it's a quick glance young guys by the way you look fabulous
Yes. It will take a lot of trial and errors. Everybody here was once a novice in going out. Me, too.
BTW, I enjoy glances and stares from women, not from men. I hate those stares of aged men here.
(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7409/16457130285_917a4052c0_o.jpg)
(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7463/15628181654_05448911ae_b.jpg)
barbie~~
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 05:49:33 AM
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 05:49:33 AM
It depends on your sexuality, I like men, I have admit I like men being attracted to me. I like men looking at me.
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:51:53 AM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:51:53 AM
Quote from: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 05:49:33 AMIt's nice isn't it 😊
It depends on your sexuality, I like men, I have admit I like men being attracted to me. I like men looking at me.
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 06:00:34 AM
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 06:00:34 AM
Yes it is. Nice men are wonderful. I like their company and their appreciation.
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 06:02:17 AM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 06:02:17 AM
Quote from: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 06:00:34 AMSo if woman are not looking does that mean I'm passing?
Yes it is. Nice men are wonderful. I like their company and their appreciation.
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 06:08:34 AM
Post by: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 06:08:34 AM
Oh men and women look at each other differently. Woman look at other women to check her hair, clothes, how she presents. But women look very casually. Until you pick it you don't notice. We just have a casual glance.
Same as when I check out a man. I don't want him to see me checking him out. But I do!
Same as when I check out a man. I don't want him to see me checking him out. But I do!
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Julia-Madrid on June 22, 2015, 06:32:45 AM
Post by: Julia-Madrid on June 22, 2015, 06:32:45 AM
Hi Yenneffer
Well, there you go! You're now on part of an interesting journey. Firstly, have faith in yourself, and always, always be kind to yourself.
We transgender folk walk an interesting road, with ups and downs. Guys will look - it's cool. Girls will look - it's also cool. Forget about their motives, and smile. Some days nobody will look - it's also cool.
Try not to beat yourself up about stuff - we all have bad days, and we've all had times when we know that a store assistant has figured us out (whatever that might mean), but is kind enough to just do his/her job. It's also cool, and little by little you will find yourself reveling in your transition and finding yourself comfortable with who you are becoming. Just don't be a perfectionist, give yourself time, and don't turn little bumps in the road into mountains.
Hugs
Julia
Well, there you go! You're now on part of an interesting journey. Firstly, have faith in yourself, and always, always be kind to yourself.
We transgender folk walk an interesting road, with ups and downs. Guys will look - it's cool. Girls will look - it's also cool. Forget about their motives, and smile. Some days nobody will look - it's also cool.
Try not to beat yourself up about stuff - we all have bad days, and we've all had times when we know that a store assistant has figured us out (whatever that might mean), but is kind enough to just do his/her job. It's also cool, and little by little you will find yourself reveling in your transition and finding yourself comfortable with who you are becoming. Just don't be a perfectionist, give yourself time, and don't turn little bumps in the road into mountains.
Hugs
Julia
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 06:35:36 AM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 06:35:36 AM
Quote from: Julia-Madrid on June 22, 2015, 06:32:45 AMhugs and thanks☺️
Hi Yenneffer
Well, there you go! You're now on part of an interesting journey. Firstly, have faith in yourself, and always, always be kind to yourself.
We transgender folk walk an interesting road, with ups and downs. Guys will look - it's cool. Girls will look - it's also cool. Forget about their motives, and smile. Some days nobody will look - it's also cool.
Try not to beat yourself up about stuff - we all have bad days, and we've all had times when we know that a store assistant has figured us out (whatever that might mean), but is kind enough to just do his/her job. It's also cool, and little by little you will find yourself reveling in your transition and finding yourself comfortable with who you are becoming. Just don't be a perfectionist, give yourself time, and don't turn little bumps in the road into mountains.
Hugs
Julia
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Julia-Madrid on June 22, 2015, 06:50:48 AM
Post by: Julia-Madrid on June 22, 2015, 06:50:48 AM
Oh, and girlfriend, don't you want to turn your avatar photo the right way up? :D
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 06:57:31 AM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 06:57:31 AM
Quote from: Julia-Madrid on June 22, 2015, 06:50:48 AMLol won't work took photo from phone
Oh, and girlfriend, don't you want to turn your avatar photo the right way up? :D
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: katrinaw on June 22, 2015, 08:07:00 AM
Post by: katrinaw on June 22, 2015, 08:07:00 AM
haaa... I don't mind tilting my head, or rotating my laptop... LoL
At least its original 8)
L Katy :-*
At least its original 8)
L Katy :-*
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Mariah on June 22, 2015, 08:23:55 AM
Post by: Mariah on June 22, 2015, 08:23:55 AM
No worries, all is forgiven. Love the sound of what you were wearing. Yenneffer you will get used to it. No doubt that it is a sign of passing when men start looking the way they do. Big hugs
Mariah
Mariah
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Eva Marie on June 22, 2015, 08:36:20 AM
Post by: Eva Marie on June 22, 2015, 08:36:20 AM
Men and women looking was something that I had to adjust too. Like you it wigged me at out at first but men are gonna look and women are gonna look for different reasons (Cindy described why). This is completely normal - welcome to being a woman :)
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: barbie on June 22, 2015, 02:50:13 PM
Post by: barbie on June 22, 2015, 02:50:13 PM
Quote from: Cindy on June 22, 2015, 06:08:34 AM
Oh men and women look at each other differently. Woman look at other women to check her hair, clothes, how she presents. But women look very casually. Until you pick it you don't notice. We just have a casual glance.
Yes. I can tell the difference in stares of men, too. My male colleagues and friends usually look at me very casually, while some men stare and study my face, making me guess that these guys recognize me as a woman.
barbie~~
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 02:54:09 PM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 02:54:09 PM
Hehe looked it up
On Internet I'm passing 😊😊😊😊😊😊
On Internet I'm passing 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 22, 2015, 03:30:18 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 22, 2015, 03:30:18 PM
Quote from: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 06:57:31 AM
Lol won't work took photo from phone
I sent a right-side up pic...should be able to press and hold on the pic until a menu pops up, select "save image..." or "download image as...", then upload that to Susans.
Lots of really good advice in this thread, btw. Trust in yourself and in the transition process...you are beautiful and are learning and doing!
*hugs*
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:15:31 PM
Post by: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:15:31 PM
So from today I'm going full time I don't care what happens to me from now on I need to stop living a lie
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Jill F on June 22, 2015, 05:28:40 PM
Post by: Jill F on June 22, 2015, 05:28:40 PM
Quote from: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 05:15:31 PM
So from today I'm going full time I don't care what happens to me from now on I need to stop living a lie
Once I ran out of sh*ts to give about what other people thought of me, I finally began to truly live.
Good for you!
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Eva Marie on June 25, 2015, 09:40:56 AM
Post by: Eva Marie on June 25, 2015, 09:40:56 AM
Quote from: Jill F on June 22, 2015, 05:28:40 PM
Once I ran out of sh*ts to give about what other people thought of me, I finally began to truly live.
Good for you!
Very sage advice.
You do this for you and if other people have an issue with you they can go jump in a lake. Developing thick skin is the key to being able to get to the point of not giving a flip about what others think.
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Kyra553 on June 29, 2015, 04:10:14 AM
Post by: Kyra553 on June 29, 2015, 04:10:14 AM
Quote from: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 04:49:59 AM
my first time out today.i was wearing black hoodie pink zip with glass diamonds black leggings black ballet flats.men did quick glances and women did not stare so yea I think I did ok.im sorry for sending messages of myself seeking confirmation did not mean to scare people just wanted opinions thanks please forgive me.
As a girl people will stare at you! I thought something was wrong for the longest time but its actually a good thing. Just be confident and know that you wont always pass when starting. So when you dont, oh well life moves on. ;)
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Sondra Marie on July 25, 2015, 02:09:41 PM
Post by: Sondra Marie on July 25, 2015, 02:09:41 PM
Yay! I'm sure you're excited to be going full time! I'm happy for you.
Just out of curiosity, how did you look this up? No doubt, I see a woman in your photo and you're very pretty which is probably why the guys are looking at you so I'm not the slightest bit surprised.
Haha sorry I just have to comment on this. does anyone else see the irony in developing thick skin to feel more comfortable with what others think? What an awesome way to describe it.
^.^
-Ondi
Quote from: Yenneffer on June 22, 2015, 02:54:09 PM
Hehe looked it up
On Internet I'm passing 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Just out of curiosity, how did you look this up? No doubt, I see a woman in your photo and you're very pretty which is probably why the guys are looking at you so I'm not the slightest bit surprised.
Quote from: Eva Marie on June 25, 2015, 09:40:56 AM
Very sage advice.
You do this for you and if other people have an issue with you they can go jump in a lake. Developing thick skin is the key to being able to get to the point of not giving a flip about what others think.
Haha sorry I just have to comment on this. does anyone else see the irony in developing thick skin to feel more comfortable with what others think? What an awesome way to describe it.
^.^
-Ondi
Title: Re: My first time out and sorry
Post by: Stella Sophia on August 09, 2015, 01:55:22 AM
Post by: Stella Sophia on August 09, 2015, 01:55:22 AM
Yeah I am not going to lie, I like it when men check me out, though 99% of the time its followed by being ghosted and the double take where they look once, then look twice like "WTF?!" I want to shout out in boy voice "YOU'RE GAAAAY!!" (completely joking and I know that doesn't make them gay) but yeah I sort of approach it from a humorous standpoint.
I love males and male validation, what can I say. :P
I love males and male validation, what can I say. :P