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Title: I'm full time!
Post by: michelle82 on July 01, 2015, 09:47:39 PM
Post by: michelle82 on July 01, 2015, 09:47:39 PM
After about 10 months of gender transition I finally made it to home stretch!! today marked the first day of being being officially out as Michelle at work, and marks my first day of being full time! Everyone at my job basically knew the situation when i wrote a coming out post on FB, but i requested an official communication be sent regarding my name/change and pronoun usage. I received a new ID badge, and had my email updated. I did have some complications with HR regarding my communication plan, but we cleared it up at the 11th hour and now I'm free!.
I'm so happy to have had overwhelming support from my co-workers and managers. However i have learned quickly the people that I will need to avoid. Some people are just not comfortable with me and that is fine. And i wanted to give the forum a huge thanks and many hugs for everything. This community has been a tremendous help in moving me along in my transition. Everything from emotional support, to practical advice, I couldn't have made it to this point without Susan's Place.
I'm so happy to have had overwhelming support from my co-workers and managers. However i have learned quickly the people that I will need to avoid. Some people are just not comfortable with me and that is fine. And i wanted to give the forum a huge thanks and many hugs for everything. This community has been a tremendous help in moving me along in my transition. Everything from emotional support, to practical advice, I couldn't have made it to this point without Susan's Place.
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: Gothic Dandy on July 01, 2015, 10:25:23 PM
Post by: Gothic Dandy on July 01, 2015, 10:25:23 PM
Congrats! I'm so happy for you :D
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: KimSails on July 01, 2015, 10:45:42 PM
Post by: KimSails on July 01, 2015, 10:45:42 PM
That's wonderful Michelle! Congratulations!
Hopefully the uncomfortable people will come around. I had a few people at work that talked with me a lot before coming out, and little to no talking after, but they've mostly come around since.
Hopefully the uncomfortable people will come around. I had a few people at work that talked with me a lot before coming out, and little to no talking after, but they've mostly come around since.
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: jessical on July 01, 2015, 10:54:06 PM
Post by: jessical on July 01, 2015, 10:54:06 PM
Congratulations Michelle!
It is a huge milestone. I am glad to hear it went well :)
It is a huge milestone. I am glad to hear it went well :)
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: Mariah on July 01, 2015, 11:14:13 PM
Post by: Mariah on July 01, 2015, 11:14:13 PM
Congrats Michelle
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: Jacqueline on July 01, 2015, 11:57:48 PM
Post by: Jacqueline on July 01, 2015, 11:57:48 PM
Michelle,
That is so great!
There will always be people who are not comfortable. I have found that to be true all my life.
You have found your truth.
I hope it goes smoothly from here on out.
With warm thoughts,
Joanna
That is so great!
There will always be people who are not comfortable. I have found that to be true all my life.
You have found your truth.
I hope it goes smoothly from here on out.
With warm thoughts,
Joanna
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: Colleen M on July 02, 2015, 02:49:39 AM
Post by: Colleen M on July 02, 2015, 02:49:39 AM
Does it count as support if I say I'm jealous? There's a lot of joy coming through your post and I'm thrilled you cleared such a big milestone so nicely.
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: katrinaw on July 02, 2015, 04:04:54 AM
Post by: katrinaw on July 02, 2015, 04:04:54 AM
Yay... congrats Michelle, what a milestone and am so happy for you
Katy xx
Katy xx
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: Jessie Ann on July 02, 2015, 04:17:21 AM
Post by: Jessie Ann on July 02, 2015, 04:17:21 AM
That is fantastic. I too just recently began living full time and much like you I have had very positive responses from most people and the the few who are having a problem, I have no problem identifying who they are. They make it very easy for you to tell they are having a bit of a time with it all. Power through it all because there is nothing like getting to live as your authentic self!
Hugs to you girl. Enjoy your new life!!
Hugs to you girl. Enjoy your new life!!
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: suzifrommd on July 02, 2015, 05:33:01 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on July 02, 2015, 05:33:01 AM
Congrats Michelle. I remember when I came out, the electric excitement of finally being myself.
Remember, it isn't your job to stay out of everyone's way who disapproves. It's their job to deal. Your employer has a legal responsibility to make your workplace a non-hostile environment.
Quote from: michelle82 on July 01, 2015, 09:47:39 PM
However i have learned quickly the people that I will need to avoid.
Remember, it isn't your job to stay out of everyone's way who disapproves. It's their job to deal. Your employer has a legal responsibility to make your workplace a non-hostile environment.
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: ToniB on July 02, 2015, 06:24:28 AM
Post by: ToniB on July 02, 2015, 06:24:28 AM
Well done Michelle I hope You have the same feeling of relief and relaxation that I had when I was finally able to be Myself at Work. Yes you will occasionally find Yourself Misgendered but in most cases it is not deliberate or a snub but merely familiarity and forgetfulness they speak before thinking in other words . Just gently remind them and carry on LOL
Hugs Toni
Hugs Toni
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: londynlady on July 02, 2015, 03:22:51 PM
Post by: londynlady on July 02, 2015, 03:22:51 PM
Congrats girly!!!
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Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: awilliams1701 on July 02, 2015, 03:43:50 PM
Post by: awilliams1701 on July 02, 2015, 03:43:50 PM
I hope your experiences are as good as mine. There is nothing like knowing you never have to hide again. I've mostly had a very positive experience overall with extremely few and minor negative experiences.
Title: Re: I'm full time!
Post by: michelle82 on July 03, 2015, 12:10:39 AM
Post by: michelle82 on July 03, 2015, 12:10:39 AM
thanks ladies! day two was great. When i came into work this morning, there was a big gift bag on my desk!. A huge part of the office ended up chipping in and buying me a Coach bag, and a bunch of lotions and hand creams from Bath & Bodyworks. It was so thoughtfully and sweet. i totally felt the love! I couldn't have asked for a better transition! i'm so greatful!
people are being great about new name and pronouns. A few of the guys are accidentallystill giving me the "Hey Man" routine in passing, and i of course have to yell at them in a joking way. But they are very sweet about it, and apologize for doing it lol.
people are being great about new name and pronouns. A few of the guys are accidentallystill giving me the "Hey Man" routine in passing, and i of course have to yell at them in a joking way. But they are very sweet about it, and apologize for doing it lol.