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Title: Hello there :-)
Post by: Alex_or_Ben on July 02, 2015, 12:26:00 PM
Post by: Alex_or_Ben on July 02, 2015, 12:26:00 PM
Hi, I'm Alexander.
I'm FTM and I just started to go to the gym to get in shape and to get ready for hormones and surgery. I learned from another FTM that you need to be really healthy and in shape before you can do these things especially since I am on medication for a mood disorder. I don't know for sure. I have a lot of breast dysmorphia and my breasts bother me very much and I decided recently to do something about them and to try to shrink them more. I'm trying to do more body-positive things to improve my body and to make my body something that I can be proud about and be more comfortable in my own skin. In the past, I would be very negative about my body, all of the female parts and do self-harm which was very negative and scarring happened. I realized that I couldn't hide from my female body anymore and tattoos definitely did not help at all. I realize that for myself.
I'm just very confused about my body since sometimes I go top-less and wear no shirt and just boxer shorts like men do, and I feel fine and normal except if I see my own reflection - then it is really not good. During other times I feel my female body is very uncomfortable. I try to wear men's shorts and pants, since the men's shirts do not fit me because of my breasts. I have bigger breasts since I am quite overweight. I have stopped pulling stray hairs from my chin and neck area since I would like to grow a beard some day. I have also stopped shaving as well on my legs and armpits.
I am very blessed to live in a state in the USA that is quite open-minded about transgender people, and I have come out to a number of people, including my parents. I just figured it would be best to come out to them as soon as possible before I have hormones and surgery, to give them the heads up. But at the same time, I feel confused about why I am transgender, but does anyone know why they are born the gender they are? Nobody does, it is just the way it is. I hope to learn more about being transgender and the journey it involves in this forum. I feel very blessed to have the Internet and to have access to this website. Thank goodness.
P.S. - My username is because I'm a bit undecided between Alex or Ben as my name or middle name.
Alexander
I'm FTM and I just started to go to the gym to get in shape and to get ready for hormones and surgery. I learned from another FTM that you need to be really healthy and in shape before you can do these things especially since I am on medication for a mood disorder. I don't know for sure. I have a lot of breast dysmorphia and my breasts bother me very much and I decided recently to do something about them and to try to shrink them more. I'm trying to do more body-positive things to improve my body and to make my body something that I can be proud about and be more comfortable in my own skin. In the past, I would be very negative about my body, all of the female parts and do self-harm which was very negative and scarring happened. I realized that I couldn't hide from my female body anymore and tattoos definitely did not help at all. I realize that for myself.
I'm just very confused about my body since sometimes I go top-less and wear no shirt and just boxer shorts like men do, and I feel fine and normal except if I see my own reflection - then it is really not good. During other times I feel my female body is very uncomfortable. I try to wear men's shorts and pants, since the men's shirts do not fit me because of my breasts. I have bigger breasts since I am quite overweight. I have stopped pulling stray hairs from my chin and neck area since I would like to grow a beard some day. I have also stopped shaving as well on my legs and armpits.
I am very blessed to live in a state in the USA that is quite open-minded about transgender people, and I have come out to a number of people, including my parents. I just figured it would be best to come out to them as soon as possible before I have hormones and surgery, to give them the heads up. But at the same time, I feel confused about why I am transgender, but does anyone know why they are born the gender they are? Nobody does, it is just the way it is. I hope to learn more about being transgender and the journey it involves in this forum. I feel very blessed to have the Internet and to have access to this website. Thank goodness.
P.S. - My username is because I'm a bit undecided between Alex or Ben as my name or middle name.
Alexander
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: stephaniec on July 02, 2015, 02:58:56 PM
Post by: stephaniec on July 02, 2015, 02:58:56 PM
You'll find a lot of help on Susan's
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: enigmaticrorschach on July 02, 2015, 03:02:14 PM
Post by: enigmaticrorschach on July 02, 2015, 03:02:14 PM
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Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: Dena on July 02, 2015, 03:05:39 PM
Post by: Dena on July 02, 2015, 03:05:39 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. The answer to you question was just a single search away https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism)
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: Mariah on July 02, 2015, 03:28:38 PM
Post by: Mariah on July 02, 2015, 03:28:38 PM
Hi Alexander, welcome to Susan's. Your among friends now. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah
Mariah
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: V M on July 02, 2015, 05:04:40 PM
Post by: V M on July 02, 2015, 05:04:40 PM
Hi Alexander :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: Promethea on July 02, 2015, 08:27:40 PM
Post by: Promethea on July 02, 2015, 08:27:40 PM
Welcome to the forums, Alex, or Ben, or Jedediah (old timey names are all the rage right now :P )!
I'm fairly new here, but it seems like a very nice community, I hope you feel at home here.
As to why you're transgender... If only we knew... You may eventually find an answer that satisfies you. I found mine and I'm living it. In the meantime, just accept what is and flow.
I'm fairly new here, but it seems like a very nice community, I hope you feel at home here.
As to why you're transgender... If only we knew... You may eventually find an answer that satisfies you. I found mine and I'm living it. In the meantime, just accept what is and flow.
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: katrinaw on July 02, 2015, 11:53:38 PM
Post by: katrinaw on July 02, 2015, 11:53:38 PM
Welcome to Susan's Alex... so good to have you here with us...
To learn about ->-bleeped-<- and explore your options? Here is definitely the right place, there are many folks here going through the same processes of setting and meeting their goals.
I am assuming that all you have come out to support you, this is a massive step and the support you'll get moving forward can not be understated.
I look forward to seeing you about the forum's and best wishes for your journey forward.
L Katy :-*
To learn about ->-bleeped-<- and explore your options? Here is definitely the right place, there are many folks here going through the same processes of setting and meeting their goals.
I am assuming that all you have come out to support you, this is a massive step and the support you'll get moving forward can not be understated.
I look forward to seeing you about the forum's and best wishes for your journey forward.
L Katy :-*
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: Rachel on July 03, 2015, 06:21:10 PM
Post by: Rachel on July 03, 2015, 06:21:10 PM
Welcome to Susan's.
One theory explaining transgender is testosterone from the mother is provided (or not) at certain times to the fetus while the brain is in early development. If you are subject to T than the brain develops male and if not remains female.
One theory explaining transgender is testosterone from the mother is provided (or not) at certain times to the fetus while the brain is in early development. If you are subject to T than the brain develops male and if not remains female.
Title: Re: Hello there :-)
Post by: gennee on July 04, 2015, 07:48:25 PM
Post by: gennee on July 04, 2015, 07:48:25 PM
Hi and welcome to Susan's, Alex.
:)
:)