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So Im only 4 months on T. I have a decent amount of facial hair on my chin especially when I don't shave for over a week. and my voice is def more male. On friday, I had really good passing day. I got called sir at subway. I went to get fireworks at a stand later on and two girl employees were calling me he and him and fighting over wanting to help me lol They wanted me to choose which one i wanted help from but I just stand there completely stunned because this has never happened to me before. So I was pretty much awkward as ->-bleeped-<-. I guess I am still unsure how to react in these situations because I hid for so long. I mean I Felt awesome that day, totally stoked but still really awkward at this point in my transition. I guess I am just wondering how long it took you guys to get used to be recognized how you actually are?

I would say it took me about a year into my transition. I had kinda long hair and didn't really start passing until I cut it off and started wearing men's clothing entirely. Took a bit of getting used to especially the big change in appearance I'm happy though now with the way I look. Felt strange being treated as male as well

I feel your pain, Post surgical I was using pads to keep the dilation mess from soiling my underwear and a woman I worked with in a very soft voice that I could hardly hear ask me for a tampon. I was so shocked at the moment that i didn't think to offer her a pad which I had with me.

I'm three months in and am in the same situation!
Every time a guy calls me "bro" I turn around thinking someone's behind me.
Isn't it wonderful?  :)

Seeing as I've looked like a boy since I was 11, I've been used to it my whole life. Even before I had my hair cut a lot of people still referred to me as male. I'm not really out though so my friends always correct people for me and it can get really awkward.

I started at a new highschool at the beginning of this year, and being called "young man" and such was thrilling.
It doesn't surprise me, and never did, but hearing 'him' and 'he' and my name david being said still gives me a feeling of success and happiness, especially when my parents/siblings call me she and her and my birthname, and it feels really wrong whenever that happens.
In public its just normal now, but it still feels great, and if its in front of my parents I get this stupid triumphant look on my face XD
also my aunts/uncles cousins call me david and he/him too, so for me its the opposite, I get surprised when my parents/siblings say she/her/birthname etc.

-david

I used to get a buzz. It lasted for ages 6months ish and then it stopped. :( I still get the occasional buzz if someone who I think believes me as female and then calls me male.

The bad thing is that I sometimes get an anti-buzz, when someone calls me my old name or misgenders me, its a sour pang-type feeling that just hurts quite a lot. Luckily I dont get it that often!

I'm pretty used to it. Reason being is because even before I started mentally and medically transitioning, I was getting called Sir by strangers. I've been dressing in males clothes since 1990 and had a boyish appearance

I started passing 100% around 5 months on T. Up until then, I was so excited up until then, every time I was read as male. But now I am 8 months on T, and feel so much more comfortable within myself, that being read or treated as male just seems so natural and normal to me. It was a big deal, now it's not :)

I'm pre-t at the moment, but I do get gendered correctly quite regularly, especially in smaller towns where the binary is pretty strict (i.e. short hair = boy). I still get really giddy and surprised when it happens, it's a big confidence-booster, but my girlfriend is the one who's more used to it now. I guess she isn't so surprised because she always sees me as a guy :)

Quote from: RowansJourney on July 08, 2015, 12:33:21 AM
I'm three months in and am in the same situation!
Every time a guy calls me "bro" I turn around thinking someone's behind me.
Isn't it wonderful?  :)

Off topic, but dude, you have GREAT hair.

Whoa, that sounds awesome! A day of being a guy... I'm sorry, I'm not transitioned, but I just wanna say that that sounds so cool. I'd probably be stunned by it all.

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Nice to have you here.

We also have a youth board which can be a nice place to meet guys your same age who are going through similar issues

Nice to have you here

Cindy

I get excited when people call me 'sir' despite being pre-t. It does feel awkward at some points when i use the ladies room because lack of confidence and other reasons. I feel like i should be getting my own t shot soon.

Depends what you mean by "get used to".
Get used to, in the sense of fully expecting people to get it right? Tough to say. Over a year on T now and I might only just be to that point, particularly on the phone. 20+ years of people getting it wrong, I still dread talking on the phone even though now everyone seems to get it right.

Get used to, in the sense of it stops being great? Not there yet and not expecting to get there. Every "sir" (again particularly on the phone) is a darn good moment.

Even with Devil's Dumplings on my chest, there were still a lot of times well before my transition started that I was clocked as male.  It always surprised me.  Pleasantly surprised, mind you.  So once I began actual transition, I think it took maybe a month before I got used to everyone around me using male pronouns.  My friends and neighbours never treated me any differently.  Well, except my mate Matt.  I think he began to see me as a little brother.  Suddenly we were Bruhs.

Quote from: Amadeus on July 19, 2015, 09:02:28 PM
Even with Devil's Dumplings on my chest, there were still a lot of times well before my transition started that I was clocked as male.  It always surprised me.  Pleasantly surprised, mind you.  So once I began actual transition, I think it took maybe a month before I got used to everyone around me using male pronouns.  My friends and neighbours never treated me any differently.  Well, except my mate Matt.  I think he began to see me as a little brother.  Suddenly we were Bruhs.

Devil's Dumplings!! Sorry for a useless post, but that is funny.

I get recognized 100% of the time being 15 months on testosterone and it's still weird to me. "Thank you, Sir" "Hello, Sir". It's weird. I've got a bunch of cis guy friends who don't know I'm trans. Male society is way different from female society. Dudes are way more comfortable talking to dudes at a cash register or something than they are a girl.

Definitely have weird feels when someone calls me by the correct pronouns in person. Feel even more weird feels when I get the "Sir? Ma-? Sir????" thing going on. Still haven't figured out how to gracefully accept being addressed with male pronouns. /nervous laughter