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Title: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 11, 2015, 03:13:29 PM
Post by: stephaniec on July 11, 2015, 03:13:29 PM
I'm realizing how difficult it is to lose people. I don't have family that I acknowledge which is fine and doesn't bother me much except when I have to go to the hospital like I just did a few days ago for an operation. It's the one time in my life that bums me out because I have to go through the inquisition about having someone to take care of me in order to release me from the hospital or the inevitable why don't you have anyone? I had a niece that found me on Facebook a couple of years ago then found out I'm trans and said goodbye without using those words, but just not communicating with me any more. I'm cool with it all because I view myself as a tough little camper. My therapist is my friend and I depend on her a lot. Is it hard for others to move on when family rejects you for being trans or are you able to overcome with inner strength and self love.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 12:48:38 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 12:48:38 AM
I guess it didn't matter on forgiveness because I didn't assign them any blame. They are who they are. They may still come around, but, even if they don't, as long as I can live my life and they live theirs. I'm OK. It still hurt but it will pass.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 12:57:18 AM
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 12:57:18 AM
normally I just live my life, but whenever I have to deal with the hospital and being admitted and the 20 questions of why I have no family , it awakens the pain. I continue and live my life, it's just those moments that cause pain. I ended up yelling at one hospital person because they couldn't comprehend that I had no family.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:00:16 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:00:16 AM
Never had a hassle about that, I just told them to contact a friend or brought the friend with.
For that matter, you can claim anyone as family medical wise. They don't check and take your word for it.
For that matter, you can claim anyone as family medical wise. They don't check and take your word for it.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:02:28 AM
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:02:28 AM
I guess I'm unique , I have no one except God.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:11:01 AM
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:11:01 AM
I guess it would be pretty cool though if God showed up to take me home from the hospital
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:23:05 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:23:05 AM
That it would.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:25:22 AM
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:25:22 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:23:05 AMyour making me laugh too hard my surgery wound is killing me every time I laugh
That it would.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:30:20 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:30:20 AM
OH no! ...but I heard that laughter is good medicine.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:52:27 AM
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:52:27 AM
I think in this situation I prefer morphine
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 02:33:16 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 02:33:16 AM
I can understand that. I've had more than my share of major surgeries. Sadly, not one related to transition.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 02:39:50 AM
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 02:39:50 AM
at least I get an idea of the pain I'd encounter. it feels like they ripped apart all my stomach muscles and sewed them back together backwards.
Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 02:43:40 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 02:43:40 AM
Ye, it felt like I had to hold the guts together when I would go walking.