Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: benjibutt on July 15, 2015, 08:45:15 AM Return to Full Version
Title: transitioning after having a child
Post by: benjibutt on July 15, 2015, 08:45:15 AM
Post by: benjibutt on July 15, 2015, 08:45:15 AM
i'm not sure if this is the correct place to post this, i wasn't sure and i had made an account solely to ask this question since i couldn't find an answer after a google search.
i've always identified as male and have considered transitioning, but have put it off out of fear and reaction from others. mainly fear that once i've started transitioning, what if i change my mind and i want to go back to being a woman? since i was a kid i always knew that i was a boy but i've been a girl for so long that it's just terrifying. i hope that makes sense. i'm also in the military, and i'm positive that they would not be accepting of me transitioning.
a few months ago i found out i was pregnant from a very short-lived fling. please no judgement, there were a lot of factors leading up to that moment and i've done things i'm not proud of. i'm currently 17 weeks and the entire time i've been struggling with dealing this and my changing body mainly because i've struggled with the appearance of being a girl before hand and now it's just... in my face about it.
i was wondering if there was anyone FtM that had gone through pregnancy and transitioned afterward and if maybe, they're glad they did?
tl;dr ftm wondering about transitioning after pregnancy
i've always identified as male and have considered transitioning, but have put it off out of fear and reaction from others. mainly fear that once i've started transitioning, what if i change my mind and i want to go back to being a woman? since i was a kid i always knew that i was a boy but i've been a girl for so long that it's just terrifying. i hope that makes sense. i'm also in the military, and i'm positive that they would not be accepting of me transitioning.
a few months ago i found out i was pregnant from a very short-lived fling. please no judgement, there were a lot of factors leading up to that moment and i've done things i'm not proud of. i'm currently 17 weeks and the entire time i've been struggling with dealing this and my changing body mainly because i've struggled with the appearance of being a girl before hand and now it's just... in my face about it.
i was wondering if there was anyone FtM that had gone through pregnancy and transitioned afterward and if maybe, they're glad they did?
tl;dr ftm wondering about transitioning after pregnancy
Title: Re: transitioning after having a child
Post by: suzifrommd on July 15, 2015, 09:39:54 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on July 15, 2015, 09:39:54 AM
Hi benjibutt. Welcome to Susan's. :icon_wave:
Here are some links to site policies and other helpful information:
There are a lot of guys on this site who've had children before transitioning. I know a few IRL also. It's more common than you would expect.
There's an entire FtM section, so that's another place to look.
Here are some links to site policies and other helpful information:
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There are a lot of guys on this site who've had children before transitioning. I know a few IRL also. It's more common than you would expect.
There's an entire FtM section, so that's another place to look.
Title: Re: transitioning after having a child
Post by: LordKAT on July 16, 2015, 01:16:16 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 16, 2015, 01:16:16 AM
I had a few. I wouldn't give them up for anything. Mistake or not, I'm glad they are around even though pregnancy itself was....strange.