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Hey everybody ,this is my first post here.
Two weeks to go till i start my HRT. I'm really excited,but I've been wondering that will i pass as a women after two or three years on HRT .Being accepted as a female by society is really important to me I don't have a really masculine face or body,I'm 19.I know that there's  a lot of things that determine how passable I,am .But can i hope for some changes in bone structure in the hips,face etc or how much effect can hope for if start at this age....Thanks

Passing is far more than a face and there is much that can be done to your image without surgery to make you passable. The only work on my face in the picture was the nose and the adams apple. No, it's not sexy but i am happy with it and i don't want to change it. Makeup, hair, attitude all figure in to the picture. Without pictures, its hard to tell where you are but it is possible with a little work you might already pass. At this stage of the game I wouldn't worry about it because all the help you might need will be here for the asking.

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Thank you that was really helpful. I guess there's just more to be a women then just hormones.

Quote from: rishika on July 20, 2015, 08:34:31 PM
I guess there's just more to be a women then just hormones.

A LOT more! You are either a woman in your heart, mind and soul or you are not. Pass ability is more than 80% confidence. Confidence in who you are and where you are going. Confidence your life is on the right track and going where you want it to. Career, family and all your dreams come into it as well. HRT is not the cure all and will not make you pass at all. It will give you the right mental outlook and some physical development. You have to be aware transition is VERY expensive and time consuming. 3 years?? How about the rest of your life. You will never hit a magical conclusion if that is what you are looking for. You will however find yourself inside and out and grow into your life just like we all do. :)

So much is put on passing when I think more needs to be put on respect and blending in.

You need to learn how to fit in and not stand out.
That means the way you walk, stand, sit, type, cross a road, shop, eat, drink and so on.

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on July 20, 2015, 08:46:31 PM
Pass ability is more than 80% confidence. Confidence in who you are and where you are going. Confidence your life is on the right track and going where you want it to.

Agreed 100%  I'm a stylist. A guest came in. She was rather large, broad shouldered Amazonian 6 + woman. Deep voice. But she walked in the salon with all the confidence in the world. I didn't look twice. To me she was just a big woman.

She outed herself to me when she agreed to the mini face/neck massage in the shampoo bowl. When I moved my hands up from the base of the neck I felt the beard stubble. The thing was that even after that I did not see her as anything other than a woman. That what she was on the inside and it shined through the exterior. It's all about confidence.

I disagree about passability being 80 percent confidence. Physical body appearance cues matter a lot, in some people less, in some people more. People who don't have much in the way of physical cues hampering them tend to say it's a matter of confidence, just like I tend to say it's a matter of physical cues because I have problems with those.

Personally for me hormones didn't do much, started at age 34, been on them for 19 months. I'm hoping to get surgery for my nose and adam's apple to hopefully fix my passability issue.

But you have some good things going for you, such as starting at age 19, and I'm guessing that unlike me you're not bald and taking hormones will make it so that you probably won't go bald in the future either.

Sorry to be a party pooper, but not every trans person gets to attain passability, it's not either you're a woman in your mind, soul and heart or you're not... it's a lot more complicated and messy than that.

And you decide whether you're a woman or not, no matter what you might be "radiating" to others, because that only reflects on what they see, not who you are.