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Dearest friends and best enemies, ;) few of you will be aware that two years ago I was widowed after 25 wonderful years, and as I was getting older I must confess that I was very worried that I might never find someone again.

Worse still Alison left big boots to fill. She was a very kind gentle soul, who was wonderfully tender and loving. She also shared my passions for vintage audio, video and computer equipment, my love of music and my love or writing, and despite being the best part of 20 years my senior she had a very youthful energy. So the person I found would need to be exceptional.

This is just to let you know that I have recently found someone wonderful, who not fills those boots, but positively blows Alison out of the water. I will not name her at present, a.) because it is early days and we have to get to know each other fully before going too public, and b.) because she deserves the space to come to her own decisions about what she wants. It is up to her when she chooses to tell others and not me, and c.) because she is a member here. (She may of course choose to out herself but that must be her choice and not mine.)

While there is quite an age difference between us I do want this to be a very equal relationship, and oddly despite the age gap I think it will be.

I wanted to share this at the earliest opportunity because I wanted to encourage those of you who are feeling lonely and lost – that it can happen for you too.

In my experience what the universe sends is often way better than you expected, but you do have to keep an open mind. That said I do seem to have entered a phase in my life where all I have to do is chuck a pile of junk into the air, and when it lands it has miraculously become a Rolls-Royce.

When Alison was Ill I was adamant that I would never be the older partner in a relationship, because I would not want to put someone younger through being bereaved as I was. However I have now realised that that was all a valuable part of the learning curve. Alison tenderly nurtured me from the point where we met, where I was a young and insecure girl, with many fears and issues, to the point where I COULD face life without her, as I have now proved.

Whichever way I look at it, the idea of one partner dying before the other is a difficult one, but I would far rather have had the twenty five incredible years that I had, than have had many more years with someone less compatible and less special. I suspect Alison is sitting on her cloud right now having a jolly good chuckle at the irony.

So I wanted to share some good news. I am fully aware that I am deeply in love at the moment, and thus I realise that my spectacles are tinted pink, and my judgement is probably awry. So rest assured we are both taking this strictly one step at a time. I know the pitfalls and I will not allow either of us to get swept along and be hurt. I know that that the initial rush will soon subside, and then we will then face the task of building a lasting relationship together, but I call you all to witness that I for one am very willing to do that work. I intend this to be for life. The next couple of years will tell us whether or not that will come about.

If it can happen for me it can happen for you too. So please take heart. I cant guarantee of course, how this will progress, but we will keep you posted of developments when the time comes.

congrats

Great news!

Congratulations! I wish you all the best. There must be something going on, I've met someone too. [emoji7]

Hi Jenny that's such wonderful news...

Really great having such positive and happy stories appearing.

Congrats and best wishes moving forwards.

Katy xx

Quote from: kelly_aus on July 21, 2015, 07:07:49 PM
Congratulations! I wish you all the best. There must be something going on, I've met someone too. [emoji7]

Congrats and best wishes for you too Kelly

Katy xx

wow, maybe it's contagious, lucky we have a doctor in the house.

Congratulations Jenny and Kelly.

Congratulations:)

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Thank you all for good wishes... although just to clear up any rumours ;) I can confirm that Kelly is not the person I've found. :P By happy coincidence she has just found someone at the same time as me.

My beloved lives in the UK - which is just as well, because at the moment every minutes spent apart from her seems like an agony.

Quote from: Rejennyrated on July 22, 2015, 05:02:29 AM
Thank you all for good wishes... although just to clear up any rumours ;) I can confirm that Kelly is not the person I've found. :P By happy coincidence she has just found someone at the same time as me.

My beloved lives in the UK - which is just as well, because at the moment every minutes spent apart from her seems like an agony.

I just think it's kinda cool that we have both found someone. And if I was trying to start a rumour, I'd go for something more interesting than you and I - even though I do have a certain level of admiration for you.

And everyone else, sorry, but I don't do long distance relationships.

Quote from: kelly_aus on July 22, 2015, 05:18:04 AM
I just think it's kinda cool that we have both found someone. And if I was trying to start a rumour, I'd go for something more interesting than you and I - even though I do have a certain level of admiration for you.

And everyone else, sorry, but I don't do long distance relationships.

We're on the same page here...

Don't worry my comment was a joke. I knew what you meant and I'm sure other regular members did too. I just thought it would be quite amusing if anyone new had strayed into the thread and jumped to the wrong conclusion.

Ditto on long-distance. There is only about 50 miles between me and my beloved princess.

Jenny and Kelly,

Great news. Good luck to both and I bet the rose tinted shades look as good on you as how you see through them. Pragmatism is helpful but hold onto those shades.

With warmth,

Joanna

Very good news ladies! Everyone deserves to be happy.

I am glad you found happiness again because you are the type of person who needs somebody close to you. Having been close to a death, I can understand your feelings but it is the human condition that we all die and at sometime may leave somebody behind to be hurt by our passing. What is important is that you make the most of the years you have together because it's not alway the older person of a couple that leaves the world first. I am the oldest child in my family and have already outlive my brother. Because of medical issues it is possible I will outlive my sister as well. This was something I never expected when I was younger but it has become possible.

Many congratulations, Jenny............wishing every happiness and contentment for you and your dearest. :-*

Congratulations  :)


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