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Title: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 29, 2015, 10:02:54 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 29, 2015, 10:02:54 PM
So it must be I am a closet bisexual or pansexual without even really knowing it. I can tell you that when in a normal state I am very attracted to women and want to be in a relationship with one as a woman and two-spirit myself.
However I am wanting to make sure my sudden desire for men and to be penetrated especially if it is a bad thing due to the fact it is only happening when I am medicated. Its a legal medication and I am not addicted so don't worry there. It brings out my female side quite strongly so, its like my male side gets shut off for that duration.
I was just needing some advice on this and If I should treat this as normal or be concerned.
However I am wanting to make sure my sudden desire for men and to be penetrated especially if it is a bad thing due to the fact it is only happening when I am medicated. Its a legal medication and I am not addicted so don't worry there. It brings out my female side quite strongly so, its like my male side gets shut off for that duration.
I was just needing some advice on this and If I should treat this as normal or be concerned.
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Dena on July 29, 2015, 10:15:35 PM
Post by: Dena on July 29, 2015, 10:15:35 PM
Society places role restrictions on us and sometimes it can be surprising how effectively these restrictions can limit us. In your case, society told you you should be with women. You are now finding that there is more to you and you at least want to explore other options.
Don't worry, it happened to me as well. For years I thought I was asexual as I seemed to lack and interest in sex. After my roommate passed away and I ended the grieving process, something was different. Susan's taught me about Pansexuals and now I understand. Just having somebody in my life even without sex or romance was enough to fill my Pansexual needs. I have nobody to fill that need so the need for others in my life has become clear. I do know this time I have to very selective in finding that person because once in my life, I will not have the desire for more.
Don't worry, it happened to me as well. For years I thought I was asexual as I seemed to lack and interest in sex. After my roommate passed away and I ended the grieving process, something was different. Susan's taught me about Pansexuals and now I understand. Just having somebody in my life even without sex or romance was enough to fill my Pansexual needs. I have nobody to fill that need so the need for others in my life has become clear. I do know this time I have to very selective in finding that person because once in my life, I will not have the desire for more.
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: stephaniec on July 29, 2015, 10:17:55 PM
Post by: stephaniec on July 29, 2015, 10:17:55 PM
I feel the same way about being selective
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Serenation on July 29, 2015, 11:34:15 PM
Post by: Serenation on July 29, 2015, 11:34:15 PM
I thought I only liked girls, but like Dena said when you have the restrictions off it can be different. I am bi (technically pan but I feel silly saying that word)
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Sigyn on July 29, 2015, 11:37:09 PM
Post by: Sigyn on July 29, 2015, 11:37:09 PM
I'm unclear on the term "medicated"
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Zoetrope on July 30, 2015, 01:00:10 AM
Post by: Zoetrope on July 30, 2015, 01:00:10 AM
It's happened to me too. My sense of sexuality has been massively broadened.
Transition has uncovered all manner of dormant things within myself ... they aren't new additions. It has been a process of life slowly making more and more sense ...
Transition has uncovered all manner of dormant things within myself ... they aren't new additions. It has been a process of life slowly making more and more sense ...
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 30, 2015, 04:36:14 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 30, 2015, 04:36:14 PM
Quote from: Sigyn on July 29, 2015, 11:37:09 PM
I'm unclear on the term "medicated"
I am thinking I am not allowed to discuss that specifically. Its something that San Francisco is famous for and I am now legally able to have.
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 30, 2015, 04:38:34 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 30, 2015, 04:38:34 PM
Quote from: Zoetrope on July 30, 2015, 01:00:10 AM
It's happened to me too. My sense of sexuality has been massively broadened.
Transition has uncovered all manner of dormant things within myself ... they aren't new additions. It has been a process of life slowly making more and more sense ...
Now that its a weekday and that feeling is gone I am back to just being slightly attracted to men maybe something like 90% for women and 10% for men ....but that changes when of course I am once again medicated. So still im concerned and confused.
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Skeptoid on July 30, 2015, 09:00:43 PM
Post by: Skeptoid on July 30, 2015, 09:00:43 PM
I find men every bit as physically unattractive as before hormones. I kinda wish that wasn't the case, but so it goes.
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: iKate on July 31, 2015, 07:34:07 AM
Post by: iKate on July 31, 2015, 07:34:07 AM
I've been attracted to men before but never in a "gay" sense. I could never do it. Sorry that's just not me. But now I'm uninhibited so I'm me and that includes attraction to the opposite sex.
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Skeptoid on July 31, 2015, 08:03:03 PM
Post by: Skeptoid on July 31, 2015, 08:03:03 PM
What exactly constitutes a "'gay' sense" in this case? :P
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Tessa James on July 31, 2015, 08:15:06 PM
Post by: Tessa James on July 31, 2015, 08:15:06 PM
LMAO, Yes cannabis is a legal substance where I live too and when it's 4:20 in the afternoon there are a lot of people taking a toke somewhere leading to heightened suggestibility and a potential lowering of inhibitions. ;)
Nothing wrong with being attracted to and by men. I love men and women and feel fortunate to have been in some very good relationships with great people.
Getting stoned is not the best test of orientation or preference IMO tho ;) ;D ;D ;D
Nothing wrong with being attracted to and by men. I love men and women and feel fortunate to have been in some very good relationships with great people.
Getting stoned is not the best test of orientation or preference IMO tho ;) ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Ms Grace on July 31, 2015, 08:21:22 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on July 31, 2015, 08:21:22 PM
Quote from: Shawn Sunshine on July 30, 2015, 04:36:14 PM
I am thinking I am not allowed to discuss that specifically. Its something that San Francisco is famous for and I am now legally able to have.
Quote from: Tessa James on July 31, 2015, 08:15:06 PM
Getting stoned is not the best test of orientation or preference IMO tho ;) ;D ;D ;D
I couldn't agree more. From my own... ahem... past observations, very little that you think you believe or feel while under the influence should be regarded as a reliable indicator of reality.
Title: Re: Ok so apparently, when I am medicated, all of the sudden im attracted to men.
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 31, 2015, 09:52:04 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on July 31, 2015, 09:52:04 PM
Quote from: Ms Grace on July 31, 2015, 08:21:22 PM
I couldn't agree more. From my own... ahem... past observations, very little that you think you believe or feel while under the influence should be regarded as a reliable indicator of reality.
well from what I can tell so far it strengthens it, it was already there because I have had it happen a few times on the train/bus in san francisco since 2012, and 2012 is the year I truly came out and started my journey, of course then going back into the closet for a year in 2013/2014
The same thing happens when I drink Hard Lemonade too, and just one drink mind you! I was near the Ferry Building and a guy walked buy after I was buzzed as it were and i found him amazingly attractive.
So the more I think about this (even though it scares me cause I thought myself a lesbian) i must have something there...but still scary because my mom would go livid if i was with a guy. But again right now I would rather be in a relationship with a woman (trans or otherwise). A Gender Fluid person also would be ok.