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This post might be graphic and triggering, so please turn away from it if you don't want to read about non-op genitalia  :)

For the last month of so, I've practically been incapable of achieving an erection, and if I do get one, it doesn't stay for long. I had a spike of this whilst I was on a high dose of anti-androgen (Androcur), but I got fairly back to normal once I adjusted my dosis to a minimum while keeping my levels in a female range.
I have a boyfriend who cherishes my entire body and since I don't have a big problem with my genitalia, I'm non-op for now. I do however have problems with my genitalia not functioning to the extent that I would rather have GRS if the problems are unsolvable.

So.. I believe that maybe as your brain and body acts more womanly maybe the ability to actually have enough blood flow to the genitalia is hindered, since a woman does not have any need for an erection. Also I get stimulated on many other ways now.
My dosis of anti-androgen is as low as possible, but maybe that in itself is enough to prevent an erection.

Do any of you girls have tips and tricks for me, be it Cialis, techniques etc.?
Is it silly for a woman to be sad that she can't achieve an erection?
Hugs

You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,181089.msg1651430.html#msg1651430

rubbing on each other might be pleasurable...

well some say its kind of more likable if there is no erection... but ts indivudual...

if an erection is desired it might be a possibility to ask for testo gel... for spontaneous application...

and it depends on the person...
anti androgens seem to be low already...


hugs

My erections are just half-@$$ed at best...(no pun intended)...I'm actually embarrassed to use it, not because I'm a woman, but a limp d*ck just doesn't provide any sense of pleasure to either party.

Viagra works...sort of. 100mg (2 pills) is what I have to take, pretty expensive except mine are free samples from my Dr...all it does is prevent spontaneous deflation (unlike the footballs in Patriots' games LOL ;) ), but nothing else.

I'm using the time between now and SRS to learn how to use a vibrator to get off with just clitoral stimunaltion. I now know why women in porn have such a focused look while diddling themselves...it takes some serious concentration to O with woman parts!

Quote from: Laura_7 on August 04, 2015, 03:21:07 PM

if an erection is desired it might be a possibility to ask for testo gel... for spontaneous application...

Thanks for the tip. I'm a bit sceptic though; what I can gather from reading the pamphlet is that women aren't supposed to use it because it can result in a masculine appearance, and also that it rubs off on your partner as well unless you wear clothes over the area.
It sounds like it counteracts anti-androgen.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on August 04, 2015, 03:30:33 PM
My erections are just half-@$$ed at best...(no pun intended)...I'm actually embarrassed to use it, not because I'm a woman, but a limp d*ck just doesn't provide any sense of pleasure to either party.

Viagra works...sort of. 100mg (2 pills) is what I have to take, pretty expensive except mine are free samples from my Dr...all it does is prevent spontaneous deflation (unlike the footballs in Patriots' games LOL ;) ), but nothing else.

Haha, I love your response  ;D Really, there isn't much to do than try to joke about it.
I have thought about trying Viagra though it's expensive, but I always wondered if it has any side effects for us girls?

Quote from: RoseH on August 04, 2015, 03:38:44 PM
Thanks for the tip. I'm a bit sceptic though; what I can gather from reading the pamphlet is that women aren't supposed to use it because it can result in a masculine appearance, and also that it rubs off on your partner as well unless you wear clothes over the area.
It sounds like it counteracts anti-androgen.

It does some... talk it through with your endo...
applied locally and some time before intercourse might be an idea...


hugs

Quote from: RoseH on August 04, 2015, 03:41:09 PM
Haha, I love your response  ;D Really, there isn't much to do than try to joke about it.
I have thought about trying Viagra though it's expensive, but I always wondered if it has any side effects for us girls?

It was my endo who gave me the samples. He didn't offer any cautions or concerns. I was just straight up with him--wanted something to keep things operational until the operation.

It did not increase ejaculation or orgasm, it just allows one to get hard-ish when the mood strikes.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on August 04, 2015, 03:57:21 PM
It was my endo who gave me the samples. He didn't offer any cautions or concerns. I was just straight up with him--wanted something to keep things operational until the operation.

It did not increase ejaculation or orgasm, it just allows one to get hard-ish when the mood strikes.

It would be nice to be harder, it gives you more.. options..
I think it's maybe mostly a problem in my own head. It may just be because my genitalia has shrunken and I have to adjust to a smaller size.

Quote from: RoseH on August 04, 2015, 04:19:56 PM
It would be nice to be harder, it gives you more.. options..
I think it's maybe mostly a problem in my own head. It may just be because my genitalia has shrunken and I have to adjust to a smaller size.

Wel it might be a kind of different way ...
as said, like rubbing off on each others... with lesbians its called tribbing...

and anally might be a way for pleasurable experiences...
there are internal spots that can be stimulated, like the p-spot...
just take your time and use a condom and enough lube...


hugs

Quote from: Laura_7 on August 04, 2015, 04:28:44 PM
Wel it might be a kind of different way ...
as said, like rubbing off on each others... with lesbians its called tribbing...

and anally might be a way for pleasurable experiences...
there are internal spots that can be stimulated, like the p-spot...
just take your time and use a condom and enough lube...


hugs

Oh I know how to get stimulated, that is not a problem at all  ;D The only issue is hardness.
Since I'm in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend and none of us have STD's, we never use a condom.

I'm in the same boat as you ;D Also have a boyfriend that likes me the way I am.

This may sound illogical or contradictory, but I found the higher E dosage, the higher my libido is, the easier to get an erection (though they are not as strong and durable as pre-hrt). Also P helps with my libido and my parts.

Haven't tried Cialis, but I'm curious about it, sometimes I got more or less sudden deflations.

PD: I'm on a medium AA dosage (Flutamide & Finasteride)

Quote from: Wednesday on August 17, 2015, 09:17:31 PM
I'm in the same boat as you ;D Also have a boyfriend that likes me the way I am.

This may sound illogical or contradictory, but I found the higher E dosage, the higher my libido is, the easier to get an erection (though they are not as strong and durable as pre-hrt). Also P helps with my libido and my parts.

Haven't tried Cialis, but I'm curious about it, sometimes I got more or less sudden deflations.

PD: I'm on a medium AA dosage (Flutamide & Finasteride)

Nice to hear  ;D
Well, personally my libido is not higher.. But I find that it is still very high haha.
My boyfriend told me that he hasn't noticed I had a problem getting an erection, and that everything's fine.

I guess I just have to get used to the fact that the size has changed and that I can't maintain an erection indefinitely.

Can I say I've always thought with HRT, sex drives and a lot of transgirls that if you want it to leave, it will.

I've always had a very healthy outlook at sex, I've always tried to understand when drives me and while my wants and needs changed, my drive didn't.
I had SRS at 21, but for those years I was on HRT with my old thing, if I wanted to use it, it got used, yes I had to change the build up, what drove me there in the first place, it it worked.

Now, some years later after SRS, its like a tap, I can be turned on just as quick as I can be turned off.

Quote from: Nicole on August 18, 2015, 03:36:55 AM
Can I say I've always thought with HRT, sex drives and a lot of transgirls that if you want it to leave, it will.

I've always had a very healthy outlook at sex, I've always tried to understand when drives me and while my wants and needs changed, my drive didn't.
I had SRS at 21, but for those years I was on HRT with my old thing, if I wanted to use it, it got used, yes I had to change the build up, what drove me there in the first place, it it worked.

Now, some years later after SRS, its like a tap, I can be turned on just as quick as I can be turned off.

Thank you for adding your perspective to the topic  :)
I think it's very true, that sex drive is affected by your mentality. When we start HRT many of us experience that stimulation is not only physical any longer, but it is also highly mental.

I've had this problem before.  Try exploring your kinks and fantasies.  There's usually a wellspring of motivation there

It is a delight to hear about other girls who are comfortable with their genitalia enough to engage in intimacy that includes an erection.  I accept myself as a girl with a penis that is very functional if smaller.  Pleasure and foreplay is different but worth the effort for us.  My mental wiring has allowed me to feel my erection as internal vs external for a long time and that sure works for me.

Like so much of our lives, the real challenge is between our ears not our legs.  I know of other trans girls with varying degrees of success and desire to keep it up ;D ;D ;D

Quote from: Tessa James on August 18, 2015, 11:41:07 AM
It is a delight to hear about other girls who are comfortable with their genitalia enough to engage in intimacy that includes an erection.  I accept myself as a girl with a penis that is very functional if smaller.  Pleasure and foreplay is different but worth the effort for us.  My mental wiring has allowed me to feel my erection as internal vs external for a long time and that sure works for me.

Like so much of our lives, the real challenge is between our ears not our legs.  I know of other trans girls with varying degrees of success and desire to keep it up ;D ;D ;D

Thank you for sharing  :)
It seems like it's a minority of us who accept and are able to enjoy our birth genitalia. I very much understand the girls who feel dysphoric about their genitalia though.

I'm not quite sure why I'm fine with my genitalia. I mean, I'm very much attracted to men and their parts, but it's not like we function the same way entirely. Maybe I've just gotten used to it  :P

Quote from: Tessa James on August 18, 2015, 11:41:07 AM
It is a delight to hear about other girls who are comfortable with their genitalia enough to engage in intimacy that includes an erection.  I accept myself as a girl with a penis that is very functional if smaller.

Lol I'm the best equipped lesbian I know.  My dysphoria was always the rest of my body.  Hormones fixed what really bothered me.  I function well even on hormones (my son is proof) and I've learned to use it well.  Maybe it wouldn't be my first choice, but there are undeniable perks.  If it ain't broke, don't fix it.  I think there are a lot of us who feel that way, but most don't advertise it.  I've been told enough times that feeling like that means I'm less trans than someone else.  What is that even supposed to mean?

Quote from: Oriah on August 18, 2015, 02:55:00 PM
Lol I'm the best equipped lesbian I know.  My dysphoria was always the rest of my body.  Hormones fixed what really bothered me.  I function well even on hormones (my son is proof) and I've learned to use it well.  Maybe it wouldn't be my first choice, but there are undeniable perks.  If it ain't broke, don't fix it.  I think there are a lot of us who feel that way, but most don't advertise it.  I've been told enough times that feeling like that means I'm less trans than someone else.  What is that even supposed to mean?

Hihi  ;D
Oh, how amazing with your son! If you don't mind me asking, you conceived after you started hormones? I'm asking because I didn't have a chance to freeze my sperm before starting HRT and I read about some risks which scared me.

I think it is so incredibly stupid when other trans girls tell us we are 'less trans' and basically 'less woman'. It's my genitalia, I'm a woman, therefore it's a woman's genitalia. I haven't read any non-op tgirls speaking down to post-op tgirls for any reason, and it is certainly not their place to criticize us for not hating a part of our body. It would be easier if our minority group stood stronger together.

He was conceived 3 years after I started hormones.  All I did was stop my anti-American and sow the oats two or three times a day.  Within a month he was conceived

You were lucky to be able to get hard 2 - 5 times a day.

Quote from: mm on August 18, 2015, 04:23:14 PM
You were lucky to be able to get hard 2 - 5 times a day.

Luck has nothing to do with it.  I get hard when I want to.  I have pretty good control over my sex drive.  I've always been my most intimate sexual partner.

You must be still producing good t even being on hrt's so long.  Great you could still produce your son.

Quote from: mm on August 18, 2015, 04:48:36 PM
You must be still producing good t even being on hrt's so long.  Great you could still produce your son.

It is pretty great.  Being a mom is cool.  My T could have been high.  I get pretty horny when my estrogen gets high too

Quote from: Oriah on August 18, 2015, 04:12:31 PM
He was conceived 3 years after I started hormones.  All I did was stop my anti-American and sow the oats two or three times a day.  Within a month he was conceived

Thank you for sharing. I too would like to be a mother one day  :)

I hope you get the chance.  Its amazing

I was in a dress last night (well, for awhile anyway!  >:-) ) and when that came off my lover mentioned how tight my panties were. I told him that they were small to keep the bulge restrained. He hugged me and said:

"I think trans women should show their bulges and be proud of them."

You, sir, are a keeper!  :)

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on August 19, 2015, 08:50:44 AM
I was in a dress last night (well, for awhile anyway!  >:-) ) and when that came off my lover mentioned how tight my panties were. I told him that they were small to keep the bulge restrained. He hugged me and said:

"I think trans women should show their bulges and be proud of them."

You, sir, are a keeper!  :)

Hahaha, how nice  :P It is true though, sexy panties don't offer much restraint or coverage!

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on August 19, 2015, 08:50:44 AM
I was in a dress last night (well, for awhile anyway!  >:-) ) and when that came off my lover mentioned how tight my panties were. I told him that they were small to keep the bulge restrained. He hugged me and said:

"I think trans women should show their bulges and be proud of them."

You, sir, are a keeper!  :)

Way to go girl!  I agree with him and stopped worrying about any tucking.  With my shrinkage someone needs to look pretty close for a basket here.  I see all kinds of people in skin tight clothes every day and enjoy the parade of curves and bulges going by.  Being free to be yourself and express the true you is wonderful.

Quote from: RoseH on August 18, 2015, 03:33:12 PM
I think it is so incredibly stupid when other trans girls tell us we are 'less trans' and basically 'less woman'. It's my genitalia, I'm a woman, therefore it's a woman's genitalia. I haven't read any non-op tgirls speaking down to post-op tgirls for any reason, and it is certainly not their place to criticize us for not hating a part of our body. It would be easier if our minority group stood stronger together.

AMEN.  :)

I'm in a monogamous relationship with a woman (If I'm honest, I've slept with a guy once to see if I liked it and I found it OK, but I'll stick with my fiancee please!) and I'm only on a low dose of E, I've never taken AA's as I've not found a need for them. We have a great sex life; my genitals haven't changed much and I can still maintain a good erection. In fact, we were told we'd never have children because of Laura's bicornial womb but our son is now 3 months old and conceived naturally. Yes, we like to swap roles every now and then and we have a great bedroom life but it can be tricky to hide my bump but I manage it. I'm so lucky to have a female partner who's always been into women but is totally at home with the genitals I have and knows what to do with me haha.

In your case I suppose it's finding all those spots that stimulate and enjoying your partner. I really subscribe to healthy sex life. It's only natural really :)

"The bulge" has always been a big source of dysphoria for me...even when sitting or standing in the nude I "tuck and hide" that area.

I didn't read all the responses, but I can say this about my own personal experience.  First let me say that I love my chick stick.  Im still at 31 years old quite fascinated by it.  I am able to control my erections on hrt in the following way.  I no longer get for the most part, spontaneous erections, Ie morning wood; I get them when I get aroused.  However, being aroused after 31 months on hrt is different.  When I was a t driven person, I could achieve an erection very easily.  Now with a E driven body, I require the same stimulation as a cis woman, foreplay foreplay foreplay!!  If I have a typical session of foreplay before sex, ie; kissing, touching, oral, I can still have a very good erection, if those things don't happen, the only time I can get one is when I am pleasing myself.  Also, Anal stimulation always produces something rock hard as well.

just try different things, women have blood flow to their privates as well, blood doesn't stop flowing to your penis simply because you take hrt.

I plan to get SRS, and I don't particularly care for my penis, but it's what I have, so I use it to please my girlfriend. I have no problem getting or maintaining an erection for over an hour at any given time, despite having virtually no testosterone, and good estrogen levels. At the end of the day, sex is more a mental activity than anything else.

Hi gals,
First of all thank you for sharing your experiences!  :)

I have come to the conclusion that everyone is different. Even though I used to be completely fine with my genitalia and enjoy using it, it's like my brain is wired to believe I have a vagina. I believe my brain gets confused by the difference in perception and reality, and therefore it doesn't work like it used to.
Luckily I don't lack in pleasure anyway.

I've decided GRS is the right way for me personally (though it will be many years before I start earning money).
My beliefs stay the same though - there's no shame in enjoying the genitalia you were born with. It doesn't make you less of a woman  :)

Hi Rose I have found Cialis to be useful I am in the UK and can get it on prescription as I am also Diabetic and Erectile Dysfunction is a symptom od Diabetes and over here We get free prescriptions with this condition .The only problem I have found is knowing if or when to take them as you need to take them about an hour before .And the wife does not show any signs of being in the mood very often .But I do not like to take them unless I need them or else I can wake up in the middle of the night very uncomfortable and disphoric if I have an erotic dream LOL .So she sometimes gets to bed and is in the mood but no chance I keep telling her she has to give Me notice

Quote from: RoseH on December 18, 2015, 02:21:28 AM
Hi gals,
First of all thank you for sharing your experiences!  :)

I have come to the conclusion that everyone is different. Even though I used to be completely fine with my genitalia and enjoy using it, it's like my brain is wired to believe I have a vagina. I believe my brain gets confused by the difference in perception and reality, and therefore it doesn't work like it used to.
Luckily I don't lack in pleasure anyway.

I've decided GRS is the right way for me personally (though it will be many years before I start earning money).
My beliefs stay the same though - there's no shame in enjoying the genitalia you were born with. It doesn't make you less of a woman  :)

Some of us do reasonably change our sense of direction or goals for transition during what is an unknowable process before we get there.  By that I mean planning to transition and experiencing it are two different items for me.  I salute you for being forthright and that declaration of inclusive womanhood.  Shame is maladaptive and worthless as a response to being transgender IMO. ;D

Interested in this topic. I would like to be functional if I wanted to. Are you girls still functional?


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I'm a transwoman for decades and in recent years I'm increasing my estrogen. Thus, I have realised that my ability to achieve an erection has significantly increased. Personally, even though I'm all woman, I luv my male genitals and I'm glad that I can achieve a strong erection. I'm just as feminine as ever. In fact, my functional male genitals make me feel even more feminine.

Quote from: Charlie Nicki on September 20, 2017, 01:30:58 PM
Interested in this topic. I would like to be functional if I wanted to. Are you girls still functional?
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Yes, for this girl and my little shenis.

Quote from: Translady on January 15, 2018, 05:20:12 PM
....I'm just as feminine as ever. In fact, my functional male genitals make me feel even more feminine.

Welcome to the Place and thanks for your positive assertion about your functionality and self acceptance.  A reminder of how very diverse we all are.

Insofar as functional genitals are concerned, through the years there were many times when I had difficulty with erections. I have always had a strong libido. However, erections were at times quite difficult to achieve. I think much of that is due to irregular hormones. Nowadays my hormones are much more level, so I'm sure that plays a part in my more predictable libido. In regards to accepting people for who they are, I agree with that. Everyone has unique characteristics and different situations so labeling people is counterproductive.

Thank you for the greeting I appreciate that!

Most of the time mine function properly. Occasionally after a very long play session I will lose my erection, but never the sweet sensations. When this happens, Eve will roll me over and work directly on my prostate. She can often make me ejaculate without orgasm in spite of a completely flaccid penis. By the time I finish her orally, I am engorged again.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cock_ring

There are also tools you can use to make the erection last longer or harder. I think there are also vacuum cylinders you can use to pump and give it a work out lol. For those that want to conceive! I remember reading that you can remain on HRT and take HCG human chorionic gonadotropin which will stimulate the testicles into producing sperm. That way you can make your partner preggo!

Oh and be careful with viagra :( A trans friend of mine told me a friend of hers was given a cialis sample from a doctor to try

QuoteI met an old friend today who relayed this. He has been taking medicines for hypertension for some time. This led to problems with erectile dysfunction. His doctor gave him a sample dose of Cialis.



The morning after he took the Cialis he noticed problems with his eyesight. There is a package warning to contact your doctor if you have vision problems after taking the product. After several detailed examinations the conclusion is that his optical nerve is damaged - permanently.



I had no idea that this could happen at the first use or that the risk was permanent. Thought I might share with the group in case this is important for you.

Quote from: Charlie Nicki on September 20, 2017, 01:30:58 PM
Interested in this topic. I would like to be functional if I wanted to. Are you girls still functional?

@ Charlie Nicki:   As a non-op trans-woman my man parts are not functional at all and have not been for well over a year... and I do not miss that in the least.  I am very happy to be a woman.  Eventually I may consider SRS but that is not important to me right now.

Still functional.  Takes a bit more effort to achieve full erection, but no difficulty using it or penetrating with it, when we choose to go that route.

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@ amberwaves:   Interesting...  how long have you been on Tblockers/HRT?   

About a year after I started HRT I could no longer get erections of any significance and I had zero sperm count. 
Now 2 years into HRT, nothing happens down there.  NOTHING !!!!!!! 
      It might be time soon to take the next step.

Just shy of 20 months now.  It seems everyone responds differently, sounds like it's something to discuss with your Dr.

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@amberwaves:   Oh, I did indeed discuss it my doctor a year ago when I was just 1 year into HRT.  He said that he believes that I responded so well to HRT (developed almost a C cup, fat redistribution & female curves), face changes, less body hair, etc)  that he is not surprised about the non-function and zero sperm count...
Like you stated and just about everyone else regarding the HRT subject... everyone and every body responds differently.  After reading various testimonials regarding "change" from others on here and elsewhere, it can be a slow and impatient process or it can happen faster and more dramatically.

Quote from: amberwaves on February 09, 2018, 12:22:57 PM
Still functional.  Takes a bit more effort to achieve full erection, but no difficulty using it or penetrating with it, when we choose to go that route.

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Yes that is what I have herd that it takes effort to do get it. I guess that once that starts to happen it becomes more like a side work to keep it up and running :). I think the nightly erections were what really maintained the size. Once that is gone it does seem like it does begin to shrink. Unfortunately that automatic work was the easiest thing and having to do something similar manually can be tough and challenging when alone lol

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Certainly hormones influence libido and genitalia size and erections significantly, including mood and certain aspects of thought process even. There are however many factors involved, much of it is nutritional too as well as things that are physical such as exercise and staying active and different methods of pleasuring yourself and then how you think, therefore I take a holistic approach to it.

I'm planning to go on HRT, but I'm not really dysphoric about my penis, so I'm not planning to get SRS right now. It seems to be variable how much erectile function remains after going on estrogen, but is it still possible to have sexual feeling and an orgasm while limp?

Quote from: Lucca on August 17, 2018, 08:17:43 AM
I'm planning to go on HRT, but I'm not really dysphoric about my penis, so I'm not planning to get SRS right now. It seems to be variable how much erectile function remains after going on estrogen, but is it still possible to have sexual feeling and an orgasm while limp?

That's exactly how it was for me. Having an orgasm without an erection was a very strange feeling.

Heck yes, it is possible to have orgasm and ejaculation while limp! It happens to me occasionally, usually after a very prolonged session or a very quick one.
Once I was sitting on a rail fence watching the Rodeo and sorta pinched myself so when I stood up I moaned and gushed all over my panties! Everyone rushed over thinking I was injured. They still tease me after many years.

Both size and function have decreased substantially. Erections and ejaculation are both minimal. No spontaneous erections.