Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Tamika Olivia on August 05, 2015, 09:03:05 PM Return to Full Version
Title: There is a new wrinkle in my plan to come out to my parents.
Post by: Tamika Olivia on August 05, 2015, 09:03:05 PM
Post by: Tamika Olivia on August 05, 2015, 09:03:05 PM
Well, plan is too strong a word. I have a strong impulse to tell my parents before the end of the year, despite the inevitable consequences of that action. I want to be myself, and I want to share that with the people I love. Chips fall where they may.
Now, there is a new development that may move up or move back my timetable. My father may be offered a new position with in his company, and this may require a move. They have suggested that I, along with my sister and brother-in-law, could rent their house and live there. It's a great home, and I'd love to live there, but I'm afraid to live anywhere that I could be expelled from for being myself.
At the same time, I'm afraid to turn down the offer, because that might require me to come out before I'm prepared. I want to savor the amount of time I have with my family, as long as that may be. It would be terrible to lose them this early in the process. I'd also hate for my sister and brother-in-law to miss out on this offer, if they can't afford it without me.
It's a problem without an easy solution, and I just wanted to vent about it. Thanks for listening, all. I'm also open to any suggestions.
Hugs and Kisses,
Tamika
Now, there is a new development that may move up or move back my timetable. My father may be offered a new position with in his company, and this may require a move. They have suggested that I, along with my sister and brother-in-law, could rent their house and live there. It's a great home, and I'd love to live there, but I'm afraid to live anywhere that I could be expelled from for being myself.
At the same time, I'm afraid to turn down the offer, because that might require me to come out before I'm prepared. I want to savor the amount of time I have with my family, as long as that may be. It would be terrible to lose them this early in the process. I'd also hate for my sister and brother-in-law to miss out on this offer, if they can't afford it without me.
It's a problem without an easy solution, and I just wanted to vent about it. Thanks for listening, all. I'm also open to any suggestions.
Hugs and Kisses,
Tamika
Title: Re: There is a new wrinkle in my plan to come out to my parents.
Post by: Dena on August 05, 2015, 09:26:02 PM
Post by: Dena on August 05, 2015, 09:26:02 PM
If you have the nerves you might drop the "What do you think about than Jenner thing?" line and see what the reaction is. It would really be a good idea to settle this before the decision is made to rent the house because it could be very painful coming out after the house is in rental mode. There really is no easy solution to this and I suspect what every you decide will be make on the best information available at the time.