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Title: probably coming out tomorrow, really scared
Post by: rachel89 on August 06, 2015, 08:30:46 PM
Post by: rachel89 on August 06, 2015, 08:30:46 PM
So earlier this week, i thought my parents knew for sure, i'm not entirely sure right now, but I had a breakdown and prepared to run away (it wasn't really that good of a plan, because i don't have any money and barely any gas in the tank (not even $20). Anyway, i talked to the PFLAG leader in my area and discussed coming out. He thought it would be a good idea to involve my therapist in it. Anyways, I called my parents while I was at his house and asked them to visit the therapist with me. Unfortunately I somehow forgot to notify my therapist (irresponsible me), and I'm not sure if I am ready to come out yet because I can't just leave my parents if things go badly. I have no money, no job, and nowhere to stay if things go badly, or even if a little space is needed. this is really scary, what did I just get myself into?
Title: Re: probably coming out tomorrow, really scared
Post by: jessica32 on August 06, 2015, 08:58:39 PM
Post by: jessica32 on August 06, 2015, 08:58:39 PM
Sending u hope xoxo
Title: Re: probably coming out tomorrow, really scared
Post by: Dee Marshall on August 06, 2015, 09:15:54 PM
Post by: Dee Marshall on August 06, 2015, 09:15:54 PM
Best of luck!
Title: Re: probably coming out tomorrow, really scared
Post by: stephaniec on August 06, 2015, 10:27:33 PM
Post by: stephaniec on August 06, 2015, 10:27:33 PM
good luck
Title: Re: probably coming out tomorrow, really scared
Post by: armanddelange12 on August 07, 2015, 09:41:57 AM
Post by: armanddelange12 on August 07, 2015, 09:41:57 AM
I know your struggle mine also dont know and will never accept it
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Title: Re: probably coming out tomorrow, really scared
Post by: Laura_7 on August 07, 2015, 10:00:03 AM
Post by: Laura_7 on August 07, 2015, 10:00:03 AM
Well you might call your therapist and talk it all through with them.
well and here are some resources that might help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,193402.msg1724354.html#msg1724354
I like the twin explanation... people will be like their male/female twin, with still the same sense of humour...
And I'd say don't be nervous. Its also a matter of how things are said. If you don't push it and try to explain your feelings and needs without making reproaches you might go a long way.
If you feel like it there are helplines...
they also have a chat...
http://glnh.org/hotline/ (this is the national lgbt helpline)
http://translifeline.org
hugs
Title: Re: probably coming out tomorrow, really scared
Post by: KimSails on August 07, 2015, 12:20:43 PM
Post by: KimSails on August 07, 2015, 12:20:43 PM
I hope it goes (went?) well for you!
If you're are reading this and you've not yet had the meeting, then I'd say to try your best to be calm and explain yourself an carefully and honestly as possible. After all, you are explaining your situation to two people who presumably love you and care about you. You are explaining something about yourself that just plain *is*. It is not something you've *chosen* to be. You are (presumably) looking to figure out what steps/actions you need to take for your own happiness and sanity.
If you're are reading this and you've not yet had the meeting, then I'd say to try your best to be calm and explain yourself an carefully and honestly as possible. After all, you are explaining your situation to two people who presumably love you and care about you. You are explaining something about yourself that just plain *is*. It is not something you've *chosen* to be. You are (presumably) looking to figure out what steps/actions you need to take for your own happiness and sanity.