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Title: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: Delyth on August 10, 2015, 10:23:02 PM
Post by: Delyth on August 10, 2015, 10:23:02 PM
I finally set up a Facebook account for myself. Rather than just change the name and gender on my male account. My plan is that when I fully transition, I will come out then shut my male account and be me. If people can't accept me, they wont friend me.
I know it sounds stupid. But setting this account up feels another step in the process of becoming me.
I know it sounds stupid. But setting this account up feels another step in the process of becoming me.
Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: Sigyn on August 11, 2015, 01:42:24 AM
Post by: Sigyn on August 11, 2015, 01:42:24 AM
I did the same thing. The people on my 'male' friends list who I trust very very well are friended on my real FB, and that has been huge.
Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: destinysummerfield on August 11, 2015, 09:56:49 AM
Post by: destinysummerfield on August 11, 2015, 09:56:49 AM
I also have one set up for the real me as well matter of fact few co-workers have found it thanks to the suggested friends but no real trouble has come of it
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Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: suzifrommd on August 11, 2015, 10:40:46 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on August 11, 2015, 10:40:46 AM
Pretty much how I did it too.
Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: Mariah on August 11, 2015, 10:50:43 AM
Post by: Mariah on August 11, 2015, 10:50:43 AM
I started a new account slightly before coming out and then gradually came out to people and those who were supportive and wanted to move over did and then were removed from the old account. When I closed down the old account I removed everyone that remained and then killed the old account. Most of those who didn't move over then have decided not to, but a few did eventually send requests to my current account. Hugs
Mariah
Mariah
Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: SoroyaAR on August 11, 2015, 08:54:44 PM
Post by: SoroyaAR on August 11, 2015, 08:54:44 PM
Quote from: Delyth on August 10, 2015, 10:23:02 PMI finally set up a Facebook account for myself. Rather than just change the name and gender on my male account. My plan is that when I fully transition, I will come out then shut my male account and be me.
I did the same thing... I've slowly been moving friends over to my new account. 8) :)
Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: Peter Pan on August 16, 2015, 03:10:06 AM
Post by: Peter Pan on August 16, 2015, 03:10:06 AM
That's what I did. I made a post on my original one after I had the new one set up, and told people about my gender in better detail and said they could friend me at my new account if they were still interested in knowing me and if they supported me. I went from having ~250 friends to about 40, but. At least I know these ones are genuine. I say "good riddance". :laugh:
Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: barbie on August 16, 2015, 03:55:14 AM
Post by: barbie on August 16, 2015, 03:55:14 AM
Quote from: Delyth on August 10, 2015, 10:23:02 PM
I finally set up a Facebook account for myself. Rather than just change the name and gender on my male account. My plan is that when I fully transition, I will come out then shut my male account and be me. If people can't accept me, they wont friend me.
I know it sounds stupid. But setting this account up feels another step in the process of becoming me.
Facebook is a great place for transgender people to come out. I have been very successful.
Generally, Facebook users tend to be well-educated and open-minded, accepting my expression far better than in the real world. Of course, there have been some negative reactions and comments... But it happens to all people regardless of gender. And Facebook is evolving...
Like you, I initially hesitated to express fully myself, and self-censored my photos and sometimes postings, too. In 3-4 years, now I fully express myself.
I have received a lot of friend requests, but I try hard to maintain the number of friends below 500. Above 500, I can not interact with my Facebook friends. Most of them are the people I met, studied and worked together once in the real world.
One exception is my wife. She could see my daily activities through Facebook in the real time. As I do not hide anything, she recently started to meddle with my postings and friends. Today, I unfriended and blocked her. I did not open my Facebook account for anybody to find an excuse to criticize and control me. This was for happiness of our family.
Today's my Facebook cover photo:
(https://farm6.staticflickr.com/5735/20608987632_a727a942d2_b.jpg)
barbie~~
Title: Re: Set up a Facebook account for the real me
Post by: Valwen on August 17, 2015, 03:12:46 AM
Post by: Valwen on August 17, 2015, 03:12:46 AM
I sorta went the opposite I hate social media the only reason I created a facebook account was as a way to keep in touch with friends for a MMO so I had less than a dozen people on my friends list when I let it die. Two or so years later this was about 2 months ago I started poking it again and decided that I had already come out to like 10 of the 12 people on my friends list so I reactivated it and changed my name and gender inviting a few new people after that.
I also had to block all but friends from everything and all these other things, then the next day someone who did not know tried to friend me I spent a few hours debating accepting it and thus letting them know and finally decided to take the plunge, I also spent some time writing up a explanation/coming out letter to post then another letter explaining how its a secret and all that jazz.
The night after that I walked into my friendly local game store during Friday night Magic 50+ people most of whom I only sorta know but all of whom know me, I was wearing a floral skirt and simple black top with a scoop neck, it sorta made that second post about it being a secret a huge waste of time. :-P
now most of my facebook are family and friends who support me so I sometimes post things that I need to say and things that I think might help them understand me better.
Serena
I also had to block all but friends from everything and all these other things, then the next day someone who did not know tried to friend me I spent a few hours debating accepting it and thus letting them know and finally decided to take the plunge, I also spent some time writing up a explanation/coming out letter to post then another letter explaining how its a secret and all that jazz.
The night after that I walked into my friendly local game store during Friday night Magic 50+ people most of whom I only sorta know but all of whom know me, I was wearing a floral skirt and simple black top with a scoop neck, it sorta made that second post about it being a secret a huge waste of time. :-P
now most of my facebook are family and friends who support me so I sometimes post things that I need to say and things that I think might help them understand me better.
Serena