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Title: Parents aren't taking me seriously. :/
Post by: iLoveCats on August 11, 2015, 07:20:26 PM
Post by: iLoveCats on August 11, 2015, 07:20:26 PM
I just came out to them and they literally laughed in my face.They didn't take me serious.How can I make them take me serious. I feel so done right now. I just don't know what to do :(
Title: Re: Parents aren't taking me seriously. :/
Post by: lost._.at._.sea on August 11, 2015, 07:30:43 PM
Post by: lost._.at._.sea on August 11, 2015, 07:30:43 PM
How old are you? In my opinion, if you're pretty young, just give them time, and as time goes on do things to show that you're serious.
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Title: Re: Parents aren't taking me seriously. :/
Post by: Mariah on August 11, 2015, 07:36:10 PM
Post by: Mariah on August 11, 2015, 07:36:10 PM
I would let your parents know how you feel and try to educate them so they can understand better. Secondly, time maybe something you may need to give. I'm assuming your still under 18 and if that is a case maybe you can them to take you to a therapist at which point it can be done in front of them again which might also help. Hugs
Mariah
Mariah
Title: Re: Parents aren't taking me seriously. :/
Post by: suzifrommd on August 11, 2015, 07:53:39 PM
Post by: suzifrommd on August 11, 2015, 07:53:39 PM
Quote from: iLoveCats on August 11, 2015, 07:20:26 PM
I just came out to them and they literally laughed in my face.They didn't take me serious.How can I make them take me serious. I feel so done right now. I just don't know what to do :(
One thing to try is to explain dysphoria to them. Transgender people who ignore their gender often suffer severe anxiety and depression because of the constant negative messages their brain is giving them.
Our gender can very literally destroy us.
Try to make your parents understand that you need them in your journey. It's a journey you have to make. The alternative is unendurable despair. Ask them whether that's what they want for you.
Title: Re: Parents aren't taking me seriously. :/
Post by: HoneyStrums on August 11, 2015, 09:08:34 PM
Post by: HoneyStrums on August 11, 2015, 09:08:34 PM
show them exacly what they just told you.
when ever they ask you what you want, wether it be food, clothes, toys, tell them what they just told you, it doesnt matter.
keep telling them it doesnt matter what you want, and tell them to just get what they want. they might tell you to not be so silly, and that ofcouse it matters what you want, but tell them "no it doesnt" when ever they ask you, why you feel as though it doesnt matter what you want, tell them they wont understand.
and when they start to get upset, tell them what you want. and if they luagth at you, yell at you, or tell you your silly, say, i told you it didnt matter, and that you wouldnt understand.
do this long enough, and maybe just maybe, what they dont understand might start mattering to them.
hugs.
Unfortunatelly, I didnt come out untill I was 25, But by this time, I was old enough and misserable ehough, that when I told my father that, I wished I wasnt the way I am, And that no matter how hard I tried to make It go away it wasnt going too. He understood that, If i couldnt make it go away, he couldnt do anything about it.
I dont know how old you are, but it seems as though you younger then I was when I came out, and if so remember this, no matter how far in the future things might seem to be, your still even as you are now, closer to things then I was.
Hugs
when ever they ask you what you want, wether it be food, clothes, toys, tell them what they just told you, it doesnt matter.
keep telling them it doesnt matter what you want, and tell them to just get what they want. they might tell you to not be so silly, and that ofcouse it matters what you want, but tell them "no it doesnt" when ever they ask you, why you feel as though it doesnt matter what you want, tell them they wont understand.
and when they start to get upset, tell them what you want. and if they luagth at you, yell at you, or tell you your silly, say, i told you it didnt matter, and that you wouldnt understand.
do this long enough, and maybe just maybe, what they dont understand might start mattering to them.
hugs.
Unfortunatelly, I didnt come out untill I was 25, But by this time, I was old enough and misserable ehough, that when I told my father that, I wished I wasnt the way I am, And that no matter how hard I tried to make It go away it wasnt going too. He understood that, If i couldnt make it go away, he couldnt do anything about it.
I dont know how old you are, but it seems as though you younger then I was when I came out, and if so remember this, no matter how far in the future things might seem to be, your still even as you are now, closer to things then I was.
Hugs
Title: Re: Parents aren't taking me seriously. :/
Post by: Dena on August 11, 2015, 09:29:59 PM
Post by: Dena on August 11, 2015, 09:29:59 PM
I wrote the letter contained in the following thread for cases where the parents weren't accepting. It still hasn't been tested very much so I don't know if it will be effective but you might take a glance at it and see if you think it will help
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190312.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190312.0.html)
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190312.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190312.0.html)