Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: vanessa.w on August 14, 2015, 04:42:42 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Am I transgender?
Post by: vanessa.w on August 14, 2015, 04:42:42 AM
Post by: vanessa.w on August 14, 2015, 04:42:42 AM
I know I only can answer this myself but I just wanted to hear some thoughts and opinions. I Don't know if I'm transgender i feel like I am but the thing is, I find myself more attractive as a female and I like the way I look i can live with being a female for the rest of my life but like when I dress up i get excited and turned on idk if that means I'm not trans but i would like to go on hrt to look and feel more like a woman. I am only attracted to women do idk if that has something to do with it.
Title: Re: Am I transgender?
Post by: suzifrommd on August 14, 2015, 04:52:40 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on August 14, 2015, 04:52:40 AM
Attraction to woman/men has nothing to do with whether you're trans.
Only you will know if you're transgender or not. Some people find going to a therapist that specializes in gender is helpful, others work on their own.
The feelings you're describing are certainly feelings that many of us have had.
Keep asking questions, Vanessa, and welcome to Susan's Place.
Only you will know if you're transgender or not. Some people find going to a therapist that specializes in gender is helpful, others work on their own.
The feelings you're describing are certainly feelings that many of us have had.
Keep asking questions, Vanessa, and welcome to Susan's Place.
Title: Re: Am I transgender?
Post by: Tamika Olivia on August 14, 2015, 06:34:26 AM
Post by: Tamika Olivia on August 14, 2015, 06:34:26 AM
As has been stated, only you hold that particular answer. However, I've heard it said that if you're asking the question, then there is a good chance you are. Gender identity is a spectrum, and people who fall at the end where their gender identity and biological sex are in complete union, rarely question the union. When you're elsewhere on the spectrum, when there is mismatch between gender and sex, you are by definition trans*. And we are the people that usually have to question the mismatch.
Where are you on the spectrum, how can you address the mismatch, what does it mean for you? These are harder, more complex questions, but you can only start to working on them after answering the first.
Where are you on the spectrum, how can you address the mismatch, what does it mean for you? These are harder, more complex questions, but you can only start to working on them after answering the first.
Title: Re: Am I transgender?
Post by: KristinaM on August 14, 2015, 08:44:02 AM
Post by: KristinaM on August 14, 2015, 08:44:02 AM
Agreed. If you're questioning your gender at all, then you are likely not cis. Cis-people are content with their mind/body alignment and have no need or desire to figure out if they're supposed to be that way or not.
Welcome to the club!
Now it's just a matter of figuring out where on that spectrum you actually fit. Maybe you'll want to fully transition, maybe you'll just want to cross dress, maybe you'll want to flip flop from day to day, week to week, month to month, etc... The realm of gender expression is a buffet! Pick and choose until you figure out what satiates your hunger!
Welcome to the club!
Now it's just a matter of figuring out where on that spectrum you actually fit. Maybe you'll want to fully transition, maybe you'll just want to cross dress, maybe you'll want to flip flop from day to day, week to week, month to month, etc... The realm of gender expression is a buffet! Pick and choose until you figure out what satiates your hunger!