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Title: Shopping for stealth: a soul crushing exercise
Post by: Sarah82 on August 19, 2015, 11:10:53 PM
Post by: Sarah82 on August 19, 2015, 11:10:53 PM
So I had to go shopping for new cloths, new men's cloths.
Even walking into the store was difficult, trying on the clothes was harder still, looking in the mirror to check the fit was crushing. I could have broken down and cried then and there.
Six months ago this would not have bothered me as much but since coming out it has been a totally different experience.
To make matters worse my grandmother had come with me, and despite my having come out to her, she insisted on telling me "how handsome" the cloths made me look and what a good looking young man I had become with my weight loss.
I wanted to scream and cry but I know that won't solve anything... I may still cry later though.
Even walking into the store was difficult, trying on the clothes was harder still, looking in the mirror to check the fit was crushing. I could have broken down and cried then and there.
Six months ago this would not have bothered me as much but since coming out it has been a totally different experience.
To make matters worse my grandmother had come with me, and despite my having come out to her, she insisted on telling me "how handsome" the cloths made me look and what a good looking young man I had become with my weight loss.
I wanted to scream and cry but I know that won't solve anything... I may still cry later though.
Title: Re: Shopping for stealth: a soul crushing exercise
Post by: stephaniec on August 19, 2015, 11:25:06 PM
Post by: stephaniec on August 19, 2015, 11:25:06 PM
sorry, it's hard sometimes if not always for people other than yourself to understand.
Title: Re: Shopping for stealth: a soul crushing exercise
Post by: KristinaM on August 20, 2015, 08:15:22 AM
Post by: KristinaM on August 20, 2015, 08:15:22 AM
It's definitely soul crushing when all my girl pants are dirty! I can't stand wearing my old men's slacks... They're so baggy and I feel like they overemphasize that I need room in the crotch area to store something that I typically keep tucked away now. sigh...
Going shopping for some girl's jeans tonight though so I don't have to wear my men's jeans to work tomorrow!
Going shopping for some girl's jeans tonight though so I don't have to wear my men's jeans to work tomorrow!
Title: Re: Shopping for stealth: a soul crushing exercise
Post by: Sarah82 on August 20, 2015, 06:35:38 PM
Post by: Sarah82 on August 20, 2015, 06:35:38 PM
That sounds like a good idea, a little retail therapy :)
Thank you for your replies, I'm feeling better today and plan to do some window shopping and plan some purchases for when I start my wardrobe.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Hugs
Bobbi
Thank you for your replies, I'm feeling better today and plan to do some window shopping and plan some purchases for when I start my wardrobe.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Hugs
Bobbi
Title: Re: Shopping for stealth: a soul crushing exercise
Post by: victoriafrantic on August 20, 2015, 06:51:41 PM
Post by: victoriafrantic on August 20, 2015, 06:51:41 PM
Ugh. I'm probably going to have to go shopping for boy clothes at some point too, I can imagine how much that must suck.
Title: Re: Shopping for stealth: a soul crushing exercise
Post by: accidentallyhipster on August 20, 2015, 07:03:24 PM
Post by: accidentallyhipster on August 20, 2015, 07:03:24 PM
I totally get that. It's almost like the "compliments" from others are the worst part; which sucks because they are intending the opposite reaction. If you can avoid shopping with people aren't supportive. I rarely buy clothing with anyone but my partner because I can't handle that anxiety anymore. I hope you get something that you like soon, and that helps you feel better... *hugs*