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Title: Scared of disappointing my mum?
Post by: karalee on August 23, 2015, 07:01:22 PM
Post by: karalee on August 23, 2015, 07:01:22 PM
I'm really conflicted right now.
A few weeks ago i was planning to come out to both my parents. But in that week my father left my mum for another woman. I was more upset for my mum then the whole situation. But now I don't want to hurt her or disappoint her. She's been through so much in a few weeks, I woukd feel bad. And now she keeps calling me the man of the house, and I should act more like a man. I so confuse right now on what to do ??? :'(
A few weeks ago i was planning to come out to both my parents. But in that week my father left my mum for another woman. I was more upset for my mum then the whole situation. But now I don't want to hurt her or disappoint her. She's been through so much in a few weeks, I woukd feel bad. And now she keeps calling me the man of the house, and I should act more like a man. I so confuse right now on what to do ??? :'(
Title: Re: Scared of disappointing my mum?
Post by: Dena on August 23, 2015, 07:26:55 PM
Post by: Dena on August 23, 2015, 07:26:55 PM
That is really a problem that you shouldn't have to be facing. Your mom is calling you the man of the family to help you feel in control of things and to try and help you not feel the void left by your father. It is good that you are giving you mother some time to get over her loss, but rather than accept the role of head of the house, you need to make your mother understand that she is important to you and that she really is the head of the house now. Once she finds her new self instead of replacing her lost husband, it will be time for you to discuss your issues. You are being really strong and adult in this and I am sure your mother appreciates it.