Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: MugwortPsychonaut on September 02, 2015, 11:59:12 AM Return to Full Version

Title: The cretenous male gaze
Post by: MugwortPsychonaut on September 02, 2015, 11:59:12 AM
Sometimes I'll see an attractive woman out and about, and I'll check her out. And I feel like a creep, because I still have guilt from once having been male, or some facsimile of male. Of course I don't see a woman as just a pair of tits and a nice ass, or something stupid like that. Christ, even this "apology" feels like it comes from a place of maleness.

I'm not saying I feel male in anyway. I transitioned BECAUSE I'm already female on the inside. I'm just saying there's some leftover guilt of checking out another girl. Insecurity, I guess.

By the way, I have zero guilt when I ogle over some hot guy.  :P
Title: Re: The cretenous male gaze
Post by: KristinaM on September 02, 2015, 01:36:05 PM
From what I understand, even cis-women check out other women too if they find them attractive. <3 I know I'll probably never stop, lol. I'm still VERY much attracted to women moreso than men.
Title: Re: The cretenous male gaze
Post by: MugwortPsychonaut on September 02, 2015, 01:45:19 PM
Yeah, you're right. And I know this! It's just lingering guilt. I always felt guilty for being male.
Title: Re: The cretenous male gaze
Post by: sparrow on September 02, 2015, 05:08:05 PM
I've known a fair number of lesbians over the years, and some of them are pretty "awful" in this regard: they enjoy the locker room every bit as much as Mike Huckabee would.  That said, I try not to be like them.  My dad used to get kinda creepy.  I try to be better than that.

There's a fine line, I guess.  Looking?  Okay.  Staring?  Not okay, unless she's taking her clothes off for tips.