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My wife and her friends have a monthly girls night and we will be hosting it this time around (this week) :-\. In the past I would just leave if it was here. This time I intend to be here as Rita, I told one of her friends about me, but no one else knows.
They are all pretty open minded, so I dont have much fear about being outed, just fear about how I will look as no one other than my wife has seen me in years. Ive gotten my look down pretty well, but I still struggle with that "guy" I see now and then in the mirror....

wish me luck!

I should listen to my own advice, but look at this as a fun challenge. Wear your lucky dress, and before you go into this prep that it will be a success.

Good luck

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Good girl!

Try and relax and enjoy. And we want all the goss!

I do wish you luck. It sounds like you have a supportive group. I can't speak from experience but what has happened for me recently was I came out to one friend and went to a transwoman group.,,, not dressed or anything. I'm not ready for anything like that but I could not believe what a difference being who I was in a supportive group. Even though I barely spoke and cried once, I felt for the first time visible, supported, and maybe more important, part of something... not alone. Much like being here but better.


Dori.

Thank you....  :D

I will post here afterward and tell how well it went! :o

The one girl I told, doesnt know I will be Rita... she only knows I am making my friend famous chili....

she will be delighted, I know! ..... her partner...Im not so sure how she will take it... she tends to be quiet and dark personality.... sort of like I was while suffering through "guy mode"

the 2 of us would be the quiet ones at parties... even when we were alone, we barely spoke...

a couple others we arent sure if they are coming, but my wife assures me they are open minded as well

Its great you have your wife's support. I will need to bring this up with mine soon. I'm not sure at all how she will take it. I'm tired of secrets. Once again, good luck. Hope you find some real friends.


Dori.

How old is everyone?  I found that I was very well received by a group of girls that i met recently.  All about 22-40 years old.  But they never knew the old me, only the new me, so it's a little different there...

Heh, this is kind of actually how my transition started! I'd have some female friends come over. They'd dress me up as a girl. We'd all blaze, drink wine, and play video games. We'd do this regularly and call it a girls' night. It was like a dream come true.  :laugh:

I bet you're going to do just fine. :)

Quote from: dori on September 08, 2015, 08:09:59 AM
Its great you have your wife's support. I will need to bring this up with mine soon. I'm not sure at all how she will take it. I'm tired of secrets. Once again, good luck. Hope you find some real friends.


Dori.

I lived in secret in my first/second marriages, I then decided that no other relationship would hold me prisoner like that.
It was a turn on for all but 1 out of 5...so I was able to wear cute PJs and stuff around the house, which is really all I did for the most part.

Good luck to you as well

Quote from: KristinaM on September 08, 2015, 08:54:46 AM
How old is everyone?  I found that I was very well received by a group of girls that i met recently.  All about 22-40 years old.  But they never knew the old me, only the new me, so it's a little different there...

pretty much that age....

Quote from: MugwortPsychonaut on September 08, 2015, 12:15:08 PM
Heh, this is kind of actually how my transition started! I'd have some female friends come over. They'd dress me up as a girl. We'd all blaze, drink wine, and play video games. We'd do this regularly and call it a girls' night. It was like a dream come true.  :laugh:

I bet you're going to do just fine. :)

Thats awesome :D

Just relax and be yourself.

I have friends who invite me to "girls night" things and as far as everyone is concerned I am just one of the girls.

O.K. god I'm really old..... what in the world is "We'd all blaze" ? I do get the drink wine and video game part at least...

My just be me... Precautionary principle and all that but... I'd quietly let them all know before the party. Surprising people means there's less time for them to process a reaction. Now, I'm NOT saying you should expect a negative reaction at all! But things like  uncontrolled
laughter and tears are common reactions to shock. It's totally natural.

As long as you're gonna be able to take the reactions without being upset, go for it but, if you think you might get upset, give a little warning. They might be mortified to accidently hurt your feelings

Thanks for the advice ;D

todays the day

Im hanging out at home for the most part, just chillin

take my time getting ready cooking, picking up round the house

I found what I want to wear (I think :-\)

comfy, but sexy... sort of rocker chick
I wanted to make sure they saw me as a first impression
so Im letting that show... was thinking of being more conservative
but that would be me...

ran the choices by the wife and shes like Yep!  shes so supportive
anything I want to wear, do, go... shes like Yep!.... do it

Fingers crossed. Hope all goes well and try and have a great time!


Dori.

 ;D

It went Great!

turned out to only be the 2 girls, but there was no weird moments... everything was perfect!

of course I changed over and over the last hour and settled on something I hadnt even considered

but I was super comfy and that helped the evening be easier

and we did text them that something would be different and they knew what we meant

thanks for the advice

I'm very pleased all went well. Your story makes me hopeful. I hope I could be as brave.


Dori.

Ive been babystepping for the last month and challenging myself to do a little more each day

as each day goes by uneventful... it gets easier