Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Batmanlovr on September 11, 2015, 10:48:16 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Just ranting
Post by: Batmanlovr on September 11, 2015, 10:48:16 PM
Post by: Batmanlovr on September 11, 2015, 10:48:16 PM
Okay I don't know exactly where to put this soo if it needs to be moved then I don't mind
I'm so tired of society thinking they can make up the rules about how someone should look, as in dress or wear their hair. My 5 year old niece comes to me last week and asks me '' can you cut all my hair off '' she wanted it short as in a buzz cut and so I asked it if was alright and her mother (my sister) allowed me to do it cause she doesn't mind that her daughter likes to dress up in boy clothes, play with hot wheels and so forth. Well today she comes to me and goes '' uncle Gage '' ( I love how she get's my pronouns right and get's mad when everyone else misgenders me it's adorable) '' why does everyone keep calling me a boy? '' and it saddened me cause she will get super upset about it and scream '' I am a girl ''. There is also this little boy in her class and he wears his hair long, shaven on the sides and braided down the middle kinda like Leland from dog the bounty hunter and today I over heard him asking his mom when me and my sister when to pick up my niece '' mom why does everyone call me a girl cause of my long hair''. Why should society tell us how we want to wear our hair! why can't a little girl wear her hair short and a little boy wear his hair long, why can't they wear the clothes they want, why do they tell us we have to act and be the gender that we were born as! I hate this world
I'm so tired of society thinking they can make up the rules about how someone should look, as in dress or wear their hair. My 5 year old niece comes to me last week and asks me '' can you cut all my hair off '' she wanted it short as in a buzz cut and so I asked it if was alright and her mother (my sister) allowed me to do it cause she doesn't mind that her daughter likes to dress up in boy clothes, play with hot wheels and so forth. Well today she comes to me and goes '' uncle Gage '' ( I love how she get's my pronouns right and get's mad when everyone else misgenders me it's adorable) '' why does everyone keep calling me a boy? '' and it saddened me cause she will get super upset about it and scream '' I am a girl ''. There is also this little boy in her class and he wears his hair long, shaven on the sides and braided down the middle kinda like Leland from dog the bounty hunter and today I over heard him asking his mom when me and my sister when to pick up my niece '' mom why does everyone call me a girl cause of my long hair''. Why should society tell us how we want to wear our hair! why can't a little girl wear her hair short and a little boy wear his hair long, why can't they wear the clothes they want, why do they tell us we have to act and be the gender that we were born as! I hate this world
Title: Re: Just ranting
Post by: Elis on September 12, 2015, 04:00:54 AM
Post by: Elis on September 12, 2015, 04:00:54 AM
This is what annoys me the most >:(. I want to be fem and have my ear pierced (not saying that can't be masculine, but I don't care if the earrings are gendered male or female, as long as I like them), but my dad would never approve. I want to move out soon so you bet I'm going to buy the girliest decorations possible :D. The world is slowly changing, I have no doubt in our lifetime we'll be a lot more open.
Title: Re: Just ranting
Post by: immortal gypsy on September 12, 2015, 05:01:34 AM
Post by: immortal gypsy on September 12, 2015, 05:01:34 AM
Unfortunetly this is what can happen when people fail to seperate peronality from gender.
Title: Re: Just ranting
Post by: suzifrommd on September 12, 2015, 05:02:42 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on September 12, 2015, 05:02:42 AM
Quote from: Batmanlovr on September 11, 2015, 10:48:16 PM
Why should society tell us how we want to wear our hair! why can't a little girl wear her hair short and a little boy wear his hair long, why can't they wear the clothes they want, why do they tell us we have to act and be the gender that we were born as! I hate this world
Well to be precise, no one is telling her not to wear her hair that way, they're just using it as a gender cue.
Gender identification is powerful, right? That's why we literally go crazy if we can't be seen as the gender we identify with. That isn't any different for cis people. It helps them (and us) to have gender norms that reassure them that the fit in with other members of their gender.
Title: Re: Just ranting
Post by: Trillian on September 12, 2015, 06:53:59 AM
Post by: Trillian on September 12, 2015, 06:53:59 AM
I will try to explain with a joke from a friend psychiatrist. "Your subconsciousness drives your sex desire, your consciousness tells you how to do it and society tells you - Please not on the street! "
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