Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: naa on September 28, 2015, 09:49:04 AM Return to Full Version
Title: I feel stuck
Post by: naa on September 28, 2015, 09:49:04 AM
Post by: naa on September 28, 2015, 09:49:04 AM
I don't know what to do. I feel stuck. I want to go further along exploring what I am, but I'm such a chicken I can't see how I can do much besides sneaking about, crossdressing unconvincingly in private.
I've not been exploring it for long, just a few months. There are times where I feel more excited and motivated than I have for years because of it, then an instant later I realise how much I suck at all this, and how I just am too much of a chicken to go further with it, and suddenly I feel like crap.
I have no idea what to do. I suck so bad at this. I want to go further, but I just can't.
I've not been exploring it for long, just a few months. There are times where I feel more excited and motivated than I have for years because of it, then an instant later I realise how much I suck at all this, and how I just am too much of a chicken to go further with it, and suddenly I feel like crap.
I have no idea what to do. I suck so bad at this. I want to go further, but I just can't.
Title: Re: I feel stuck
Post by: Greeneyes on September 28, 2015, 10:14:11 AM
Post by: Greeneyes on September 28, 2015, 10:14:11 AM
I was there for almost a year before I decided to do something about it. I started seeing a gender therapist, and that was the start of my journey. I'm still in the middle of it, and I still have bad days. Today is actually pretty bad, but I know that there will be good days too. Obviously I don't know your situation, but my advice would be to find a therapist. It helps more than you might imagine.
~Kristen
~Kristen
Title: Re: I feel stuck
Post by: JoanneB on September 28, 2015, 10:16:48 AM
Post by: JoanneB on September 28, 2015, 10:16:48 AM
An incredibly beneficial and easy baby-step is finding some sort of local trans support group.
Title: Re: I feel stuck
Post by: Shawna70 on September 28, 2015, 10:49:48 AM
Post by: Shawna70 on September 28, 2015, 10:49:48 AM
Yes, support groups help tremendously in guiding you on a path of success. Dont reinvent the wheel rather use the knowledge of others who have gone before you. Life is about learning and most of it someone has already figured out how to do the hard things. Also known as hard knocks!
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Title: Re: I feel stuck
Post by: Skylar1992 on September 29, 2015, 04:45:33 AM
Post by: Skylar1992 on September 29, 2015, 04:45:33 AM
Trust me you aren't chicken if your cross dressing in public, that takes alot more guts than you would think :P
It's totally up to you how far you go, but get educated on the different processes, for example I thought GRS was a cake walk, it's not and has some life long implications of course. If you want to stop at being a cross dressing male or identifying as female and having no treatment thats fine, if you want to go half way, have the hormones but not GRS that is fine, if you want to go the full way that is fine, but always make sure you are comfortable with it :)
It's totally up to you how far you go, but get educated on the different processes, for example I thought GRS was a cake walk, it's not and has some life long implications of course. If you want to stop at being a cross dressing male or identifying as female and having no treatment thats fine, if you want to go half way, have the hormones but not GRS that is fine, if you want to go the full way that is fine, but always make sure you are comfortable with it :)