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So I'm 9 months in and it's diminishing quickly. I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I heard I can talk to my doctor to have my medicine adjusted. What about long term though? Will I ever get my drive back or will I be stuck like this? How about after SRS/Orchi? I'm just a little scared...

Get your T levels checked and adjusted back to normal female levels. Your endo will do this.

It's not so much that your sex drive has gone, it has just changed and requires different stimulation now. When testosterone is running rampant it doesn't really take much to kick the drive into top gear, but without it chances are you need to rediscover what turns you on and possibly work a bit harder at it. But I'd also speak to your doc, there may be something that can be done to adjust the medication.

Exactly what Grace said!

Ever wonder why cis-females during sex often tend to need more foreplay, stimulation, body contact, and being sensual? They also rely on emotions more so than men do, both in the actual relationship itself and during sex.

You've just been used all your life to achieving climax as a male, now you need to learn to do it as female!  :D

Presuming that your hormone regimen includes T blockers,  it will never be the same as before.  Just as natal females' hormone levels are regulated by their menstrual cycles, natal males have a cycle as well.  However, while the female cycle is a monthly cycle, the male cycle is daily.  High in the AM and tapering off as the day progresses. What you get with the introduction of E and the diminishment of T is a steady stream of E into your endocrine system. We (meaning trans women on cross sex hormone therapy) are not subject to the fluctuations of either the former male cycle or the monthly cycles that natal females experience.  In some ways, we are the equivalent of the post menopausal female.  Many of whom request E therapy to manage their loss of E and the associated symptoms as they age. We however need it to achieve & maintain feminization. As previously stated, we have to re-learn our sexual response and our expectations. 

I celebrated the loss of my libido.

When it's gone you say "Yaaaay, no more torture."


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sex is overrated anyway

You should have an orgasm a few times a month. Use your imagination and your hands to caress.

What is this "libido" you gals speak of?

(low T for life...)

As other have said, I celebrate it. I am 2 months in (T blockers and E), and my sex drive, at least I a male form (erections, thinking about it all the time... etc.) Is gone. I always hated my male sexuality, and life is just so much better, and less stress.

I am slowly developing a new kind of sexual pleasure, and, what could I say, men don't know what they are missing... it takes way longer to get anywhere, but once there, oh G... 😃

Quote from: Abby S. on October 25, 2015, 09:00:28 PM
As other have said, I celebrate it. I am 2 months in (T blockers and E), and my sex drive, at least I a male form (erections, thinking about it all the time... etc.) Is gone. I always hated my male sexuality, and life is just so much better, and less stress.

I am slowly developing a new kind of sexual pleasure, and, what could I say, men don't know what they are missing... it takes way longer to get anywhere, but once there, oh G... [emoji2]

Yes!!! Omg!

You can't miss what you didn't have in the first place. As others have stated it is a matter of finding out what turns you on now with how your sex drive works now. Hugs
Mariah

I am a recovering sex addict. Like a couple of others above me have said, I welcome the reduced libido. In my case anyway it has substantially cut down on poor choices I was notorious for in the past.

Just came across this today and thought it was relevant to the thread.  :D :D

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My sex drive is totally gone, and it's kind of feel good though. I can not remember how it feel like when you need to get masturbation everyday. And when I think of sex, I have the same feeling of when I think of brushing my teeth LOL.

I was happy it was gone! Yay! No more being slave to that hormone!

Now I'm slave to another hormone instead! lol

The ramp up is crucial to enjoying sex as female.  The emotional connection, the slow caresses, etc.  Spend time on that and you'll enjoy sex again.