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Well, I have always wanted to move out of my dad's house. But when I actually start to transition, I'd like to move to an entirely different location altogether. Especially because I would see this transition as a way for me to start over. I want every bit of my past erased from every existing document out there and I don't even want to be associated with my current dialysis facility anymore. I want to change all my doctors, except of course whoever my endocrinologist and surgeon would be. I want whoever I meet from the day I begin my transition, to know me as Phoenix and only that!

I suppose this is what everyone means by going stealth. Has anyone here had any success with this stealth stuff? I probably will cut off all family as well and go No Contact with my narcissistic dad.

I can't wait to be free! =)

~Nixy~

I was forced to do a pretty clean break twice. The first time when I moved to California for treatment. I had many lonely nights in my apartment when I wanted someone to keep me company or talk with. I still had my family but long distance was costly so I limited it to an hour on the week ends. The second clean break was when I lost my job and switched roles to find a new job. Months of looking for work waiting for something in the mail box or for the phone to ring. My view is keep as many friends as possible around you because it gets lonely until you establish a new life. Having to keep stealth is much harder than it sounds. You find your self constantly watching what you say to avoid give clues. You may avoid conversation knowing where they will go which makes it harder to make friends.

Far as I know your trans status will always be on your medical records - it makes sense in case they ever have to treat you for something specific to your original biology - other than that, clean breaks are perfectly possible. I've done them many times, and not even for the reason of trans issues. Just because I like them, fresh places and new faces.

Quote from: T.K.G.W. on November 02, 2015, 07:37:42 AM
Far as I know your trans status will always be on your medical records - it makes sense in case they ever have to treat you for something specific to your original biology...

Yeah, I did forget about that. Well, that sorta sucks. I mean, that's one huge reason I strive so hard to take care of myself right now. There's no way to have my assigned birth certificate replaced or at least completely erased to help with my identity in regards to my medical records also? Heck, I'm not even sure how I am gonna approach all of this. I just know once my name and gender marker is changed(or "corrected," rather) to reflect my true identity, life will still be tough but it'll get much easier than it is now, man. :)

And at least if I do relocate to an unfamiliar area, people won't shout their obliviously rude greetings to me from their vehicles while screamin' my mostly feminine assigned name at birth for the whole world to hear....

Quote from: T.K.G.W. on November 02, 2015, 07:37:42 AM
Just because I like them, fresh places and new faces.

My point exactly, yo! ;)

~Nixy~