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Title: Post op sex question
Post by: allisonmaybe? on November 12, 2015, 10:12:03 PM
Post by: allisonmaybe? on November 12, 2015, 10:12:03 PM
To start off I am a pre op mtf. I get excited when I think about having sex with a guy so Today I decided to try my first vibrator and it did not live up to my expectations, at all! I really didn't feel anything, being pre op there was only one place to put it, so I'm not sure if certain vibrators are vaginal only. It has been making me a little nervous for when I go post op, and decide to have some fun with a guy. I am a worried that I am doomed to just not feel anything. Has anyone had any similar experience and able to shed some light on it?
Title: Re: Post op sex question
Post by: Qrachel on November 13, 2015, 03:53:16 AM
Post by: Qrachel on November 13, 2015, 03:53:16 AM
Your feelings and concerns are normal. The use of vibrators and how you respond is a case by case thing. I assume you tried anal stimulation which is much different than vaginal. You just may not be into anal or your lack of experience maybe didn't allow you to fully enjoy the experience.
Also, it will a few months post-op before you'll really begin to experience vaginal excitement, which by the way requires a very different and holistic body experience to get to climactic levels of excitement. These are things your treatment team will discuss with you, and if not then ask - there's no shame or need for embarrassment for it's about the body and the mind and your treatment professionals should be well prepared to discuss this with you.
Take care and stay in touch,
Rachel
Also, it will a few months post-op before you'll really begin to experience vaginal excitement, which by the way requires a very different and holistic body experience to get to climactic levels of excitement. These are things your treatment team will discuss with you, and if not then ask - there's no shame or need for embarrassment for it's about the body and the mind and your treatment professionals should be well prepared to discuss this with you.
Take care and stay in touch,
Rachel
Title: Re: Post op sex question
Post by: Laura_7 on November 13, 2015, 06:03:07 AM
Post by: Laura_7 on November 13, 2015, 06:03:07 AM
You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,195694.msg1746415.html#msg1746415
and here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,198009.msg1760988.html#msg1760988
Some people use vibrators to stimulate what they refer to as their clit... in a more passive fashion...
fantasies are possible meanwhile...
and there are bent stimulators available for anal play, to stimulate the p-spot... which can be very pleasurable...
use tools for that purpose, with a flange or handle so nothing gets lost in there...
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,195694.msg1746415.html#msg1746415
and here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,198009.msg1760988.html#msg1760988
Some people use vibrators to stimulate what they refer to as their clit... in a more passive fashion...
fantasies are possible meanwhile...
and there are bent stimulators available for anal play, to stimulate the p-spot... which can be very pleasurable...
use tools for that purpose, with a flange or handle so nothing gets lost in there...
Title: Re: Post op sex question
Post by: MugwortPsychonaut on November 13, 2015, 08:09:10 AM
Post by: MugwortPsychonaut on November 13, 2015, 08:09:10 AM
Quote from: Laura_7 on November 13, 2015, 06:03:07 AM
You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,195694.msg1746415.html#msg1746415
and here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,198009.msg1760988.html#msg1760988
Some people use vibrators to stimulate what they refer to as their clit... in a more passive fashion...
fantasies are possible meanwhile...
and there are bent stimulators available for anal play, to stimulate the p-spot... which can be very pleasurable...
use tools for that purpose, with a flange or handle so nothing gets lost in there...
Yes! The flange is very important! Imparative, even! Exit, stage left, even!
Title: Re: Post op sex question
Post by: Sharon Anne McC on November 18, 2015, 08:08:45 PM
Post by: Sharon Anne McC on November 18, 2015, 08:08:45 PM
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I will be G-rated.
You post that you are pre-op. Well then, your current results will be pre-op results, not post-op results.
Now is when it becomes important to study medical science and anatomy and physiology so that you comprehend comparative anatomy. Then you can begin making your informed choice of surgery. GCS / SRS surgeons have their own philosophy and may or may not produce results desirable to you.
Post-op is when you can explore pleasing post-op options. If you really want and need to progress to surgery, then there is nothing of the surgery to be nervous about. The correct surgeon according to your needs and philosophy will produce favourable results for you; this is exciting anticipation.
Your surgeon and team will lead you through your grand tour; take time post-op to explore your new self so that you come to your comfort level with your new equipment. Remember, females grow up as girls, mature through puberty, and develop womanhood through the course of a lifetime. You are seeking to accomplish this same path in a matter of a few short years.
Once you are comfortable with your new anatomy, then you can begin bringing a partner to you. Of course, if you have a current partner who will be staying with you, then they can work with you as you explore your new anatomy.
Sorry, my personal pre-op circumstances provided no comparison of male versus female; someone else will need to post their comparative experiences.
My best organ really is between my ears. I can and do and experience many forms of female excitement with different parts of my anatomy and I am quite satisfied with various directed and over-all body experiences.
Yes, female is a beautifully grand enjoyment!
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I will be G-rated.
You post that you are pre-op. Well then, your current results will be pre-op results, not post-op results.
Now is when it becomes important to study medical science and anatomy and physiology so that you comprehend comparative anatomy. Then you can begin making your informed choice of surgery. GCS / SRS surgeons have their own philosophy and may or may not produce results desirable to you.
Post-op is when you can explore pleasing post-op options. If you really want and need to progress to surgery, then there is nothing of the surgery to be nervous about. The correct surgeon according to your needs and philosophy will produce favourable results for you; this is exciting anticipation.
Your surgeon and team will lead you through your grand tour; take time post-op to explore your new self so that you come to your comfort level with your new equipment. Remember, females grow up as girls, mature through puberty, and develop womanhood through the course of a lifetime. You are seeking to accomplish this same path in a matter of a few short years.
Once you are comfortable with your new anatomy, then you can begin bringing a partner to you. Of course, if you have a current partner who will be staying with you, then they can work with you as you explore your new anatomy.
Sorry, my personal pre-op circumstances provided no comparison of male versus female; someone else will need to post their comparative experiences.
My best organ really is between my ears. I can and do and experience many forms of female excitement with different parts of my anatomy and I am quite satisfied with various directed and over-all body experiences.
Yes, female is a beautifully grand enjoyment!
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