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Hi everyone!

My name is Bobbie.
I'm a 50 year old transsexual living in southern England.
I guess you'd call me a classic case of a woman stuck in a mans body. I've been this way for as long as I can remember.
Apart from dressing up occasionally, I've never tried to transition fully, although I've desperately wanted to many times.
I've never been able to talk about this to anyone before so I'm finding this very tough, as I've always been a very private and extremely shy person, but I've got this nagging woman inside me beating me up, and she wants out.
I don't know how its going to happen, or where it will end up, but I'm hoping that finally getting things out in the open and just talking about it with others will make things clearer for me and get rid of the confusion I've lived with all my life. So here I am!
This really is a giant leap for me, so be gentle, and I hope to hear from all of you soon.

Love Bobbie XXX

Quote from: Bobbie on September 25, 2007, 06:21:28 AM
Hi everyone!

My name is Bobbie.
I'm a 50 year old transsexual living in southern England.
I guess you'd call me a classic case of a woman stuck in a mans body. I've been this way for as long as I can remember.
Apart from dressing up occasionally, I've never tried to transition fully, although I've desperately wanted to many times.
I've never been able to talk about this to anyone before so I'm finding this very tough, as I've always been a very private and extremely shy person, but I've got this nagging woman inside me beating me up, and she wants out.
I don't know how its going to happen, or where it will end up, but I'm hoping that finally getting things out in the open and just talking about it with others will make things clearer for me and get rid of the confusion I've lived with all my life. So here I am!
This really is a giant leap for me, so be gentle, and I hope to hear from all of you soon.

Love Bobbie XXX

Welcome to Susan's Bobbie, it's great to have you here, and the first thing that you can do is relax and enjoy your stay with us as you are among friends.  Many here have gone through or are going through the same issues you yourself are coming to grips with, and it takes a lot of courage to take that first step as you have done, congratulations.

Don't be afraid to participate where you can, as Susan's thrives on different points of view and perspectives.  Susan's has members from all over the world so you never need to feel that you are alone.  Ask questions, explore the site and check out the other areas that Susan's offers such as the Chat area and the Wiki, and here in the forums.  Be sureto read the rules that govern the site and if you have any question please ask any of the staff and they will be only too pleased to answer.

You will find that we are a pretty divers group, coming from all kinds of backgrounds, life experiences, social settings etc. so I'm sure that you will fit in.

Again welcome to Susan's, I hope you enjoy your stay.

Steph

Welcome to the forum, Bobbie.

Gennee

:)

Greetings and Welcome Bobbie

you came to a very good place to start talking to others about your feelings I am sure you will have a great time here as there are many caring people who will answer any questions as best they can!

Hi Bobbie and welcome! Susan's is a great site for communicating with others as you ponder transition

Hi everyone!

Thank you all for making me feel so welcome.
You cant begin to imagine what this means to me.
Now I know I have friends out there, I suddenly don't feel so lonely anymore   :D

Big hugs to all of you  :-*

Bobbie XXX

 :) WELCOME TO SUSAN'S BOBBIE!!! I have found a wealth of info here. I'm a newbie too, 37 y/o and just starting down this road!!! Hope to hear more from you soon.

Hi Bobbie, Welcome!!

I was two weeks shy of my 50th birthday when I had my epiphany and knew that changes would have to come.  And I was scared to death.

I'm OK now, as a matter of fact, I went full time 4 weeks after my 52nd birthday.

I'm happy to make your acquaintance and hope we'll be reading more posts from you real soon.

Hugs & Smiles
Emelye

Hello and welcome Bobby

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Bobbie, glad you found us here.  I look forward to getting to know you better.  And BTW, you are not even close to our oldest member.

Welcome!

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Hi! Me again :)

I've only been here one day, but after reading all your wonderful replies, I feel so much better in myself already.
I actually woke up feeling happy...OMG!!!
My partner wondered what was wrong. She must think I'm on the funny pills again.
All I have to figure out now is how to break the news to her.....hmmm.....could take a while. Any ideas?
Anyway, thank you again so much, and hopefully I'll speak to you all soon :)

Love Bobbie XXX

Hello Bobbie and welcome to Susan's!

Thanks so much for your introduction. Please take a few moments to get familiar with all the boards of the site, review the site rules  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)before posting, and take advantage of our many resources such as the wiki (https://www.susans.org/wiki/Main_Page), chat (https://www.susans.org/chat/index.html), and the links listed at the main page. (https://www.susans.org/index.html)  We look forward to your future posts and participation.  Enjoy your stay :)

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Hi Bobbie,

Thanks for your introduction. Welcome to our comunity here.

Alice

Hi Bobbie
Welcome to Susan's pull up a chair hang your hat on the floor and enjoy yourself.

Cindy

Wow that is a lot of great replies, how you doing bobbie, Im 30 in the middlands and came out to my wife 12 months ago and were still together living life and looking forward to starting a family soon. I cant transition but atleast I dont have to live a lie. Youve done well by coming here, so please take your time get to know your way around, chat to people and read thee blogs, there is so much welth of experience in here im sure we can help you. Please enjoy your stay, LUV Lucy

Hi Bobbie and welcome to Susan's.  This is a great place to come and share your feelings & experiences with other girls like yourself.  I hope all goes well on your journey and I hope we get a chance to meet in the chatroom soon :) 

Hugs & kisses,

Monika   

Hi Bobbie, Is your partner like a wife? Or just a relationship? Unless you are really truly close to one another so that if one dropped something on their finger the other one will yell ouch! Kind of closeness, I am afraid that you may be heading right into a mess of hurting, both of you. Now it's going to boil down to being true to your true self, the self within, or continue living a lie as the other self as you were before.

Sincerely

Cindy

Thankyou Cindy.

You have highlighted the one point has been troubling me so much. How do you choose?
I have posted what is really a cry for help in 'Just for us' in the hope that someone who has had to deal with this can help me understand what I need to do.
Please have a look and see if you have anything you can add.
I cant describe how much I have agonized over this and I really am at a loss as to what to do next.

Bobby XXX

Quote from: Bobbie on October 03, 2007, 07:27:33 AM
You have highlighted the one point has been troubling me so much. How do you choose?

IMHO, unfortunately for most transsexuals, the only "choice" seems to be how long we want to TRY and delay the inevitable.

Younger TSs often transition early, as they learn about their options early on and live in a much more tolerant society.

Older TSs... well, we usually have a life established by the time we realize we CAN do something about all this. It then takes time for the NEED to overwhelm the FEARS of losing all that.

But, it nearly ALWAYS does. I've posted before I honestly don't know of a more powerful force than GID. It has no sense of mercy, no compassion, and is absolutely relentless in pressuring us to transition - no matter what the cost.

The sad thing is most people wait until life just has no meaning anymore and they can't go on living another day as a male. They get TIRED. The GID wears them out. And they don't "choose" to transition, it just... happens. All other options and diversions have expired, and the only thing you CAN do is transition, or... end it all.

At least that's how it played out for me, and it seems for many others here as well.

Just the fact that you're here and asking these questions... I feel for you, I really do. It's the start. Once you start looking into yourself, it's very, VERY hard to stop now...

~Kate~

Hi Bobbie
I am way late responding to this post which I had all intentions on following up on it. darn messed up service provider. But I see that Kate has already laid out all the cards and they all point to the same end result.

QuoteThe only thing you CAN do is transition, or... end it all.

Well for me it was a tug of war between turning myself into hamburger against a rock cut with my car. Or just get off my butt and start full time as my real self, made up my mind on that very same day and cleaned house of everything from my prior life and stepped out as the true me. Well maybe I am just lucky or I happened to live in a town filled with nice people I never got a problem in the seven years I been Cindy.

All I can suggest right now is if you have a sufficiently enough of a desire to bring the inner-self into harmony with the outer-self, or even if you decide you can't do it just yet and decide to put it off till later. Eventually the monkey will be on your back once more. You will have to confront the partner about this for both of your own good..
   
Cindy

Hi

Welcome - hope to hear more from you

Jxxx