Susan's Place Transgender Resources

I need some advice, I'm new to this. 

My name is Rylie-Jaxon and I'm starting my transition (Female to Male).

For those who have experience...

How did you tell people?

How did you cope with the abuse you may receive?

What is the hardest things to deal with being Trans?



J. J Knight

Here are some resources that might help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901

and the link here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,194986.msg1737439.html#msg1737439

I'd say take the time you need but keep at it... remember its a step by step process, go the next step...

you might look for some support... a gender therapist... maybe support groups...

there are other young trans people...
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,195129.msg1758946.html#msg1758946

and there is a chat on susans...

well... keep on keeping on...
there are many who have done this and succeeded  :)


hugs

Welcome to Susan's Place. Everybody seems to have a different way of coming out based on what they know about the other person. In my case  I like to do one on one because at the time I came out that was all I could handle at one time. If you know somebody will be receptive, telling them first may provide you with help when you need it.

Most of the time you don't get abuse when you come out because people are in a state of shock and need to think about it. Most of the problems people seem to have start a short time after coming out.

It's important that the people you tell understand that there is no other option for you and that you have thought about this for a very long time. Often like my mother, people think this can be fixed. It can but not in the way they think.

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Thank you both for your advice! I really appreciate it.

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J. J Knight

Telling each person will be different, I think that person-by-person is usually easier than some kind of public service announcement. Start with people who you trust most, who you trust not to tell everyone else (unless you want that???). Some people write a letter if they don't think they can say it out loud.

Personally I told people twice, once just to say it, the second time to say I'm definite about it and am going to start transitioning etc. I did my research so that I could answer questions. People might want to know what you plan on changing, socially or medically - but it's okay to say you haven't decided yet.

I'm also putting together info from the health services etc as a resource so that i don't have to explain the formal procedure of accessing treatment myself - there are also useful glossaries of terms etc if you look for leaflets and PDFs from gender identity clinics - you can usually find them via google even if you aren't a patient at the specific clinic.

As for abuse... if you're talking about the more violent end of the scale, make sure you have a support system in place if you think you might be in danger. Don't throw yourself into the deep end :(