Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Though I'm not physically transitioning, I've chosen that as I work things out on the inside, I'll gradually come out to the people who I feel are most trustworthy.  So far, it's been two for two on positive feedback.  Additionally, I was a little shocked when BOTH came out to me in response, one a closet crossdresser and the other personally identifying as gender neutral but edging closer to female (not his exact wording, but that pretty much sums it up).  Both I've known to be pretty cool guys with masculine personalities who apparently had such strong fronts up that I didn't see it.  Of course, I met their own confessions with the same kindness and acceptance with which they met my own.
I'm coming to see that my personal discovery has seemed to have caused a chain reaction of sorts among those I've told.  Truth between friends, I'm realizing, is the best form of friendship.  I know that this wont be the case for every person I speak to and I understand I may be abandoned by some.  But for right now, I'm feeling better than I have in a while.  Not only have I gotten so much stress off my chest, but I've managed to get my closest friends to do so as well and learn more about their own true selves while doing so.  :angel:

That's great that you have found kindred souls.

I realised that I covered my desires, despite shaped eyebrows and lots of other little traits, to complete shock folks, especially a close transgendered friend... which really surprised me.

As you unfold to more people the less difficult and the more confidence building it becomes.

For now (till after Xmas) I have promised my wife to keep a lid on it...

Great news though

L Katy xxx

Quote from: Morgan-Kate on December 02, 2015, 05:45:03 AM
Though I'm not physically transitioning, I've chosen that as I work things out on the inside, I'll gradually come out to the people who I feel are most trustworthy.  So far, it's been two for two on positive feedback.  Additionally, I was a little shocked when BOTH came out to me in response, one a closet crossdresser and the other personally identifying as gender neutral but edging closer to female (not his exact wording, but that pretty much sums it up).  Both I've known to be pretty cool guys with masculine personalities who apparently had such strong fronts up that I didn't see it.  Of course, I met their own confessions with the same kindness and acceptance with which they met my own.
I'm coming to see that my personal discovery has seemed to have caused a chain reaction of sorts among those I've told.  Truth between friends, I'm realizing, is the best form of friendship.  I know that this wont be the case for every person I speak to and I understand I may be abandoned by some.  But for right now, I'm feeling better than I have in a while.  Not only have I gotten so much stress off my chest, but I've managed to get my closest friends to do so as well and learn more about their own true selves while doing so.  :angel:

"Truth between friends, I'm realizing, is the best form of friendship."

I really really like this. You're so right!

I'm in the same position now. I've only fully told two people and both were supportive.

I've kind of "half-told" a few others at various points. By this I mean that I've told them that I'm non-binary/queer/questioning in regards to my gender. I've found this much easier than to straightforwardly say that I'm transgender, though I'm not sure this has been helpful ultimately. People have long known me not to be masculine at all so I think this is pretty straightforward for people who know me to accept.

But now I'm ready to just directly come out. Of the two people I'm fully out to, one of them is a best friend that I told about my non-binary/queer gender identity years ago. The other is a very recent friend in my same profession that I just knew I could trust (and I've been very right about that!) who has been the most amazing and supportive person.

So far I've had one negative reaction. Interestingly, it was only to telling the person that I've questioned my gender. I got no further than that before things going badly. It sucks. I feel like the extremely positive reactions really do outweigh the awful ones though. It is hard, of course, to face a terrible reaction from someone who you thought was a friend. Maybe they'll come around, maybe they won't. But it's a bit shocking to see a friend react that way.

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I just told two more people tonight, both fairly good friends. Both went really well. I feel like this does get easier as you tell more people.